Some people say that the biggest problem with a person who has lived for a long time is that he doesn't want to say a lot of things, doesn't want to be disturbed, and longs to be hugged.
In fact, what I feel the most is the first half of the sentence, which really becomes dislike answering the phone. If you can send text, try not to speak; if you can speak, try not to video; if you can video, try not to meet. This is the true order of the heart.
Regarding the phone, if I dial it, it is better, whether it is a small talk with family, friends or a telephone interview with someone, it can be carried out happily and easily. But if it is a call that comes suddenly, I will be a little resistant, always stop for two or three seconds and then answer, and give myself a little time to accept.
Perhaps, because in ordinary life, I don't need to talk to others much, as if I naturally have a little resistance.
When I was at home, I occasionally talked to myself, and when I had a cat, I started talking to it. It meows. Me, what? What for? What's wrong? It's quite natural, I don't feel that there is anything wrong, and I even have some self-enjoyment.
As Liu Tong writes in the preface to his new book "One Man is One Man": "Everyone has their own small universe, complete and kind, does not cause trouble to people, and can also reach out to others while being alone." "
Doesn't that mean me or someone who lives like me?
In fact, everyone from childhood to adulthood, from birth to death, will be a person, surrounded by friends, family, lovers, are only a certain stage of companionship, all growth, ups and downs, ups and downs must be spent by themselves.
We will meet these important people, but we are a person.
In this book, Liu Tong wrote a lot of stories with friends, family, and himself.
Two of them are related to friends, I am very impressed, one is "Friends are used to break off friends", and have a temper tantrum with a particularly good friend, but understand each other, should be a good friend or a friend.
He said, "(Tantrum) I specifically mean really good friends. The pressure of growth is great, the pressure of society is great, it is better to vent your anger on your good friends, a chaotic operation, and use the cut-off to release your anger. You can rest assured that they can withstand it. Just like my good friends can throw tantrums at me when nothing is right, I always tell myself: 'They may be under too much pressure lately, it's okay, I'm not angry, I'm just out of the punching bag.' '"
Indeed, pay attention to those who are angry and those who have broken off their friendship. Otherwise, what would have been just an emotional vent may end up becoming a large-scale break scene. Friends and friends are not the same, some friends can not contact for half a year, but as long as they talk, they can talk about nothing. Some friends may contact each other twice or three times a week, but when they really encounter something, they will not mention half a sentence to each other.
Remembering last year's trip abroad with a friend, we both knew each other for more than a decade. When we first met, it was very good, eating together, enjoying the scenery, and taking photos in the infinity pool on the top floor of the hotel, but it was inevitable that we would be together 24 hours a day, and it would be a little unpleasant, which could probably be summarized as a feeling that could be written in the diary "I will never contact so-and-so again again" The mood exploded.
It is estimated that friends with average relationships are likely to be really angry, but after we returned, we still made an appointment to drink tea and eat crayfish together. It's not about pretending that nothing has happened, but knowing that even an unpleasant experience doesn't affect the solid relationship between us.
The other is W, a student who writes Chinese department, straight forward and maverick. W has good grades, often takes scholarships or something, gives up Baoyan to study in Singapore, gets married and has children after returning, and settles in Shenzhen.
She is the kind of friend who can make others feel very self-reliant and free, and will ridicule Liu Tongchao's student union as tacky, but she will also sincerely introduce him as "quite smart brain and good writing.". In such matters as employment, pertinent advice will also be given. The two of them rarely contacted, not in seven years, but when they met, they were misunderstood by others as "common" because there was that kind of purity and familiarity between friends.
Good friends, old friends, and true friends.
It is estimated that Liu Tong is also such a presence for many people, and he has always been very good at sharing the stories of himself and the people around him, hoping to help some young people. From "Whose Youth Is Not Confused" to "Your Loneliness, Although Defeated", "One Person is One Person", more than ten years later, he is still writing, and there are countless readers waiting.
For young people who are confused, it is the meaning of hard work that can find resonance and hope in it. For those of his age, it is to understand, understand and accompany each other.
Regarding the workplace that Liu Tong is most familiar with, he said: "Over time, people who are single-minded, continuous, and identify a path will be more respected. In the past ten years in the light, I also thought about job hopping, and then I wanted to understand, I want to do things in the light can do, but I did not do a good job, change a company, still have to do the same thing, then what is the meaning of changing jobs? Man grows up in repetition and is always reborn in self-denial. Overturning what you previously believed in is not an easy task, and it seems even more important to remember and remind yourself of it. "
Regarding the anxiety that plagues countless people, he was also touched: "In fact, there should be no anxiety, and a person who can do a thing with peace of mind should not be anxious." Talents who have nothing to do and put the turn of fate in the hands of the industry, leaders, colleagues, partners, and Lords should be anxious. "
In fact, Liu Tong also has his own progress and changes in writing. For example, from essays to novels, this began before the beginning, but now it is becoming more and more mature and comfortable.
After reading the last article "Friendship Hotel", I specially opened the computer to search for "the most powerful homestay in Shonan, there is a friendship homestay", the result can be imagined, the page only has a series of "friendship hotels" across the country.
I patted my head and remembered, ah, this is a novel. It was too real to see and ignore the matter.
Perhaps because the core of the story of Wang Zhenxing and Wang Youyi, the mother and son, is too common.
The son misunderstands the mother's efforts, grows up to escape from each other's life by reading, returns to the familiar city after work, has a new collision between mother and son because of work, the past misunderstanding is clarified a little, and is reconciled before losing...
If it is a brief description like mine, it is estimated that many people can bring into their own experience.
It's just that the story of Wang Zhenxing and Wang Youyi is related to the Friendship Hotel, which has a more symbolic bearing, and it also makes Room 202 have more special memories.
If this novel is made into a movie, it is also quite suitable for flashbacks and interludes. Wang Youyi's past cannot be exposed at the beginning, she should become a mysterious woman, just like Wang Zhenxing misunderstood in the novel, being talked about and speculated, in fact, she is like thousands of mothers, just doing her best to take care of her children, being a tour guide, driving a black car, and even always doing bad things, but she is by no means unbearable and debauched.
The final ending, perhaps regret, perhaps sadness, but at least, Wang Zhenxing fulfilled his mother's wish, he retained room 202, and also understood his mother's kindness and dedication.
Just learn to be alone, we all grew up alone.