A truly happy person is not a person who refuses to enjoy, but a person who can bend and stretch for material enjoyment and is willing to taste the taste of every "now". Seriously, I am afraid to invite the following two kinds of people to dinner: one is the person who is too "poor" (the reason why he does not use the idiom of "the way of poverty and happiness" is because the poor person may not be happy) - he is not deliberately picking others, but he is not trying to tell you that he has the virtue of frugality, although I know that he does not pick his mouth, but I also know that when he invites him to dinner for a long time, he must feel that I am not sincere enough, and I also feel that I am not enough.
But as soon as he was invited to a better meal, he would show that he was very frugal and say in a voice that everyone could hear in the restaurant: "Oh my God, what is the price of killing people!" Qinglai a plate to 200 yuan please, the money discounted to me to calculate, I myself to the vegetable market to buy a handful of vegetables fried a stir-fry, as long as 20 pieces ..."
Knowing that he was well-intentioned, but inviting him to dinner, after starting to order, he felt that he had done something wrong, and he was extremely embarrassed and could not sit still. At this time, it is really difficult for the person who pays for it to feel that the super frugality of the guest is a virtue, and only feels that he is very sinful. A good intention became a crime.
Once, when eating at a gourmet restaurant, a girl who had just received her first month's salary sat at the next table, and she invited her mother and family to dinner, but the scene was extremely embarrassing. Because the mother felt that the dish was too expensive, while eating, while scolding, while suspecting, while instructing people to be frugal, the daughter who paid for it was about to cry, and the younger sisters and fathers at the same table were not embarrassed to show the meaning of "good food".
At the end, the daughter paid the bill, and the mother also said a sentence before leaving: "Really, so expensive and not enough to eat, go back and I will fry a noodle for you to eat!"
That filial daughter should regret that she paid for everyone to eat a big meal.
The other is people who are too "nostalgic". He's not being picky, he's just always trying to tell you he's tasteful.
Ask him for coffee, and he will surely talk about how delicious the coffee is in a café in Italy; Invite him to Japanese food and he will definitely tell you which one is more delicious than this one. He constantly compares all the dishes with the first place in his heart, and the master will only feel that his taste has been repeatedly rejected.
It is also difficult for such people to feel happy anytime and anywhere, because they care too much about the ranking in their hearts, and the happiness they taste is always in the past. Unless there is something "super first-class universe peerless in the world" that appears and defeats the first place in his heart, he will feel that he has a little happiness.
People whose standards are constantly low and whose standards are getting higher and higher will not live too well in ordinary days. The standard should be "able to flex and stretch".
I am also a "coffee picker" who prides itself on drinking the best coffee in the world, but as long as the cup of coffee in front of me is not too difficult to swallow, I will tell myself: In the here and now, you can only drink this coffee, this is already the best coffee here, why not taste it?
Wouldn't it be a shame to always give you a super number one coffee, monotonous and boring taste, and lose the fun of trying a variety?