Last week, "The Thorny Brother", which went from summer fire to winter, finally came together.
This group night not only earned enough traffic and hot searches, but also ate a lot of dog food!
Judging from the list, unsurprisingly, the brothers in the Greater Bay Area that I support have successfully formed a group;
Chen Xiaochun ranked first, followed by Zhang Jin, Zhang Zhilin, Xie Tianhua, Huang Guanzhong and Ouyang Jing.
The brothers can successfully form a group and turn red again, and the women behind them are indispensable.
At the fifth performance, the sisters-in-law of the Greater Bay Area: Cai Shaofen, Ying Cai'er, yuan Yongyi, Qi Qi Liang came to the aid.
In their careers, they are the number one fans of their husbands and the main force of canvassing.
In marriage, they are good wives for decathlons.
To be honest, it is not simple to be able to manage the sisters-in-law of the Greater Bay Area who seem to be "debauched and love freedom" obediently.
As we all know, Cai Shaofen has always been a well-known "showman" in the circle, and often incarnates as Zhang Jin. In this program, Cai Shaofen carefully prepared a confession rap for Zhang Jin's on-site assistance, although the mother-in-law played a small copy, Mandarin hot mouth, but still did not forget to give us a large mouthful of dog food.
Unexpectedly, the dog food under the show is still not over, and she Weibo a "love letter to the filmmaker Zhang Jin" and gave sweet crying, what kind of fairy marriage is this!
To say that there are several couples in "Brother", why is it Zhang Jin x Cai Shaofen, the "old husband and wife" who have been married for 13 years and have given birth to 3 babies are the most tired and crooked?
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Married for 13 years, can it still be so sweet?
People familiar with Cai Shaofen should know that in fact, scenes like the previous one that others see as "excessive sweetness" are just daily routine for them
Casually flip through her Weibo, more than ten years, will also shout to her husband on Weibo every three to five years - you are so handsome! I love you so much!
In the early years, when she participated in the interview program, Cai Shaofen bluntly said that she liked the title of "Mrs. Zhang";
He also let the staff of the community change his name from "Miss Cai" to "Mrs. Zhang", and the words showed their recognition and pride in this marriage.
Up to now, she is already the mother of three babies, and she is still willing to show her admiration for her husband to outsiders without scruples.
After winning the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actor, Zhang Jin also generously admitted:
"Some people say that I have to rely on my wife for the rest of my life, and I can tell you, yes! My happiness in this life depends on her. ”
The camera swept to the stage, and Cai Shaofen was already crying red-eyed.
In a show, talking about the relationship between husband and wife, Zhang Jin also shared his "love bank" theory:
When you quarrel, you spend money, when you are embarrassed, you spend money, but usually how do you save money.
The two sat in the kitchen at night and drank some wine, in fact, these were all saving money.
In fact, he has always done this, using practical actions to "save money" for their love bank
Meticulous and patient with the child, loving and loving the wife, the person is not smiling, but he is willing to accompany her to let go of himself and shoot funny videos.
Whenever she mentioned the child who had given birth to the two of them, she couldn't help but cry...
I can see your shining points and praise me; you can also give me a response and express love with practical actions.
I think that's the key to their 13-year marriage!
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Good husband, all "exaggerated"
I once saw a question: "What are the truths that you only understand after you get married?" ”
One of them replied that men love sweet talk more than women.
In layman's terms, it is for the husband, to exaggerate.
Speaking of which, you may wish to recall that in addition to complaining about "widowed parenting" every day, have we given enough encouragement and praise to the father of the child?
Seeing her husband doing housework and taking the baby clumsily, can't help but complain and blame:
"I can't do this well, so forget about me..."
It is not difficult to find that it is easy for us to focus on whether we are doing a good job or not, so as to blame our husbands.
But the most ardent need of human essence is the desire to be affirmed, so that "splashing cold water" will often only backfire, discourage the enthusiasm of the husband to participate, and even scold the lazier.
Looking at Cai Shaofen again, her handling method is much smarter.
Cai Shaofen and Zhang Jin went to participate in the new variety show and needed to pack their suitcases before leaving.
When Zhang Jin cleaned up with her, he was folding and chanting, and Cai Shaofen was not tidy
But he himself rolled up his clothes and stuffed them into the suitcase very hastily.
On the side, Cai Shaofen showed a shocked expression after seeing it, but she did not immediately blame Zhang Jin.
What is even more unexpected is that after her husband packed his luggage, Cai Shaofen immediately clapped his hands and praised him:
"Husband is so good!!"
What love needs is careful protection, not mutual hurt and mutual blame.
Cai Shaofen thought from her husband's point of view: Zhang Jin packed up his luggage and made a mess, cai Shaofen saw his efforts, not only did not blame, but also gave praise;
Respect and worship make the brothers in the Greater Bay Area feel full of love, and they will also pay more love for their wives.
Everyone has flaws, and if a little flaw is infinitely magnified, how can a marriage be happy.
In love, we should not always think of trying to change each other, but we should respect more and see more good.
However, here we should pay attention to the distinction:
Because you are very good to me, I feel that you are good and willing to praise you; and because I think you are a very attractive person, I am willing to praise you, is not the same ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~
The former is out of taking, while the latter is out of 100% affirmation of you.
Every seemingly sweet "rainbow fart" of Cai Shaofen is actually accurately exaggerated on Zhang Jin's own charm point.
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A happy marriage for parents is the best gift to their children
In "The Two of Us", Yang Dai described the happy life of their family of three in this way:
Our family is very simple; the three of us, very simple. We have no needs from the world, no quarrels with others, but only to get together, to stay together, and to do what we can.
When we encounter difficulties, we bear them together, and the difficulties are no longer difficult; we accompany each other, no matter what bitter and difficult things, they can become sweet. When we are a little happy, we will also become very happy.
When studying in Britain, in order to take care of Yang Chen, Qian Zhongshu, who was "clumsy" on weekdays, boiled eggs, baked bread, warmed milk, and made mellow black tea.
Then wake up the sleepy-eyed Yang Dai, put a small dining table on the bed, and put a delicious breakfast on the small table, so that Yang Dai can sit on the bed and enjoy it at will.
Eating the meal cooked by her husband Jun himself, Yang Dai said happily: "This is the most fragrant breakfast I have ever eaten", and hearing his wife's satisfactory answer, Qian Zhongshu smiled happily.
Only in such a loving and warm life, children can feel love, parents' words and deeds, will affect the children, such an invisible "tutoring" is undoubtedly the best gift for children.
Children whose parents are happily married will take many detours less, and they will gain a sense of stability and security in their hearts from an early age. It's easier to trust others and simpler.
They have been given a sunny background since childhood, which is the best protection for them.
Therefore, the best tutor that parents can give their children is the happiness of marriage.