At the age of 17, Cai Shaofen won the third place of "Hong Kong Sister" with her excellent temperament and outstanding beauty.
At the same time, it also attracted the "special attention" of Liu Luanxiong, a hundred billionaire businessman, who expressed his desire to "make friends" with her.
But before he could speak, Cai's mother, who was greedy for money, responded for her daughter, so 18-year-old Cai Shaofen was forced to start a six-year-long primary school career.
Helpless to run for the "Hong Kong Sister", unwillingly to be raised, known as the first "beautiful and strong" Cai Shaofen in the circle, what is the purpose?
The father abandoned his wife and son, the mother was addicted to gambling, and in Cai Shaofen's childhood memories, it has always been filled with the scolding of creditors who come to collect debts. In order to avoid debt, her mother took her and her brother to move around and live a life of displacement.
Affected by the harsh family environment, Cai Shaofen has been extremely insecure since she was a child, and because she was disliked by her parents, she regarded herself as a burden and compared herself to "garbage".
Cai Shaofen is just an ordinary girl, afraid of loneliness and loneliness, eager to make friends, she often gives gifts to please friends, hoping that they will not abandon themselves.
Single-parent family, no friends, these are nothing, a gambler's mother, is her fatal wound.
When Cai Shaofen was a child, her father decided to divorce her because her mother was addicted to gambling and lost all her family.
In the face of the shattered home, Cai's mother still does not repent, every day as usual to check the casino, even Cai Shaofen's grandmother died, she has not missed a gambling game.
On the gambling table, it is a road of no return, no matter how Cai Mu can pinch and calculate, she has not been able to escape the spell of ten gambles and nine losses.
As soon as the gambling addiction came up, Cai Mu started her daughter's idea and tried to send her into the entertainment circle in exchange for more gambling sources.
Whenever this matter is mentioned, it is difficult to hide the pain in her heart, Cai Shaofen once said bluntly that "you can do anything for the sake of her family", revealing too much bitterness and bitterness from only a few words.
It is undeniable that she has made great sacrifices for her family. After her debut, she used all her income to pay off her mother's debts, and "son-in-law" Liu Luanxiong also funded it, not only paying off hundreds of millions of debts for Cai's mother, but also giving her a number of properties.
But in the face of greed, Cai Mu played a wishful thinking, the star daughter, plus a valuable "son-in-law", made her even more intense, in the casino wanton madness.
One after another, the old debt has just been cleared, the new debt has come again, and the biological mother has completely pushed Cai Shaofen into a bottomless pit that will never see the light of day.
Even his aunt joined the "bloodthirsty family" and took the initiative to expose the scandal between his niece and Liu Luanxiong, and on this condition, he reached out to her for money.
Cai Shaofen admitted in a later interview that the experience was very painful, and when she couldn't stand it, she thought about dying.
In 2000, Cai Shaofen finally decided to bid farewell to this hellish day, and held a press conference to officially announce that she had severed the mother-daughter relationship with Cai's mother.
After her liberation, she fell seriously ill and lost 20 pounds in just one week.
Cai Shaofen said that some things cannot be changed in front of the eyes, but it does not mean that they cannot be changed in the future, no matter what difficulties they encounter, they must have hope.
There is no lack of love and warmth in life, but cruelty comes, and only those who live soberly and clearly can stand it.
The woman is a well-known TVB tv queen, and the man is a 18-line poor martial artist in the mainland, and the combination of the two has attracted a lot of criticism from the outside world.
Cai Shaofen and Zhang Jin got married in 2007 because of the drama, but the Hong Kong media took this opportunity to make a big fuss, using words such as "marrying down", "upside down" and "eating soft rice" to attack Zhang Jin, and using words such as "love brain" and "little white face on the head" to embarrass Cai Shaofen.
Subsequently, in an open letter, Cai Shaofen explained her reasons for choosing Zhang Jin: handsome and stylish, both literary and martial, loyal to friends, serious about work, not to mention herself...
After marriage, the two loved sweetly, had three children, Cai Shaofen transformed into a showy maniac, can be called Zhang Jin's propaganda ambassador, no matter when and where, do not forget to promote their husbands.
It is an indisputable fact that they live happily and happily, but there is also a problem of strong women and weak men in marriage.
In this regard, Cai Shaofen did not have too many arguments, nor did she lower herself by taking care of her husband's self-esteem, but used reason and sobriety to deal with all doubts. In her eyes, Zhang Jin is a man who stands tall in the sky, works hard, and is strong when he is strong.
In 2010, Cai Shaofen was pregnant with a baby and starred in the palace fighting god drama "The Biography of Zhen Huan", which exploded after the broadcast, allowing her career to climb to the peak.
Zhang Jin also ushered in the highlight moment of his career, with the superb acting skills in "A Generation of Grandmasters", he won the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actor.
When he delivered the acceptance speech, his words were full of appreciation and gratitude for his wife.
At this time, Cai Shaofen in the audience had tears in her eyes and was moved.
Since then, many people have said that Cai Shaofen Wangfu, but she denied it, saying that she did not do anything, but has been with her husband and prayed for him.
Some people also say that Cai Shaofen met Zhang Jin because of good luck, in fact, it is better to say that she is sober in the world.
She does not believe in perfect love, and knows that good feelings are run-in in the bumps and downs, so she can better adjust her mentality, maintain and balance the relationship between husband and wife, and manage the marriage with heart.
As a person who has been groping in the circle for many years, she has seen drunken fans, but also seen the intrigue, in order to save herself, to this day, she needs to constantly think and struggle, so money and fame are no longer in the dimension of her weighing marriage.
Cai Shaofen said that the marriage she wants is a positive husband and wife relationship, as well as a stable and warm home. And Zhang Jin just met her expectations, serious, self-motivated, brave, these are the qualities she appreciates.
Cai Shaofen's cleverness lies in the fact that she knows very well what she wants and what suits her best, and she has never placed her happiness on others, but has grasped life herself.
In fact, sometimes, let go of unrealistic fantasies, happiness will follow...
If he hadn't met Zhang Jin, what would have happened to Cai Shaofen's life? Marry into the rich, fall in love with a handsome guy, or be a single strong woman?
Cai Shaofen once said frankly that when he was young, he had many suitors, and Zhang Jin was only one of them.
In 1999, Cai Shaofen and Wu Qilong met in "Return My Love", and the two extended their feelings in the play to the outside of the play.
At that time, the two were in the same situation, both carrying the burden of supporting their families. Perhaps it is the pity of the same disease, so that they have a lot of common language, very close.
Later, they co-produced a set of wedding advertisements and took the opportunity to officially announce their love affair. In an interview, Wu Qilong also said in public that the two cherish this relationship and hope it can last.
According to people familiar with the matter, during the period of exchange, the two met each other's parents, and even to the point of talking about marriage.
Unfortunately, they were all involved in the family, running around working to make money, had to start a long-distance relationship mode, and eventually broke up because they were less and more.
After breaking up with Wu Qilong, Cai Shaofen turned to the mainland and starred in "Water Moon Cave Heaven", which not only opened the mainland market, but also gained her love.
During the filming, in addition to his girlfriend Chen Farong, only Zhang Jin spoke Cantonese, so when he saw Zhang Jin, Cai Shaofen was like grasping the life-saving straw, often dragging him out shopping together and letting him do the translation, and the two became familiar with each other.
At a gathering of friends, Zhang Jin's stomach grumbled, and Cai Shaofen immediately got up and cooked a bowl of noodles for him. When Zhang Jin saw Cai Shaofen busy in the kitchen, he had a thought in his heart, hoping that this girl could be his girlfriend.
Therefore, Zhang Jin found an opportunity to confess to Cai Shaofen twice, but both were rejected by the other party.
Later, it was learned that Cai Shaofen felt very inferior because of her original family, coupled with those "disgraceful past events" before, which made her feel that love was luxurious and she was not worthy of Zhang Jin.
Once, Cai Shaofen learned that Zhang Jin's female friend had come to visit the class, and she was very jealous, and only then did she realize that she had fallen in love with the boy.
Zhang Jin took the opportunity to confess to Cai Shaofen again, she agreed in hesitation, and agreed to the law in three chapters, during the relationship can not hold hands, kiss, open, because she is afraid that once the two have intimate contact, they will not give up when they break up.
In the face of Cai Shaofen's request, although Zhang Jin was reluctant, he still agreed and began a secret love.
Until 2007, the two officially opened their relationship and announced their marriage, starting a happy life in the future.
Looking back at the first half of Cai Shaofen's life, from sending people to the fence from childhood, seeing the impermanence of the world, seeing through the cold and warm of human feelings, she understood it very early.
For the sake of her mother, she would rather sacrifice herself and be a little third for a man she doesn't love. She knew that her identity could not ascend to the hall of elegance, and she never wanted to seize the throne and compete for favors.
Even Liu Luanxiong's wife praised Cai Shaofen as a well-behaved woman, and even taught her social etiquette and taught her English.
Cai Shaofen once said in a variety show that she would explain the aftermath to Zhang Jin before each flight, telling him to take good care of the children and find a woman to remarry.
Zhong Liti on the side was very puzzled after listening to it, and questioned Zhang Jin's love for Cai Shaofen so much that it was impossible to find it again.
At this time, Cai Shaofen's sentence "be realistic" directly pierced the romantic pink bubble in everyone's heart.
As soon as this statement came out, many people were very surprised, although it sounded harsh, but it did have some truth.
Beautiful feelings may really exist, but they must not represent all of life, Cai Shaofen has a very clear understanding of this, she did not overestimate love, nor underestimated human nature, and did not expect too much, but felt happiness in the ordinary.
Destiny is self-determined, blessings are self-seeking, maybe this is the wisdom of life that she exchanged for 20 years of suffering.