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Excellence is a habit, perfection is not a template. At the same time, it is also related to the true feelings and evaluations in people's hearts.
In the forty-ninth episode of "Dream of the Red Chamber", the twelve golden noodles gathered together, and the Grand View Garden was unprecedentedly lively and eye-catching.
It is all everyone's show, and the behavior is decent, but it is not so much that right and wrong will also increase, but in the end, the comparison between people will arise spontaneously. Even if you just stand together and enter the same picture, it is inevitable that there will be natural contrasts and gaps.
Baochao, who has always been thoughtful and blameless, fell in front of Baoqin. Even the raiders knew that everyone said that The sister of The Great Girl Xue was better. Moreover, Tanchun, the third girl who has always had a proud bone, also expressed her affirmation, saying that according to her opinion, not only among those girls who came, none of them were comparable to Baoqin, but even Baochao was not comparable.
The praise behind these is definitely not the words deliberately released by the little girls who are secretly dissatisfied with Baochao. Because, even the old lady is particularly fond of Baoqin. Of course, if the conspiracy theory is a point, it can be said that she inquired whether Baoqin had a suitable family, which implied that Baochao, who had lived in Jia Province for a long time, was not the ideal candidate for Bao'er's grandmother in her mind, but the old lady's love for Baoqin was not adulterated.
The old lady asked Madame Wang to recognize Baoqin as a dry daughter, and then let Baoqin sleep with her. Such treatment, only Bao Yu and Dai Yu have ever had, even though Bao Chao has been politely praised by the old lady, but this kind of substantial and joyful emotional outpouring has never been seen before.
Who let Baochao develop a "sisterly taste" from childhood? She naturally carries an aura that reminds others to keep a safe distance.
Just look at the old lady's favorite Sister Feng, so bright and cheerful, so sophisticated and thoughtful, nourishing eyes and heart, how can Baochao win the old man's sincere love.
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The old lady likes girls with outstanding and true temperament, so even if Dai Yu is not her granddaughter, she can still win her heart.
No one likes people who let hot tea cool down, and Baochao is such a character.
Wherever Baochao goes, it is an aura that makes people calm down, but life should be alive and fragrant, live comfortably, and be free, which is the desire of most people's hearts. Therefore, a pedantic knowledgeable woman like Sister Bao is impatient with communication.
People first know each other, or for rational social needs, or by feelings, by will, but to be able to deal with for a long time, in the end, they still need to be sincere to maintain.
In other words, at first, whether it is true or false, they have been in contact with each other for a long time, and they have paid more, especially the party that pays a little more, and inevitably hopes to get some reciprocal friendship. If the so-called hypocrisy and false enthusiasm can be maintained for ten years and eight years, if it is pretended for a long time, it will be difficult for others to be true to oneself.
But Sister Bao is an exception, she is a piece of jade that is not hot. Round, beautiful, no edges, but just from the inside out, as cold as ever.
She wasn't cold, but there was no temperature. See each other every day, chat a few words at will, it is enough, if you get along day and night, such a character can be more unbearable than always being warm.
No matter how false a person has, after all, he is also a creature with temperature, and what he desires in his heart is only a trace of real emotional temperature after all.
Even if Baochao is thoughtful, even if it is appropriate, even if it is blameless, but after a long time together, there is no feeling of temperature, which will make people feel uncomfortable. And her temperament, and she can't fault anything, it's been going on for a long time, which makes people even more maddening.
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Baochao is a person with alienated attributes, naturally cold, but Baoqin is hot with attributes and has its own warm temperament. Coupled with beauty, decency, and knowledge, how not to make people like.
"Dream of the Red Chamber" said that Baoqin is young and warm-hearted, and intelligent in nature, reading and literacy since childhood, just the heart is warm, it is enough to make people get along comfortably, coupled with the good temperament nourished by knowledge and knowledge, at least let people at first meet, they feel that she is more lively and interesting than Baochao, more open and open than Daiyu, more stable and decent than Xiangyun, how can you not praise.
The fifty-first time in "Dream of the Red Chamber", "Xue Xiaomei's New Compilation of Nostalgic Poems", shows that the pattern of Baoqin is different.
Since she was a child, unlike Dai Yu, Tan Chun and others who were confined to the boudoir, she had the privilege of traveling through the north and south of the great river, and the insight she gained from traveling thousands of miles was naturally very different from reading only ten thousand books.
This time, Baoqin made ten nostalgic poems with the theme of the monuments in the provinces where Su Xi passed, which amazed the Grand View Garden and attracted everyone to look at it.
The first huaigu poem written by Baoqin is "Chibi Huaigu": "Chibi buried in the water and does not flow, leaving his name and surname in vain to carry an empty boat." The hustle and bustle of Khotan is sad and cold, and the infinite heroic soul swims inside. "This pattern of temperament is far beyond ordinary boudoir poetry, and her travel experience is also comparable to that of ordinary boudoir women."
Her extensive experience of natural scenery has shaped her temperament pattern and also shaped the temperature of her inner view of life. Also in the face of the irreversible decay of the family, compared with Baoqin's frankness and openness, Baochao's coldness and powerlessness are even more vain and desperate, making people reluctant to get close.
No matter what kind of life you face, the desire to survive is the instinctive nature of people. Xiangyun's cuteness lies in the fact that there are many unsatisfactory things, but she only thinks of the happy side.
And Baochao's boredom also lies in the fact that she is always like preparing for the worst for tomorrow. Although it is long-term, it is really boring to the point of being boring.
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Obviously, it is not yet, but Baochao has to arrange the house like a snow cave; obviously she is still young, but she has to live a more mature mentality than an adult. Such a person still let others have hope?
Xiang Yun respected her like that and clinged to her, and later, a passion for blood eventually faded. It is not that Baochao is doing something wrong, but her life, invisibly causing too much despair to the people around her, and cooling her hot heart.
Without Baoqin, the discomfort given by Baoqin is not so obvious, with Baoqin, the contrast suddenly becomes clear - obvious people's hearts can have temperature; obvious life can be interesting and vibrant.
If you say that life is not satisfactory, it is a pretext for being inferior. If you compare it downwards, no matter how decaying your life is, you can find a lot of examples of the bottom. Therefore, the forward-looking thinking of Baochao just seems to be fine.
Life should be self-consistent and comfortable, the material basis is on the one hand, and the psychological energy is on the other. The so-called ideal life is to look up at the stars while being down-to-earth, the two are not incompatible, and the inner realm is not entirely determined by matter.
Without the open distance of the overhead side, no matter how solid the foot is, it is inevitable that people will be bored and hopeless.
Focusing on the attack of the acre and three points of land in front of her all day is a typical example of down-to-earth management of life, but no matter how diligent she is, what she gets is only Baoyu's dependence on her old mother. To say that into the heart, it is not as good as the usual wayward and habitual lazy Qingwen, at least Qingwen, so enthusiastic and wanton to live.
Bao Chao seems to have knowledge, a realm, and the ability to live an interesting life, but she has hardened her life into a high-quality version of the attacker, although it seems that she does not care and fight so much about the attacker.
Therefore, without waiting for anyone to convene, he took the initiative to compose ten ancient poems of Baoqin, which seemed so vibrant, open and lovely. In addition to the flowers that her boudoir daughter fiddles with every day, her poems are even loaded with thousands of miles of rivers and mountains.
- Author -
Mu Xiaoliu, senior editor of famous magazines, columnist, graduated from the Department of Chinese of Fudan University, looking for chapters and excerpts, and spending good time in words.
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Responsible editor 丨 Zhang Ziqing
Intern Editor | Song Jiani