DAY: 97 TIME: 2021.10.27
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Late reading of "About Life, Everything I Know From Children's Books" :P 194-213
Ask yourself a question that's interesting enough because it finds a tailor-made solution that will push you to a lonely, but more interesting place. --Chuck. Klaus
Chen Sai said her decade as a journalist has taught her the importance of asking questions as a craft. It is not only a technique, but also an art.
There are simple childlike questions, careful observation of the natural world, and some of them are almost philosophical.
In 4-5-year-olds, the nature of the offering is at its peak – for them, the whole world is made up of countless question marks, and the questions are instinctive like breathing, free and imaginative.
But after the age of 5, their problems will be significantly reduced (reading and writing will increase), not because they have lost the ability to ask questions, but because children at this age have started school, and the concern for the outcome has replaced the curiosity about the process. And they'll find that adults and teachers prefer answers to questions —in most cases, asking questions is seen as a challenge to authority (or a sign of ignorance), and encouraging questioning means letting go of power and control in some way, which is not easy for adults, so it's nice to be able to tolerate questioning.
So, dear parents, have you patiently counted your child's questions on a given day? What are the problems? Have you ever given a serious answer? Or is it perfunctory, or even directly preventing the child from asking questions?
It's a strange phenomenon that our society strives to oppose asking questions, but in the end it is often those who love to ask questions who really stand out and achieve something.
They're all saying a beautiful answer, so who's going to ask a beautiful question?
For example: "How do dreams come about?" ”
"Why can't you stretch yourself?"
"Why is it so ridiculous for people to fart?"
"Why do butterflies fly as if aimlessly?"
"Why are we crying?"
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Early read The Courage to Be Hated, p96-106
It is easier to live according to other people's expectations, because it is to entrust your life to others, such as walking on the track paved by your parents. Although there will be all kinds of grievances here, as long as you are still on the track, you will not get lost. However, if you want to decide your own path, you may get lost, and you may even face the problem of "how to survive".
The pursuit of approval kills freedom.
Do not care about the evaluation of others, do not fear being hated by others, do not pursue the recognition of others, if you do not pay these costs, you will not be able to implement your own way of life, that is, you can not get free.
But this is neither self-righteous nor wrong, but only separates the subjects.
Adler said: Freedom is to be hated by others.
Although I don't want to be hated, it doesn't matter if I am hated. I care more about how I live than how others see me.
The "trump card" of interpersonal relations is always in their own hands.
It's time for those who interfere in your life to "go to hell"!
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On May 16, 2019, Mr. Pei left this world at the age of 102.
He was a man who left many monuments in the world. However, if you read his biography, you will find that almost every one of his architectural works, facing criticism and criticism at that time, came to the world through all kinds of difficulties and dangers.
Someone once asked him: "What do you think of the outside world's pickiness about you?" ”
Pei's response to this was: "I never thought about these questions because I was always immersed in how to solve my own problems. ”
I found that the success of those great men was accumulated by problems. Discover problems, solve problems, and continue to move forward with problems.
Don't be afraid to be picky, and always keep your inner freedom!
Today's study group posted a complete text version of Luo Zhenyu's "2019-2020" time friend's "New Year's Eve Speech". I spent a lot of fragmented time reading it, and found that the wonderful ideas and material cases at that time were similar to the knowledge I learned in the training camp. But this is the data from two years ago!
What am I doing at the end of 2019? It was the time to take over the current store, it was for the sake of life, and it could only be arranged.
Therefore, a person's cognition and choice are really too important! Looking forward and backward, those who do not have courage are doomed to be slammed to the ground and slapped.
John Lennon said: One person's dream is just a dream, and a group of people's dreams can come true.
Luo Zhenyu said: Keep up with this era, keep up with this group of people.
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Thank you for reading this