I still remember when my daughter was in the fourth grade, she won the first place in the class and the first place in the first grade for two consecutive semesters.
A parent who usually has more contacts, half-jokingly complained to me, "Usually we meet the most, I heard you say that some of the children's learning methods, are also quite ordinary, and even think that you are lazier than most parents, do not care much about children, and now your baby's achievements are rubbing up, is there any trick to keep for us?" "
After listening to lian lian waved my hand, "You have wronged me, I have never reserved for you, what information I bought, and how to manage my children have been said, there is no reservation." "
She also laughed and said that she was just joking, that is, she envied that her children had made great progress, and she also felt anxious about her children.
Then I was silent for a moment and said, "If I have a knack, I don't know if it counts?" That is, my parent-child relationship with my children is getting better and better this year. "
1. Half an hour of play to improve learning efficiency
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From the fourth grade, I picked up school every day, and as long as the weather was good, I would deliberately not drive and then walk all the way home with my children. Use the time on the road to listen to your child talk about what happened at school, about the discoveries he found interesting that day, etc.
The distance is not close, but we don't feel long, and we will arrive home with talk and laughter along the way. I also learned a lot about my child's school life, and I became more and more aware of the reasons for the ups and downs of my child's mood when I came home.
The children also enjoyed listening to me and we both understood each other better. Our communication was smoother, and when we got home, we were in a happy mood, and I arranged for my children to do anything, and the children seemed to be happy to accept.
In addition, I will arrange for the child to go downstairs to do some small games and exercises after the child has completed his homework, such as hide-and-seek, jump rope, and shooting balls. We would jump rope competitions to see who jumped more. About half an hour at a time.
The child is looking forward to this precious half hour, and the homework is completed very efficiently every day, and I will accompany the child to activities no matter how tired I am. The result of this is that my home is now peaceful compared to the chickens and dogs jumping every day after school in the third grade.
The child seems to be more and more sensible, I give her advice on learning and other aspects, she can listen to it, and then she will try to do it, the results, we are all happy, and she trusts me more and more.
In fact, what I do sounds very simple, but many parents can't do it. Because they are shrouded in anxiety, they have forgotten what is the original intention of parenthood since their children went to school?
2, do not forget the original intention, let go of anxiety
Isn't the original intention of parents to love their children, let their children grow up healthy and happy, and have a happy life? What makes us forget? Is it an inner volume, or a comparison?
I see it all. One of my classmates, when he was just a child, when he listened to us talk about children, he once said with disgust that in the future, he would not value grades, and it was most important for children to be happy.
As a result, after his child went to elementary school last year, he began to spit on his children in the group of classmates, and the anxiety could be felt across the screen. We laughed at him for what he said at that time, and he helplessly said that it was easier said than done.
Is it really hard? I've also been anxious, rolled up, and it backfired. When I learned to let go, to go back to square one, and to open my arms ready to accept her imperfection, she gave me a big smile and many unexpected surprises.
3. Harmonious parent-child relationship achieves good family education
The parent-child relationship is established from the time the child lands, but the harmonious parent-child relationship is not a blood relationship, not a birth.
Whether the parent-child relationship is harmonious and harmonious affects the child's education to a large extent. A good parent-child relationship allows parents and children to communicate smoothly, and children are willing to accept parental instruction, so that family education is effective.
On the contrary, the bad parent-child relationship will cause the phenomenon of chickens talking to ducks, and children will reject parents' preaching, so that family education cannot work.
Therefore, creating a harmonious and warm parent-child relationship, I think it is much more important than brushing up on the topic. When the child grows up, parents should also adjust synchronously, slowly loosen the big hand that was originally tightly held, and give the child high-quality companionship, rather than accompanying the reading.
May our children grow up healthily in a warm and happy family #亲子教育! #