01
As the saying goes, people become old.
When people live to a certain age, they will become "human spirits". They are meticulous and strategic, and they can control people's hearts and see through what others think.
In this world, young people are not terrible, because they have not yet been tempered by society, and people are particularly simple and straightforward. However, those who have experienced vicissitudes give people a feeling of "unable to guess".
In Zeng Guofan's "Ice Book", there is a view that the purer a person is, the more hollow and bright his eyes are, and he can be seen through at a glance. And the more complex a person is, the more cloudy his eyes become, and no matter how you observe, you can't see through his heart.
In the jianghu, the most difficult thing to deal with is often not honest people, but the "human essence" that is extremely complex.
When you go to work, you will meet some old fritter-like colleagues, and maybe others can deceive you into a set with a casual word, leaving you with both money and money.
When you go out to talk about business, you will meet some elusive customers, and maybe a simple small action of others can make you particularly uneasy. This is their familiarity with the "weakness of human nature".
In life, these three types of "playing with people's hearts" will affect your blessings, and you should stay away in time.
02
In life, stay away from the "thick black" human essence.
Li Zongwu wrote in "Thick Black Studies" that when he read through the twenty-four histories, there were only two words in them—thick black.
Thick black science actually existed thousands of years ago. Moreover, Chinese has always been a practitioner of "thick black science". From ancient times to ancient times, even today, thick black people have emerged in an endless stream.
What is the "Thick Black Man"? That is a person with a very thick skin and a very dark heart. This kind of person, their hearts are particularly fierce, and they have no real feelings, and their hypocrisy is to the extreme.
Liu Bang is known as "a hero of the ages". However, he was a person without affection. In order to survive, he did not hesitate to kick his son out of the car, regardless of his son's life or death.
Sima Yi was later known as "Emperor Xuan of Jin". However, he was a vicious and cunning person, who did not hesitate to bully others' orphans and widows, and even laid the foundation for the "five nonsense" in the future.
People like Sima Yi and Liu Bang, who are thick and black, actually have many in contemporary society. Especially in some large enterprises. If you are a person of large enterprise, you will clearly feel that every step you take is facing the dilemma of "walking on thin ice".
Associate with thick black people, and the other party will only sneak up on you when you are defenseless. The so-called "human heart is like a scorpion" is this truth. Therefore, only by staying away from the thick black can we save ourselves.
03
In life, we must stay away from the human spirit that "manipulates people's hearts".
There was one such case.
Xiao Wang in the unit, he worked hard in the company for five years, and he saw that he was about to be promoted, but he still backfired and even resigned. Others feel that Xiao Wang resigned because he could not be promoted and raised, which is really cowardly.
But these people are wrong. Xiao Wang did not resign because he could not be promoted and raised, but because he was coerced by a certain adulterer, and he could not resign.
The person who threatened Xiao Wang was actually a competitor of Xiao Wang. However, compared with Xiao Wang, who works diligently, he has a characteristic, that is, he is particularly good at "winning people's hearts".
His colleagues were all members of his camp, even his superiors, who were on his side. Therefore, Xiao Wang wants to compete with it, which seems a bit self-sufficient.
In daily work, as long as Xiao Wang has done any project, this group of people chooses to exclude Xiao Wang and let Xiao Wang be in a remote corner. Moreover, this gossip also spread particularly quickly, making Xiao Wang invincible.
Therefore, Xiao Wang, who could not bear the threat of the other party, chose to resign.
In fact, in daily work life, we will encounter more or less human spirits. And the high-ranking people are more adept at grasping people's hearts and calculating to the bone.
For these people, we must not offend, but must stay away from them and not have any conflict of interest with them.
04
In life, stay away from the "bright and beautiful surface" of the essence.
In the workplace, there is a saying that the more glamorous and beautiful people are on the surface, the more there is a darkness in the heart that cannot be looked at directly.
The ancients once said: "A great traitor is like loyalty, and a great loyalty is like a traitor." ”
Adultery and loyalty, this can not be seen on the surface. On the surface, people who are full of benevolence and morality have done many untold treacherous things behind their backs. The more loyal people are on the surface, the more they have a bad heart behind their backs.
When we first went to work in society, we always felt that people who were particularly decent on the surface were gentlemen and good people.
We may wish to think about such a question, Yue Buqun in "Smiling Proud of the Jianghu", he is also a particularly decent person on the surface, and even called "Gentleman's Sword", but is he really a gentleman, is he really a good person? The answer is no.
There is a saying that is very realistic, don't be fooled by the superficial phenomena of things.
In nature, we always think that "chameleons" are the creatures that know best to disguise. But in fact, the originator of the camouflage world is not a chameleon, but we humans who "play every scene".
Those who have a certain amount of money and position, they are definitely not ordinary honest people. Because honest people can't make a lot of money, and they can't climb to a high position. This is a very realistic situation.
Therefore, staying away from the "superficially glamorous and beautiful" human essence is the key to a person's self-preservation.
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