What are your reasons for considering yourself single?
Don't want to find it? Still can't find it?
The TV series "Who Said I Can't Get Married" mileage Lu's appearance conditions are still very good, economic independence, to have a house, to look good.
Image source: TV series "Who Said I Can't Get Married"
Even if the configuration is quite high, she still becomes an older leftover girl, and is pointed out by others.
The reason she got into this situation still came to herself. On the one hand, when you are young, you are not in a hurry and do not take the initiative to find it, on the other hand, you can't find what you like.
These two points are also common to many people, either young and have the capital not to find more years to play, or want to wait for love to take the initiative to come to the door.
But in my opinion, both of these ways are not advisable, and you may be abandoned by youth if you are not careful, and when you want to get married, you will lose more good choices or compromises because of age.
Marriage is a must for everyone on the road to growth, think clearly about their own life early is of great benefit, not necessarily have to stick to the rules "career success in marriage", the current society is what you do, no career you engage in love, career and love always have a road.
Some people may say, I also want to find ah, but I can't find what I like? Or does it feel like no one likes me?
The cause of this problem is actually due to their own lack of social networking and lack of self-confidence.
Take Cheng Lu as an example, the reason why she can't find the person she likes is because she basically doesn't have any social circle, and when she is not working, she will find two girlfriends to chat, shop, eat, and exercise, and there is no other social activity.
Most people in modern society are Cheng Lu's living state, either company or home, two o'clock and one line every day.
There are so many people in the world, you are in that small circle every day back and forth, not touching the new people, how can you find what you want?
The method of detachment given to Cheng Lu by Wei Shu is worth learning:
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="01" > expand social circle and know more people</h1>
Every time there is any blind date activity, the blind date, Wei Shu will let Cheng Lu participate, whether it can be done is not important, the emphasis is on the process.
This practice is to let Cheng Lu get out of the small circle where he has been staying before and get to know more people.
In fact, social networking is very important for everyone, and the size of the circle also plays a pivotal role in our lives.
For example, in the matter of finding a partner, a person with a wide social circle, her chances of choosing a high-quality opposite sex are much higher than that of a person with a narrow social circle.
As the saying goes, things are clustered in groups, and people are grouped. Good people make good friends around them. If a person does not take the initiative to socialize to meet more people who are better than him, then when he wants to find a partner, he will face the problem of not knowing many people, and can only find it in the three inches he is familiar with, and the selectivity is smaller and he loses more good resources.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="02" > dress to see the occasion</h1>
After acquaintance, Wei Shu showed disgust for Cheng Lu's dressing taste more than once. The dislike here is not because of ugliness, but Cheng Lu's dressing match regardless of the occasion.
Once, Cheng Lu returned from a blind date and complained to Wei Shu with a stomach full of anger. Later, Wei Shu learned that she was wearing a suit and high heels on the day of the date, and joked whether she was going to a meeting or a date.
So much so that in order to help Cheng Lu chase Li Weihao WeiShu to take her to the mall to change clothes, it happened that Cheng Lu was going to meet a producer that afternoon, and Wei Shu took the initiative to help her choose a dress.
The effect was really good and was praised by the producers.
It can be seen that the dressing should be divided into occasions, and proper dress not only shows their own attention and respect for others, but also makes it easier to make a deep impression on others.
When going on a blind date, it is even more important to pay attention to this detail, and many people with poisonous eyes can find some clues through a person's dress at the first meeting, and silently evaluate and score in their hearts.
If you're dressed in a messy way, it's bound to leave no good impression. After all, it is difficult for anyone to like a person who cannot even distinguish his own work life, work to work, life to life, the two are not the same. Therefore, dressing and matching is also a compulsory course.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="03" > communicate more with the opposite sex and get rid of social fear</h1>
Cheng Lu's performance when she first participated in blind dates was: introverted.
Others answer what they ask, and do not take the initiative to communicate with others.
That is, social phobia, there are still many people suffering from social phobia, in a strange situation do not dare to talk to strangers when they are in a strange situation, can only live in their own world, incompatible with the surrounding bad situation.
This type of person is also difficult and dangerous on the road to getting rid of the single, and the social fear will greatly reduce the opposite sex that they are exposed to, and the shortcomings of their own introversion will make them stumble when communicating with the opposite sex and cannot express themselves exactly.
To get rid of social fear, we must force ourselves to socialize, contact more people, and take the initiative to communicate with them.
Such a long-term deliberate exercise can not only make more like-minded friends, but also help us grow our self-confidence and not be timid when talking to the opposite sex.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="04" > learn to express themselves proactively</h1>
Under the guidance of Wei Shu, Cheng Lu has accumulated a certain amount of experience with the opposite sex after many blind dates, in the process she learned to express herself when facing the people she likes, and finally plucked up the courage to confess to Li Weihao.
And after we take the first step to take the initiative to talk to the opposite sex freely, the next step is to learn to express ourselves.
But before we do that, we must first figure out one thing: What is your ideal type?
Everyone has more or less requirements for the other half, and we only need to express self-attraction to the people of the opposite sex who have a cold, and if we work in this direction with a goal, the success rate will be greatly improved.
Finally, I wish you all an early release!