There was a scholar in the Qing Dynasty named Jiang Tan, and his wife planted several plantains in the yard, and the plantains grew very well, and the leaves were very large, covering a shade. On a sunny day in summer, you can protect against the sun, but if it rains, the rain hits the leaves of the plantain, it will make a ticking sound, and the noisy Jiang Tan cannot sleep. He was very angry and wrote with a stroke of his pen: "Who grows plantains with a lot of things?" Early is also Xiaoxiao, late is also Xiaoxiao. His wife saw this, and without hesitation, he continued: "It is Jun who is too bored, planting plantains, and complaining about plantains." ”
Basho was planted early, if Jiang Tan didn't like it, he could not let his wife plant it, so why not stop it at that time? Since it was not stopped, and the plantain grew taller, why was it tired of the sound of the rain hitting the plantain?
Rain hits plantains
This is a very philosophical little story that reflects a very common phenomenon in our lives. When I was carefully selected to find a life partner, now how to see how to feel so ugly, do not do housework delicious lazy to do, mobile phone does not leave the hand, smoking and drinking problems, in short, all kinds of unpleasant dislikes. So I began to be distressed, painful, and lamented whether I was blind or not, how could I look at him (it)! The love of the past has become the resentment of today, why?
My husband was too angry to think about it
I worked hard to get into the weaving work of public institutions, and my income has increased and my work has become more stable. But when you really do it, you find that there are a lot of bad things. For example, the place is too far away, the work is too tired, the interpersonal relationship is too complicated, the leadership is too strict, and often overtime, the elderly and children have no time to manage... It was completely different from what he had imagined, so he had a terrible headache, was extremely troubled, and began to miss the work that he had earned little money but was comfortable in the past, and wanted to get out of the current predicament. As everyone knows, even if you jump out of the current predicament, you will soon enter another dilemma. If he does not reflect on himself and find the cause from himself, then he will fall into a vicious circle and will not be able to get out.
It's hard work and I don't want to do it
Each of us has dreams, but reality and dreams are always very different, and once they cannot be satisfied, they will have a lot of resentment and make themselves miserable.
The life you are living now is different from what you dreamed of, it was all caused by your own choices, planting plantains and complaining about plantains. Of course, if you don't grow plantains, you won't complain about plantains. If you don't make a choice, you won't regret your original choice.
But even if you don't plant plantains, you may grow bananas, plant peppers, and if you don't change yourself, you will always resent all kinds of bananas.
Basho is actually quite beautiful
Therefore, it is better to calm down, and if it comes, it will be safe. If it wasn't good, you wouldn't have tried so hard to do it. If this person was useless, you wouldn't have chosen him.
Love life
Instead of complaining. It is better to do what you like, like what you do, look at the things around you with an appreciative eye, and evaluate the people around you with a grateful eye, so that maybe you will have less troubles and complaints, and more happiness and happiness.