Nowadays, with the increasingly serious phenomenon of "more men and fewer women" in the countryside, the phenomenon of difficulty in marrying wives has also begun to appear, in the author's hometown, there are now more than a hundred people in the village who have not married a daughter-in-law, because in the past many families had the idea of "preferring sons over daughters", which led to the "single stick" crisis in the village now, and many people in the village are thirty or more, and now they have not married a daughter-in-law.
Of course, the situation in the families of these young men who do not marry a daughter-in-law is also average, many of them cannot marry a daughter-in-law because they have no money, and some people face difficulties in marriage because they are lazy and lazy, and have bad habits. But in any case, marriage and family is a big thing, parents will not sit idly by, some parents are still trying to make money after getting old, earn money to improve the living conditions of the family as soon as possible, let the son complete the marriage, and he can also enjoy his old age.
Nowadays, the problem of "more men and fewer women" in rural areas can not be changed, and perhaps it is not until the current 00 generation grows up to break the imbalance phenomenon, so these people want to start a family can only make themselves better and richer, so that they can not worry about finding a daughter-in-law.
In recent years, a new problem has emerged in the village, and the amount of the dowry has become higher and higher, from thousands to tens of thousands in the past, to 100,000, and even some villagers have married their daughters-in-law, spending nearly 200,000 this year. If the other party asks to buy a house, then the cost of marriage will be higher, and the money for the down payment will be two or three hundred thousand, so that a single young man who wants to get married must save enough for four or five hundred thousand, otherwise it is very difficult to marry a wife.
According to the author's local customs, now the dowry of the married daughter is at least 100,000 yuan, more than 168,000, in addition to the bride price, the young men who have a house at home also have to buy "three gold", set up a banquet, although the gift of human feelings can recover a lot of money, but a wine banquet still has to be posted money, less than 20,000, more than 40,000 or 50,000, and the cost of the banquet is also determined according to the number of people. According to the average, young men with houses in the village spend at least hundreds of thousands of dollars to get married.
Of course, this is only the cost of not buying a house, if the man does not have a house, then the married woman will also make a request, buy a commercial house in the county, according to the author's local house price, a 100 square house in the county town is also seven or eight hundred thousand, the down payment of 30%, then also more than two hundred thousand, so calculated, no house of young men to marry at least four hundred thousand. For an ordinary rural family, it will take at least more than ten years to save up enough money, pay off the mortgage after the down payment, and the pressure of life will increase.
And after the author's in-depth understanding, these years, after the cost of marriage in the village has increased, some single young men now have ideas, because the family conditions are too poor, feel that there is no hope of getting off the list, under the pressure of reality, some single villagers have the idea of "not marrying", and gradually in the village also rose the trend of not buying a house, not getting married, preferring to be alone, not willing to go on a blind date, parents are also helpless, no matter how to persuade, the son is also indifferent, some single young men are forced by their parents to be anxious Now I haven't been home for many years.
Of course, the cost of marriage will increase, mainly because of the current countryside, the cost of parenting has also increased, parents work hard to raise their daughters to adulthood, but also hope to give their children some more protection, ask each other to buy a house, pay the dowry also hope that the other party can treat their daughter well, when getting married, the returned dowry will also be partly returned to the in-laws, and even some parents will prepare a lot of dowry things when marrying their daughters, such as; cars, gold and so on.
In short, marriage must give each other security, but also let each other have a sense of security, there is a car and a house is the best, no car and no house such a life will be very painful, now there are many young couples will divorce because life is forced, life is too hard, the family's contradictions can only end in divorce after escalation.
Coupled with the current people so realistic, the priority of finding a partner is how the conditions of the other party, if there is no house and no car, the girlfriend will also re-choose, find a person with better conditions to start a family, this situation we must also understand, if their own conditions are not good, you must take advantage of the current young, try to save money, strive to complete the marriage as soon as possible, do not delay, in the future with the increase of age, want to marry a daughter-in-law will be more and more difficult.
So the vast number of peasant friends! How much does it cost to get married in your village now? Let's talk!