Writing for the sword, writing the heavens and writing the Chinese year; falling chess is the son, and the point of the soldier will point the country.
01
The world looks cold and warm, the face of the people is high and low, and the nobles are poor, which is sad, but it is also the norm in this world.
Seven months ago, there was a letter of thanks for the dissertation from the Chinese Academy of Sciences, because he told the story of his long way from a remote rural area, suffered a lot, and more than 20 years of bumpy study experience, which set off a terrifying wave on the Internet.
Seven months later, the afterword to a doctoral dissertation from more than a decade ago was able to transcend the ten-year-long spiral out of control and once again set off a terrifying wave in the public opinion circle, and the wave of shock was far greater than the last time.
This doctor, named Xiao Qinghe.
In the afterword to his thesis, he reviewed his 22-year-long path of study with a very simple style:
At the age of 7, his mother wanted him to go to the first grade, but because he could not afford to pay the tuition, he could only go to kindergarten first, and wasted a year of precious time.
At the age of 12, the family reluctantly forced him to read to the fifth grade, but the primary examination, can not pay the examination fee, the class teacher ran to the home to do the work, but the family is surrounded by disciples, there is really no money, and finally the class teacher paid for him.
And the reward he gave was: the result ranked second in the township.
Such excellent and eye-catching results did not bring him the slightest joy, but endless pain and torture, because he wanted to break his head and did not know how to make up for the tuition fee.
Ironically, the neighbor's children did not get in, but because they had money, they were able to run to the town happily to study. It was Xiao Qinghe, who was leaning over to do farm work in the field, and at the most ignorant age, he felt the injustice of fate for the first time.
But this is completely incomparable with the "humiliation" suffered by the family.
02
His mother was grumpy and strong, often having conflicts with her neighbors, and because of her father's weak personality, he and his mother were often bullied by outsiders.
What humiliated him the most was that a woman next door, because she was arguing with her mother, took a dung spoon and put it on his head, with the intention of hoping that he would never be obscure and never grow up.
This extremely vicious approach once made him doubt the "inherent goodness of human nature" written in the book.
With this incident as the trigger, the mother finally became unbearable in the day-to-day humiliation, sitting in the doorway crying, touching his head and asking him to take good care of his young brother.
The mother chose to divorce, leaving Xiao Qinghe, who was only 11 years old, and a 6-year-old brother.
But fortunately, his mother did not completely abandon him because of this, but in the face of the prejudice and hatred of the people of the ten miles and eight towns, she stubbornly tried to provide him with her remarried husband to provide him with schooling:
"My mother has told me more than once that she can't die, that she has to endure, that she has to persevere, that she wants to keep me in school, that she wants her two children to live well."
As the saying goes, the hard work of people is not worthy, who can think that this poor boy who was once looked down upon by people in various ways was later admitted to Peking University, the top school in China.
The fate of the family changed drastically from the moment he stepped into the door of Peking University.
The news spread back to the remote mountain village, and the villagers were first overwhelmed, and then, as if they had "lost their memory", they changed into a pleasant face and gave him gifts to his family one after another, and they wanted to send him to school.
The hostility and hatred of the previous meetings have completely disappeared, and he will enthusiastically ask him to go to his home for dinner, which makes Xiao Qinghe feel particularly ironic, because before he was admitted to Peking University, he had never had the honor of being able to eat a meal at someone else's house.
In addition, there are families in the county who are willing to unconditionally support him to study, and the class teacher and the school have finally learned about his situation and often help and fund his family.
It was also that year that his home was finally connected to electricity, and there was no need to use kerosene lamps.
Xiao Qinghe's path of study did not stop at Peking University, all the way to the doctorate, and now he is an associate professor of the Department of History of Shanghai University, and has published countless papers in academic journals at home and abroad.
You see, through his story, he once again confirmed the eternal truth that "knowledge changes destiny", there was no light in his life, but he lived himself into a dazzling light.
He was born in the quagmire, he could have complained about his life, he could have been forced to scribble through this life, but he always had the tenacity to refuse to lose, but he wanted to read the book, and then go out completely, so that people could really look at it.
This is not a wasted life, this is worthy of the humiliation that has been suffered.
From The experience of Xiao Qinghe and Professor Xiao, it is not difficult to find such a cruel human truth:
When you are weak, the bad guys are the most, the most likely to be bullied, and the human feelings are cold; when you are strong, the good guys are the most, and the whole world will be happy with you and warm.
It sounds utilitarian and cruel, but it is a law that countless people have been silently following.
03
There is a video blogger who once said such a thing:
When he was a child, his family was poor, that year the school started, the tuition fee was 170 yuan, his family could not get it, his father wanted him to study from the bottom of his heart, and took him to borrow from relatives and friends.
But because the family is surrounded by disciples, these relatives are poor, even if the 170 yuan is harmless to them, none of them are willing to lend him.
Not only that, they killed people and cursed hearts, not only unwilling to borrow, but all kinds of ridicule fell, and the self-esteem of the father and son was smashed to the ground.
Later, he completed his studies with his own efforts, and the tenacity of not recognizing his life helped him to fly with the trend, and after graduation, he seized the opportunity, and his income rose all the way, and he was able to completely change his life against the sky.
Similar plots are staged again, and the relatives who used to be cold-spoken are now changing their faces to curry favor, and the ultimate purpose is to borrow money.
But the humiliation of the past, he still remembered the sound of his self-esteem being completely broken that day, and he had long since stopped treating these people as relatives, and only felt that this scene was ridiculous and ironic.
When you are weak, anyone can step on you, because there is no price, and when you become strong, those who stepped on you have long been far away from you, and your strength and circle level are far higher than them.
Therefore, even if they are reluctant in their hearts, they must force themselves to smile and greet each other, for fear that you will remember the unbearable old days, and that price, now they simply can't afford it.
When you are good enough, you will find that you are surrounded by good people, which is a social reality and the norm in the world.
So, don't lie in the warm water to live a bad day, within the scope of your own ability, you can climb up more and climb up again, you can save more money, take advantage of the fact that the years are still early, take advantage of the time is not old.
Stay away from the circle level of all the bad guys, and the farther away the better.