The first day of November was not a good day!
When I got up in the morning, the child said that the sky was only a little bright! I told him it was a rainy day, no sun, not as bright, but it was time for us to get up. I told him that even if it was a little light, he had to get up, even if it was not light, when it was time to get up, he would get up!
The abstract ideal is: sleep until dawn and wake up naturally. The first day of every month should be beautiful, full of sunshine and vitality!
The figurative life is: getting up is only related to the time when it should start, and it has nothing to do with whether the sky is light or not! Even if the weather is very bad on the first day, tell yourself that the mood cannot be swayed by the weather, come on!
I read an article yesterday with the theme, can the truth really hurt people? The teacher said that it was the person who spoke, with the intention of wanting to "hurt people", to degrade the psychology of others, and to decorate it with "truth". If a person is wise enough, then the truth that is spoken is very comfortable!
Abstract understanding, indeed! A person who cannot control his own inner thoughts often thinks of what he thinks, and a person who knows how to control his language pattern is a person with high emotional intelligence, which makes people sound very comfortable!
The specific situation is that even in daily interpersonal communication, the big guy who shows a high emotional intelligence and literacy should also have a time to explode and foul language, which is not uncommon in the public media, not to mention the bad things that are annoying in private, and it is difficult to guarantee that it will not really hurt people.
My personal feeling is: whether the truth hurts people or not depends on the other party's ability to bear it! If it is too glassy, then just a slight increase in decibels will also be shattered to the ground. Even if it is just a few foul words, or a few "truths" commented, the other party can't stand it!
Of course, taking pleasure in bashing others with a lever is another matter.
I have also been living in various application scenarios, trying to control my language patterns and reduce my volume in decibels, but it is difficult not to "degrade" when I speak "true", my level is not enough, and I have not cultivated to such wisdom.
However, I am now trying to "demean" myself. By "degrading" yourself, to respond to others, that is, you can "take into account" the other party's emotions, and you don't need to "hold back", resulting in "emotional congestion" causing greater "internal injuries", if you still hurt the other party, it is only "accidental injury". I'm a hedgehog, don't come near me! There's something weird about it!
In concrete life, I learned to "laugh at myself" and "self-deprecating," and then, I continued to laugh at life.
Brushed up on a very healing passage this morning: Don't think about the future too far away when it is the hardest, just encourage yourself to survive today.
In specific life, we encounter a variety of specific problems every day. For most people, in fact, every day is a variety of suffering, nothing more than a process of surviving day after day, month after month, surviving!
The most important thing is to learn to "make yourself happy" without getting in the way of others and trying not to hurt others!
Learn four words – enjoy yourself!
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