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We get angry when our needs aren't met, and we get angry when our emotions are stimulated.
Anger will not only bring bad emotions, but also cause unnecessary losses, and even affect people's lives.
Therefore, there are three kinds of anger not to be born -
Not angry with others, not angry with yourself, not angry with fate.
Don't be angry with others
Uncle Qiu Ye once shared an experience of being black and pink on Weibo.
Once, he shared it in the live broadcast room of Fan Deng's reading, when 60,000 people watched it online. While he was engaged, there was a lot of noise in the comments section.
It turned out that someone scolded him in the comment area for being slurred, and people who knew him well were very angry when they saw the comments, so they defended themselves with the other party.
He naturally saw these curse words, but he was not angry. On the contrary, I was worried that everyone was busy arguing and did not have time to listen to him, which would affect the order.
At the critical moment, he thought of the conflicting suspense method of writing that he had talked about during the previous live broadcast, so he said, "Listening to the uncle's live broadcast, I was surprised, I didn't think that his Mandarin was not very good, but when I continued to listen, I found that he had dry goods." ”
Then, he used several dry goods implanted into his Mandarin stem in a row.
Unexpectedly, the effect was unexpectedly good, and the comment area changed from scolding at the beginning to praise, not only that, but also many people ordered his class.
After the live broadcast, the partner has been praising him for speaking well, not only sharing a large number of dry goods, but also making black powder shut up.
Anger with others consumes time and energy, and will also cause unnecessary losses.
Smart people don't care to be angry with others, because they know what they need, face the unkindness of others, know how to tolerate, and know how to use strength to shut up the other party.
Don't get mad at yourself
Friend Xiao Li has a two-year-old daughter, which is the age that dogs hate. I have to eat my own food, like to cook on the ground, climb stairs, play with water. She likes what adults object to.
Although his life is stirred up by his daughter, Xiao Li will still take time to read books and write articles. She felt that such days were fulfilling, and every day was full of joy.
But many things in life always backfire.
Once, Xiao Li put her daughter to sleep, thinking that there were still clothes in the washing machine, so she asked her husband to help dry the clothes.
After the husband answered, he bowed his head and continued to play the game. An hour passed, and my husband was still playing games.
In the end, it was Xiao Li who dried the clothes himself.
Later, Xiao Li told me that sometimes I would be very angry, angry at why I wanted to get married, why I wanted to have children, and why I had to work hard to live. Therefore, she chose to give up her efforts and live her life in a muddy state.
There is a saying in the Yokomichi Seinosuke,
"Man is angry because he asks for something from others. When you can't ask for it, when your hopes are disappointed, it turns into anger. It is said that desires and desires are all external mundane things, and anger is of no use at all, but it will only make us lose our just and fair judgment. ”
And angry with yourself, the last thing that hurts you is yourself, and the gain is not worth the loss.
In the face of unpleasant people and things, we must actively communicate with others, but also communicate with ourselves, find out where the problem lies, and solve the current problem in time, do not get angry with yourself.
Smart people will not be swayed by anything, but will escape from attachment and face everything with positive patience.
Not angry at fate
See a very inspirational story.
When Li Zhide was 5 years old, he had a high fever and mishandled it, which caused him to have difficulty walking on all fours, and he could only rely on a wheelchair on weekdays, and he could not speak clearly.
The accident caught him off guard, but he did not give up on himself because of his physical defects.
Instead, he accepted fate's arrangement.
At the age of 12, after consulting with his family, he walked into the school for the first time and achieved good results in the top three of his class.
At the age of 20, he was successfully admitted to high school.
However, due to his special physical condition, the school advised him to withdraw from school on the grounds that he was worried that he would have an accident.
Even so, he did not complain about the unfairness of fate and was still trying to find opportunities for change.
Once, he saw that the author of "Life Has No Limits" Nick Hu Zhe, although he has incomplete limbs, is a world-famous speaker. That gave him a lot of hope.
So he decided to be an inspiring speaker.
In order to practice speaking, he asked his mother to buy a Xinhua dictionary and read it from the first word to the last word every day, reading it at least 5 times a day.
In order to be able to stand, he asked his father to buy a sponge pad, spread it on the floor, practiced continuously in the room, fell down and stood up, and insisted on it for 6 hours a day.
In order to practice his presentation skills, he kept practicing in front of the mirror.
In order to make a good video, he would shoot it dozens of times and spend half a day or a day editing it.
Finally, his efforts paid off, and a speaking body threw an olive branch at him. What is even more surprising is that his story touched a girl who was willing to work hard with him.
Sometimes, fate always likes to joke with us, and if you get angry with it and give up on yourself, then you lose.
Being angry with fate will neither change the facts nor get any mercy, but will only make the situation worse.
Smart people, will not be angry with fate, they will use self-improvement to arm themselves, with ability as a spear, fiercely stabbed at fate.
I am destined by heaven, I can accept fate, but I cannot compromise the arrangement of fate; I bravely accept the challenge of fate and fight back against fate's arrangement with my efforts.
Wu Tanru once said, "Everyone will be angry, even if they are very good-tempered people, when they encounter things that make him uncomfortable, they will most likely curse in their hearts."
But some people are just well cultivated and will not let you hear his curse, because he knows that after the anger attack, it may produce a momentary sense of pleasure, but the side effects after that often take a lot of effort to clean up. ”
Indeed, a moment of anger and a moment of coolness, in the end can only clean up the mess. Instead of that, be smart and not get angry.
Only by not being angry with others and knowing how to tolerate it can we succeed.
Only by not being angry with oneself and knowing how not to be calculating can one be satisfied.
Do not be angry with fate, know how to work hard, in order to become a better self.
May you and I be less angry and live happily.
About author:Mu Yi, multi-platform contracted author