One
Once, there was such a helper in my consulting room.
She and her husband always quarrel over small things and constantly have conflicts.
If two people are at home at the same time, the home becomes the scene of disaster.
Things are dropped, children are crying, doors are slammed shut, men and women quarrel...
They were complained many times by neighbors around the rental premises, and in order not to affect the other residents, the landlord evicted their family.
Men think she manages herself too much, and she thinks men are too grumpy.
Two people do counseling is discussed and both participate, but because men have been busy at work lately, they need to slow down for a few days.
The woman came first, and as soon as she came, she began to accuse men of always dragging mud and water when they did things.
She complained about men having half an hour and she showed me their chat history.
Her hysteria, her steps pressing in exchange for a few words from the man.
She sends twenty or thirty messages to men, and men will reply with one.
The poor relationship between husband and wife made her feel the temperature of marriage, and even she was desperate several times to want to leave this world.
Two
Seeing the current situation of many couples getting along often leads me to think about why men are increasingly reluctant to talk to women.
Women speak to men and get no response.
Women are not reconciled and will continue to say more, and men begin to resist.
The woman went on to say that men continued to resist sexually, reaching the heights of cold violence.
The woman was desperate and began to be hysterical.
What exactly is blocking the passage for men to respond to women?
Can men bear to watch women's emotional breakdowns?
Actually, men themselves are not like this.
Three
Women and men need to be skillful in getting along.
The following two getting along skills can avoid men's strong resistance to women.
1. "Desire to promote first suppress".
It is usually said to slap a sweet date.
This technique works very well with men.
Where he is not satisfied, he can be criticized, and after the criticism is finished, he will be affirmed on the other side of him.
2. "Dragonfly points water".
Don't preach to men for a long time, that kind of preaching identity is mom, remember that you are the wife.
Point to the end, do not endlessly turn over the old account, that will only lead to a stronger rebellious psychology of men.
Four
Preventing a man from resisting you, your grasp of him also requires you to learn to use nonviolent communication.
The four elements of nonviolent communication: observation, feeling, need, and request.
"I see you've been playing games, I'm not happy, I want you to watch a movie with me, can you stop your game?"
"The home is too dirty, this environment is not comfortable for us to live in, I think if there is a good environment is very comfortable, can you clean up the hygiene?"
No orders, no accusations, no requests, what man would reject a woman's weakness?
The good or bad relationship between husband and wife depends on whether you grasp the man's psychology and then use the right way to get along with him.
And this requires a constant combination of learning and practice.
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