Recently, Taiwanese actress Li Yanjin constantly cried and told her own life during the live broadcast, which attracted many people to watch.
Li Yanjin cried in the live broadcast: she was born into a rich family and could have enjoyed glory and wealth. But because his parents divorced, he became an orphan. She said that after she was abandoned, she was often bullied, not only without the care and affection of her parents, but also sexually assaulted by relatives...
The news about sexual assault never seems to stop.
Liu Jialing, Lan Jieying, Lin Yihan, writers Chunshu, Shirley, Lady Gaga...
If you're going to say what the names of this long list of celebrities have in common: they're all victims of "sexual assault."
What exploded was only the tip of the iceberg, and how many were not exploded?
What can we do to protect ourselves and those we love?
After constantly searching for information, I finally discovered 4 disturbing truths. They are so shocking that people are reluctant to believe and accept them.
But knowing these can help victims not be harmed twice and can protect us and our loved ones!!!
So next, please be patient, because sexual assault is through your ignorance of the truth and unscrupulous evil.
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After Lan Jieying's death, "In the past, Liu Jialing couldn't go over it was Lan Jieying" was actually on Weibo hot search?!
Those who say this probably know very little about atrocities, about trauma, about the effects that trauma can have on a person's psychophysiology.
Traumatic events such as rape are special, and what is special about it is that it completely breaks down our original perception of the world of the self.
Rape can have a devastating impact on the mental health of victims. When a person has experienced the most extreme helplessness and fear that a person can experience, whose life is threatened, whose body is physically abused, and who cannot protect themselves, how do you convince her that she is safe and that others can believe it?
Nearly 1 in 3 (31%) of rape victims suffer from rape-related post-traumatic stress disorder. On average, one in five rape victims (19.2 percent) attempt suicide after rape.
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Rape survivors generally feel that they have been completely changed, no longer who they were, and do not even feel that they can be called a person.
Recent scientific studies have also found that people who have experienced long-term trauma not only have changes in hormone levels, but also abnormalities in the amygdala and hippocampus, in other words, the trauma not only makes the victim mentally distressed, but also makes his body pathological.
Many rape survivors suffer from Rape-related Post-traumatic Stress Disorder.
People who are troubled by PTSD will always be in a state of intense fear and anger, and their ability to regulate emotions and physiology will fall into abnormalities.
Many of them will have insomnia, anxiety, irritability, nausea, repeated nightmares, dissociation, numbness, psychogenic amnesia, as well as self-harm, suicide and other symptoms of physical and mental disorders.
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A reader once told me about his experience:
In my childhood, we had a 'million-charmed' uncle in our compound, and everyone in the small place spoke a dialect, but he insisted on speaking Mandarin. He runs a small supermarket, and the adults and children in the yard like to sit with him. I stayed there from morning to night with another girl in the yard, playing chess with him and learning guitar.
One day, I was sitting at his desk reading a magazine, and he said he was going to pee and he wouldn't let me read it. After a while he came over and picked up my left hand, and I had been reading very intently and did not look back. At this time I suddenly felt that I felt a slippery thing, I was startled and immediately turned my head to look, he hurriedly closed his hand and lifted his pants.
Another day, this uncle asked me and the girl if we could bend down and touch our feet, and we both tried and failed.
The uncle said he could hold us from behind, he hugged the girl first, and after doing a few times, the girl said with a strange expression that she didn't want to try. I said I'm coming, and he held me from behind, and I bent down and felt something in the back against my ass.
It was also from that day that I began to doubt this man, to reject him, to be afraid of him, to feel that something was wrong and wrong.
Many of these things that happened in my childhood were only later figured out by myself.
A lot of people think that sexual assault is something that can be seen, but the truth is, you can't identify who is sexually assaulted. Because most of them seem friendly and normal, not aggressive at all.
Whether in victim testimony or in the observations of psychologists, the most common characteristic of perpetrators is that they "look very normal."
Thought incredible? If you look back at history, you look at the Nazis who slaughtered Jews, what they have in common, the most universal characteristics you can find, is also normal.
After the philosopher Hannah Arendt observed the trial of the Nazi Party member Eichmann at the scene, she found that Eichmann was "neither sinister nor vicious."
In fact, more than half a dozen psychologists have tested Eichmann psychologically and have not detected any problems.
We tend to think of sexual assault as the most vicious unemployed vagrants haunting the night.
The truth is that sexual assault comes from all walks of life, from all races, from all professions, such as doctors, police officers, priests, social workers, entrepreneurs.
Remember when a 19-year-old girl jumped from the 8th floor of a department store building because of her teacher's obscenity?
The indictment letter she left behind tells the 6 culprits who forced her to a tall building:
One is the class teacher who attempted to sexually assault her;
The second is not only not to help, not only not to heal, but also to call the perpetrators to confront each other, causing secondary harm to the psychological counseling teacher;
The third is the court judgment that "Wu Yonghou's above-mentioned acts are obviously minor and do not constitute a crime";
Fourth, depression caused by grievances that cannot be complained about and anger that cannot be resolved;
Fifth, the classmates who isolated and discriminated against her;
Sixth, the school's position is "big things, but there are no bad results, and it is a big deal."
In her letter of complaint, there is a shocking sentence:
"In the eyes of my classmates, I became a strangely ill person and suffered from dislike everywhere. And the class teacher who violated me became a poor person. ”
Obviously, they are victims, but most of the bystanders are on the side of their own interests.
In the words of the writer Cai Yiwen, "Any violence about sex is 'social', not done by the perpetrator independently, but by society as a whole." ”
Many people will feel that sexual assault is a crime of passion, which is uncontrollable for a while. Every time a sexual assault occurs, someone always jumps out and accuses the victim:
"Say let you wear so little."
"Who made you dress like this?"
"You wear so little, isn't that what you're out to seduce men?"
"You dress so messily, of course, it is easy to make men impulsive."
But the truth is that rape is a violent crime, not out of passion. And the vast majority of rapes are orchestrated. Rapists often commit rape again and again in the same area in the same way.
The American scholar Jeff did a study - in a hunting rape case, how does the rapist choose the target?
It turned out that the rapist's choice of perpetrator was not very sexy and revealing.
Rather, it is "people who seem easy to control":
● People who walk slowly
● People who are not confident
● People who are dejected and have no spirit
● People who dare not look at each other and dodge
● People who are very weak in temperament
The primary characteristics of the rapist's selection of targets,
is the victim's weak personality, that is, "Easy prey",
And not whether you're dressed revealingly or conservatively.
Therefore, the criminal statement caused by men after being sexually aroused is deceptive.
What the rapist says is that he can't control himself, it's just that he doesn't want to control himself, it's just that he wants to make excuses to intentionally hurt you.
I can't pretend that there is no sexual assault in this world.
I can't pretend not to know that the perpetrators are still alive in disguise.
What can I do? As a writer, all I can do is write.
Only by having enough knowledge and knowing how reality works and logic can we effectively protect us and the people we love.
Let's stop being accomplices to the perpetrators because of ignorance!
Stop taking it for granted that danger should happen to someone else!
I'm done with my stick, and now it's up to you.
Please relay the stick and let more people know the truth.
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