Wen | Gongziyi
The journey of "Goodbye Lover" is over.
In the new trailer, three "couples" collectively cried, they can't go back or can't go back, don't cherish or don't cherish, in the marriage "mother" is still in the marriage as a mother.
A journey that nothing has changed. And nothing will change, which is the most cruel reality. And these three women in the red dust, where what is the world sober, they are called "human confusion".
And this is something even more "cruel" than the "most"fierce": a woman's life, ah, takes the feeling as fate.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="10" > Guo Keyu's "fierce". </h1>
Since the broadcast of this program, I have always felt that Guo Keyu is too cruel.
In this life, a man would rather meet a "flower girl" like Zhu Yaqiong than a pure "literary and artistic young woman" like Guo Keyu. Because they pay too much attention to feelings, and feeling this kind of thing is fleeting.
One second she loves you to the point of love, and the next second she has no feelings, she can abandon you.
What's even more frightening is that their judgment of marriage depends entirely on feelings, rather than on something "externally real."
One of the most obvious details: when riding a bicycle, she actively hugged Zhang He.
At that time, Guo Keyu said that he had a feeling of heartbeat. And Zhang He didn't understand at all why there was no heartbeat for ten years, and there was such a moment. With this momentary feeling, is it guo Keyu who also has the idea of compounding.
But Guo Keyu was impatient and completely negative in the face of Zhang He's questioning. What she means is: My feelings are just my feelings, not yours.
I can "pick" you up at any time, but I can also "throw" you out of my world at any time.
Zhang He has been in love for ten years, even if he is divorced, he is still in love, and he only hopes that Guo Keyu will live as she likes. His last moment of kneeling and begging, "Don't go," was full of heartache.
However, Guo Keyu denied everything by relying on only one "feeling".
Some women, probably only after experiencing some "scumbags" can have a little clear understanding of this kind of thing as "feelings". Feelings are important, but it is more important to see that person's responsibility, responsibility, and sincerity.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="68" > Zhu Yaqiong's "work". </h1>
So far, the feelings of six people and five people about Lao Wang are good. Even Ni Ping's sister said that Lao Wang was really a good man. Guo Keyu pays so much attention to feelings, but her evaluation of Lao Wang is extremely high.
Everyone constantly advised Zhu Yaqiong: without Lao Wang, she regretted it, and there was no regret medicine. However, the more everyone persuaded, the more Zhu Yaqiong would look like "I have to go".
Lao Wang does have a character defect and will not "coax" his daughter-in-law. However, I have to say that Lao Wang's requirements for his daughter-in-law are also extremely low: he does not need you to bear the weight of life, because he feels that he is a big man, he should bear the rush and hardships of life, and you are his wife, he should let you live like a "little princess". He also doesn't ask you to do what a full-time wife, because the child is also with him most of the time. All he asks of you is that you be able to do your own thing well and be happy.
However, Zhu Yaqiong's requirements for marriage are: men should coax me, hold me, always affirm me, and then establish "self-confidence" and "self" for me.
This pair of combinations, the habit of carrying the weight forward, is accustomed to carrying the weight forward, and refuses to unload the burden. The one who was protected, unscrupulous, only wanted to go outside to experience the wind and rain.
Then go for it.
Some people, missed in this life, will miss, and it is difficult to reunite. And some regrets, the reason why they become regrets, are only "done" by themselves.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="69" > Tong Chenjie's "lack". </h1>
Among the three "couples", I think the biggest problem is Tong Chenjie and Wei Wei.
All of their bottom line issues are almost all different in terms of values. But such a couple is the happiest of the three.
Why are they happy?
Because Wei Wei will "coax".
He really didn't do much. Earning money in general, the beams of the family are carried by Tong Chenjie. He wanted children, but he wouldn't even take out the slightest bit of action. But because he can express and coax, Tong Chenjie would rather give him a "mother" for the rest of his life.
Also because of Tong Chenjie's "lack".
Single-parent families, once failed marriages, make Tong Chenjie particularly lack of love. Love, on the other hand, is what you feel. As long as she can feel that Wei Wei loves her, even if she compromises again and again, even if she can't see Wei Wei's changes, she just wants to have such a person to express love to herself, so that she can feel love and home.
As for those bottom lines and principles, she insisted bitterly, but as soon as she thought of losing "this love", she was completely instigated.
Many times, feelings completely defeat her principles.
One detail, when she had a big fight with Wei Wei, she never said that she wanted to divorce again.
After that big fight, it was not Wei Wei who finally compromised, but Tong Chenjie, how ironic and how sad.
Where she is awake in the world, she is "confused in the world".
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="71" > woman's "heavy feelings", too sad. </h1>
Many times, watching "Goodbye Lover", I dare not dig deep and think deeply. Because, too sad.
Why do women pay so much attention to feelings in marriage?
Because, lack of love.
Women in marriage, not looking for feelings, are looking for love. But cruelly, love is a feeling. She became particularly fast, she became fast herself, and the other person became fast. Because she "surrendered" to this change, or "could not accept" this change, the woman is always in a state of "levitation" in marriage.
She feels the love of a man, and she is steadfast; she does not feel it, or she cannot find the feeling of love, and she will suffer.
Guo Keyu felt that there was no love in the marriage, so he suffocated; Zhu Yaqiong did not feel good in the marriage, so he cried; Tong Chenjie, even if the other party had many shortcomings of touching the bottom line, but because of feelings, he endured.
Because of the "feelings", the three women's perceptions of marriage are completely misaligned. Those who give sincerely and have a heavy character are all scattered, while those who are loose and irresponsible are always tolerated and consummated because they "can be coaxed".
Women, for this "feeling", can live, can die, can "carry the weight forward" for a lifetime.
How sad.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="72" > woman's biggest pick: look at reality. </h1>
The biggest pit in a woman's life is probably being blinded by feelings.
Feelings are very important. However, no matter how good the feeling, it cannot be more important than reality. So, in this life, especially in marriage, please look at the reality more, please do not "feel supreme".
A man with good character who can shield you from the wind and rain is much stronger than a man who is irresponsible and will only coax you.
If, you sometimes even feel that as long as he loves you, you are willing to go to the wind and rain by yourself, and you are willing to endure a lifetime of "carrying the weight forward", then girl, the problem is you.
You are too short of love, but you want to love in the wrong direction.
The more unloved you are, the more you should love yourself instead of struggling to sustain your life, just to get that little bit of "false" love from a man.
A man really loves a woman, like Lin Xiaozheng in "To Youth", even if you are willing to suffer with him, he is not willing.
How realistic are the men in reality.
Women, a little more realistic, are at least sane.