01.
There is such a hot topic on Weibo: What do you do if the other half has other people in their hearts after marriage?
This hot topic is about the story of Shi Hongxing, played by Yan Ni, in the popular TV series "Breakout".
The story is not long, but it has to be told from the age of ten.
That year, Shi Hongxing's parents died unexpectedly, and she was still in a state of ignorance of the world, so she had to learn to grow up early.
Proust once wrote in "Remembrance of the Age of Water":
"Anything that you desire to have, it blooms. Once you have it, it withers. ”
For Shi Hongxing, such a thing is called a sense of security.
She longed, but she didn't get it, so it blossomed like a red rose, tempted again and again.
In the beginning, this red rose was called security.
Later, this red rose was called Lin Manjiang.
Who is Lin Manjiang?
He is Shi Hongxing's master brother, who appeared at the age when her love sinus first opened.
In the eyes of Shi Hongxing, who was twenty years old and still a young girl, Lin Manjiang was a master brother, a big brother, and a bamboo horse... At the same time, he is synonymous with calmness and redemption.
He was like a rose blooming on the edge of a cliff.
Extremely beautiful and fascinating.
But, it's dangerous.
02.
When Shi Hongxing was thirty years old, Lin Manjiang bloomed into an untimely rose: Shi Hongxing was married, but the groom was not Lin Manjiang.
Even so, Lin Manjiang's position in her heart had never changed in the slightest.
Some people may say that it must be because Shi Hongxing's husband is not good enough, Lin Manjiang will be so obsessed.
The truth is, Niu Junjie is very good.
As Yan Ni described in a letter to Shi Hongxing, Niu Junjie is like the big straight man who sees you by the river and shouts to remind you of the danger of the depth of the water:
"It looks like a needle in the needle, and when you're really going to fall in, he's the first one to stand up and try to hold you."
Unfortunately, Niu Junjie's good, Yan Ni understands, and Shi Hongxing does not understand.
She was obviously Niu Junjie's Princess of the Shi Family, but she had to stubbornly become Lin Manjiang's humble admirer.
Shi Hongxing's meaningless wishful thinking, even Niu Junjie felt worthless for her.
I remember that day, the two quarreled again at the dinner table. The reason for the quarrel is that Shi Hongxing wrote more than 170 diaries to Lin Manjiang, which recorded all the records of Lin Manjiang's speeches over the years.
Niu Junjie was deeply shocked and sad, but he also had to remind Shi Hongxing:
"I tell you again, Lin Manjiang is good, he is not your man in this life, your man is my Niu Junjie." Don't be stupid, don't live a common day for a Lin Manjiang. ”
Fortunately, Shi Hongxing worshipped and relied on Lin Manjiang again, so far, she had not made a real fool.
But if in the follow-up plot, she really made a fool of herself, then she will definitely be like Niu Junjie said:
"You're going to stink you for thousands of years."
03.
Niu Junjie in the play is very tolerant, but the netizens outside the play are not tolerant.
Under the hot topic, there are comments condemning Shi Hongxing. The reason why netizens are so angry is that there are not a few people like Shi Hongxing.
Shi Hongxing's behavior, saying that it is better to listen to it is to have someone else in her heart after marriage, and to say that it is ugly is to have a spiritual derailment.
Because of this, some netizens relentlessly accused:
"I really can't stand that the person who marries me has someone else in his heart, and his heart is not on you, how to live?" 」
Indeed, in real life, there are not many people like Niu Junjie.
A person, with someone else in your heart, can still live with you, either too much love or not love.
But what I want to say is that sometimes I don't love because I love too much.
The lack of love here is more like a cover-up, a kind of self-protection.
In order to achieve the purpose of self-numbness, many people have thought of a good way - with money.
Xibao is one.
Yishu uses her Xibao to tell us that she wants a lot of love, and if there is no love, then there is a lot of money.
Do you see it?
Love is the most important thing, and it is money that comes second.
As for why ask for money and not courtship? The reason is simple, because love hurts people, but money doesn't.
Readers also understand this truth.
Some time ago, I received a message from a pen and a pen, and she said that this time she looked away.
The husband of the pen is very similar to the stone red apricot: the stone red apricot has red roses, and he has white moonlight.
This "light" is his first love, and like most first loves, they have a fruitless ending-
Graduated from high school and went their separate ways.
But as the saying goes:
"The paradox of life is that you often have the most exciting moments when you are not ready. When you're ready for everything, it's hard to find that moment. ”
Meeting White Moonlight in the boring high school life is the most memorable heartbeat.
Meeting the pillow person at the prepared blind date feast is no longer difficult to move.
But that doesn't matter, after all, life, most of it is as plain as water, after all, marriage, most of it is a bubble.
There are so many passions and hearts to squander, don't they?
Yes, pen has always thought so.
Just like that day she chased the drama and wanted to use her husband's QQ login to use the membership. Curious for a moment, she logged into her husband's QQ, opened his space, and saw that those who were still updated every day, only visible to themselves, only related to "that she", she knew:
"Some of them are really heartwarming."
It's too stingy to be reluctant to share it with others.
04.
It turns out that the lyrics are not all for rhyme, and the movie of three people, with one person, really can't have a name.
That person is the pen and the pen.
In a later message, she chose to let herself go:
"Brother Kai, I'm not afraid to tell you that I still love him, even though I know he loves others, I just want to spend his money and swipe his card to make up for that hole in my heart." You say I'm sick, but how can I comfort myself if I don't? He can leave me at any time, but I can't leave him. ”
......
Money has become comfort, but love is beyond recognition, so why bother?
Whether it is Niu Junjie or pen and pen, it is undeniable that they are very good people, and they respect their partners.
However, they forget to respect themselves, as well as respect for love.
Know that emotions between people cannot be restrained, but morality can be restrained. And such constraints are often out of respect.
As Busquets said in "This Too Will Pass":
"Perhaps the noblest feeling a person can have for another person is respect, not love or liking."
Think of a very old saying that there is no partner in the world who does not cheat.
Sometimes it's the body that cheats.
Sometimes it's the infidelity.
Don't say much about the body.
As for the confusion, most of them are temporary, and most of them can be suppressed.
Here's a very simple example.
In a certain husband and wife variety show, Yuan Yongyi did not hide her liking for Lee Min-ho, more exaggerated, which can be said to be a flower idiot.
But for Yuan Yongyi's actions, her husband Zhang Zhilin never got angry. He will only occasionally be slightly jealous and pretend to be dissatisfied, and this is undoubtedly another expression of show love in the eyes of others.
One Yuan Yongyi dared to do it, and one Zhang Zhilin did not stop it.
Why?
Because they know that from the moment they are married, respect for love is their ultimate belief, and those so-called infatuations are just condiments in married life.
Therefore, their myth of love has never been defeated and has flourished for a long time.
Therefore, those who, like Zhang Zhilin and Yuan Yongyi, with the highest level of love, walk into gender relations and enter marriage-
They don't often say I love you.
And tell you with body and soul, I respect you.