What would it feel like if a man didn't get married for the rest of his life, and the question has been racking my mind all along.
In real life, with the development of the economy of the times, more and more men enjoy the freedom of the single world, and they are accustomed to a life where a person eats enough for the whole family and does not starve, but they have never thought about what will happen if they do not marry for a lifetime.
Even some men are almost forty years old, still maintaining the mentality of being single and unmarried, thinking that they don't want to get married for the rest of their lives, and only want to be free alone.
These men have a self-overestimation and at the same time escape from reality, and they always find excuses to convince themselves of the reason for being single; "What is the purpose of getting married in this life?" If you get married, you have to buy a house without a car, have children, so will you be tired for a lifetime?"
After working for so long, most of the colleagues I met were single, and they were basically older than me.
I remember one year when I was in Baigou, Hebei Province, I met an uncle, he was forty years old, no wife and no children, which instantly embarrassed me, so I hesitated and asked him: Why don't you get married? ”
He smiled slightly and said to me, "Brother, you are still young, when you grow up and get married, you will naturally know, in fact, living such a life, I don't want to do this, but the cruelty of reality is in front of you, one day you will understand."
Listen to him say this; I said lightly; "Uncle, I personally think, no matter what kind of marriage you have ever experienced?" We all have to go on, after all, people's lives are not easy, I know, you can confess to me is also to show that you believe me, only to tell me the truth, but I think a man, if he does not marry for a lifetime, I think he is simply superfluous in this world, and will be looked down upon. ”
The uncle suddenly realized: "So old, no one has ever spoken to me in my heart, what you are saying is indeed that I once had a beautiful love, that is, I returned from Tibet at the age of twenty, my parents introduced me to the blind date, we both like each other after meeting, so we hurriedly got married." ”
"But less than a year after getting married, my wife is a rich man in the next village, and I think if I had money, then she wouldn't have divorced me in this life!" But it wasn't long before she was dumped by the man, and she wanted to come back and reconcile with me. ”
"But I refused, because since the moment she divorced me, I had no love for her. Years later, my parents introduced me to me everywhere, and I was mixed up by my ex-wife again and again. ”
"In desperation, our family went to live in the town, but the woman kept stalking me, and then I never found a partner, she didn't get married, the time passed quickly, and before I knew it, twenty years had passed, and everything was the same in the dream." 」
"Brother, you are right, I have not been married for so many years, and I am looked down upon by relatives and friends, but what can I do?" They are all in their forties, people the same age as me, and the children are almost in college, so you should cherish her when you find a girl who loves you in the future, but don't be sincere with any woman, otherwise it is you who are often hurt."
Of course, he was not the only one in his forties who was a bachelor, two men in our village who were just as bare as he was.
These two people, they haven't brought back any girls since I can remember, but what about one? It was because he was handsome when he was young, so he was too picky, he couldn't look at him if he was slightly ugly, and people who were too beautiful couldn't look at him.
When he was thirty-five years old, a young woman in our village recruited her husband because her husband died unexpectedly at work.
Many people in the village advised him to go, but he was determined not to go, saying that he was still young and refused the request of others.
To tell the truth he was a very handsome figure in my memory, his looks and figure in our village, at that time he said second, no one dared to say first, many girls pursued him, but he rejected, there are countless girls, because she rejected and shed tears.
Now he was only in his forties, with white hair, like an old man of fifty or sixty years old, sitting in his little dark room day after day, groggy, late at night and trying to find someone to talk to, he couldn't find it, only cigarettes and spirits accompanied him.
Every day, the children who used to be worse than him can marry a wife, and he is still single.
Gradually, the people in the village became more and more distant from him, including me.
In fact, I was far away from him not to dislike him, but to sit with him and not find a topic to talk about, after all, he could be my uncle.
So every time I passed by his door and he greeted me, I could only say well, this word, I didn't dare to say more for fear of hurting him.
There is another one in our village, and what about this person? I don't know, what did he think? Both are in their forties and not yet married.
Ten years ago, he worked at the family planning bureau in the county town, but for some reason, he was expelled, and he was fine, bringing back several women.
What I know best is when he first brought his girlfriend back, when I was in the third grade of elementary school, and later heard that the two of them broke up emotionally.
When I brought it back for the second time, I had just come out to work that year, in 2012, but I don't know what happened? He brought his girlfriend back twice, both of them, and he never brought any of his daughters back.
It has always been floating in the city, just a few years ago, at the intersection of our village, national highway 326 was rectified and built, and the villagers built houses here, and he also came here to build.
But then I heard that he built the house not by himself, but by his nephew and son.
Because his nephew's son has great strength in the county, he has opened three bookstores and mixed well, so he uses his strength to build a house next to National Highway 326.
Sometimes, I really don't understand that a good person is actually used by others, and he is also used by his own nieces and nephews.
He is in his forties this year, has no children, and lives all day in his sister-in-law's house.
In addition to one of them, there are typical single stick people in our village.
This man in my impression, he is a good eater and lazy man, the people in the village have become his county magistrate.
Many elderly people in our village teach children to work hard, otherwise they will have no problems like him in the future.
Why do I say that? Because he has nothing to do all day, whoever has food at home, he will go to other people's houses, and sometimes, he will still be drunk and crazy in other people's homes, and many people in the village will dislike him, but what can he do, he has this kind of personality.
Several times I heard that he had come to eat and drink chopsticks at other people's homes and got them in his hands, and when his wife came back, he was blasted out.
So if a man doesn't get married for the rest of his life, then I don't think your ending will be any better than theirs.
When you're young, be a wife! Even if the disabled are sincere to you, the single stick is not suitable for us.
