Take the initiative and put yourself in control
When communicating with people, don't rush to tell others what is right, because others may not be convinced of what you say. Without supporting their own rhetoric, the success rate of this communication is minimal. Therefore, before communicating with people, we must first find a strong theory to convince people that their statements are right.
The world-famous conductor Stokovsky once conducted a performance in the New York Symphony Orchestra. Unexpectedly, the time came, and the late audience panicked and came in to find a seat. The seated audience is still whispering. Already on the stage, Stokovsky could not swing the baton in his hand, so he turned to the audience and said, "Gentlemen, ladies, painters draw paintings on paper, and musicians compose music on 'silence'. Tonight, we are responsible for supplying the music, and you must be responsible for providing the silence. ”
When these words were uttered, the concert hall was immediately silent without a sound. Stokovsky nodded satisfactorily, turned around and began to wave the baton in his hand.
Humorists who can grasp the initiative, they are not afraid of the outside world's restlessness and noise, they can win their own quiet through their own wisdom language. People who know humor will be more likely to approach their dreams, because they are more likely to be welcomed and noticed by others than people who do not understand humor. A person who knows humor is not only an eloquent expert, but also a communicator, and a winner who is not easy to lose in life. cause
In order, they can make their strengths more obvious, and they can also turn their weaknesses into advantages.
Taft, the twenty-seventh president of the United States, was very fat, weighing more than 300 pounds. Because he is open-minded by nature, he not only does not care about the fat figure, but often jokes about it.
Taft was a newspaper reporter in his youth. One day, he went to somewhere in Ohio for an interview. After work, he found that unless he took a direct train, he would not be able to return to the society.
Taft called the railway bureau and asked, "Can the direct express stop at so-and-so station so that a large group can get on the train?"
The Railway Bureau granted his request. When the train arrived, the conductor asked him:
"Where's that huge group?"
Taft pointed to his fat figure and said, "It's down there."
Discreet communication not only avoids embarrassment, but also reverses the passive situation. Humorous people have the ability to handle things smoothly and can make the results of everything in their own hands.
Take the initiative, when others are ready to hurt you and talk to you in harsh language, you can be silent, pretend not to understand his meaning, and give the other party an inexplicable answer, so that the other party's attempt to hurt you will also be blown away. Other people's language is harsh, but if you don't move and answer the question, he will be "useless for heroes". In this way, it will be the other party who is dejected.
When President Reagan spoke at a white-cut piano concert, Mrs. Nancy accidentally fell to the ground with a chair, and the audience screamed. But Nancy quickly got up flexibly and returned to her place amid warm applause from more than two hundred guests. At this point, Reagan interjected, "Honey, I told you that you should only perform like this if I don't get applause." There was another round of warm applause from the audience.
President Reagan's humorous words resolved the embarrassing situation of the wife, dispelled the audience's worries, and displayed his witty personality charm on the podium.
In the eyes of humorous people, the world is full of relaxed happiness and warm peace. The main tone of the world should be happy, the main song of life should be cheerful, and in all sudden events, good or bad, it is entirely up to you to control. Humorous people can let themselves control external objects, rather than letting external objects control their minds and hands and feet. It turns out that people who know humor can live such a dashing and enviable life.
Please enter the urn and humorously turn the situation around
Language is the externalization of thought, the embodiment of wisdom. If we want to develop and grow in this society, we cannot do without talking and communicating with others. Have you ever had the experience of being invited to speak in front of a crowd, but your brain is blank; In the company's important meetings, others can talk about it, but you stick to the seat and never say a word, and the opportunity for salary increase and promotion passes by you; You are the leader, and when communicating with your subordinates, you feel that you are far from achieving the desired effect every time...
These are not uncommon, as surveys show that about 42 percent of people see speaking in public as more fearful than death. But in this age of intense competition and challenges, talking is one of the most effective assets for achieving a great life. Now, more and more people regard speaking as a winning weapon and put forward the new concept that "knowledge is power, eloquence is capital". People who can talk need to have something to say, and can use the wisdom of laughter to solve problems for others.
What a beautiful thing to solve problems for others and at the same time to be able to breathe out for yourself, all by relying on the tongue to show god.
Once upon a time, a peasant family was building a canal to water the land, and the canal passed by the edge of a landlord's land. Because the peasant did not consult with the landlord in time, the landlord took the opportunity to blackmail the peasant.
One day, the landlord came to the canal and asked the peasant viciously, "Who made you dig the canal here?" Do you know that you have cut off the 'dragon vein' in my field, and you have to compensate me for my losses within heaven!"
Looking at the landlord's imposing appearance, the honest peasant did not dare to speak, and he could not ignore this unreasonable demand, so he had to hurry to ask the wise man for help.
The landlord, who had money in his possession, roamed the countryside on weekdays, never taking the wise man in his eyes, and the wise man was already dissatisfied. Now, he has blatantly bullied the villagers, and the wise men are also very unfair. So he said to the peasants, "Don't be afraid, I'll handle this."
When the 3-day deadline came, the wise men summoned the villagers to the landlord's field, and the landlord and the farmer who dug the canal were on the spot.
The wise man pointed to the peasant and asked the landlord, "You said he dug a ditch and cut off the 'dragon vein' in your field, right?"
"Yes, he cut off the 'dragon vein', which has a great impact on me!" The landlord replied.
The wise man asked the landlord, "Where is your 'dragon vein'?" The landlord pointed his hand to the side of the canal and said, "Right here!"
The wise man looked at the place the landlord was pointing, walked over, then crouched down and sniffed carefully on the ground with his nose, and then he stood up and said loudly: "What 'dragon vein', it is a completely smelly land!"
"Stinky land? Absolutely not!" The landlord retorted loudly. Then he squatted down on the ground, sniffed seriously, and said, "What a stinky place!" How do you smell? It didn't stink at all!"
The wise man then asked the landlord in a loud voice, "Is it really not smelly?"
The landlord replied affirmatively, "Yes, it doesn't stink at all!"
At this time, the wise man turned around, faced everyone very seriously, and said, "Now everyone can hear clearly!" He just said that the place where this "dragon vein" is located does not stink at all. Since it doesn't stink at all, it means that it's in this field
The "dragon vein" was not cut off at all. If it is really dug up, today is the 4th day, how can it not stink?"
Everyone laughed knowingly, and the landlord was stunned.
This trick is really used properly, and the wise man will calculate it and set a trap for the landlord to drill into, thus avoiding all extortion. The humor of the wise man is very simple, using the truth of the landlord, skillfully treating his body in the way of a man, then of course the landlord can no longer argue, otherwise wouldn't he slap himself?
Therefore, humor is not superficial, and the power of humor requires the right skills to carry it forward. A person who knows humor is a respect and use of his own intellect and physical strength. William James, a well-known professor at Harvard University, once said, "We are only half awake." We use only a fraction of our physical and intellectual strength. To put it bluntly, human beings have always drawn the ground as a prison and lived in their own circles. Man has all kinds of powers, but often does not exert them. ”