I have read a psychological study: "If what a person says is more than 90% of the nonsense, it is easy to feel happy, on the contrary, if the nonsense spoken is less than 50%, it is difficult to get happy." ”
In this world, there are many people who can talk, and few people who are willing to listen to your nonsense.
Whether it is family affection, friendship or love, when you value a person, you will say a lot of nonsense to him, and only people who care about you will allow you to be arrogant and listen to you say a lot of innocuous nonsense.
These words may be the affection between partners, the sharing of interesting things between parents and children, or the boring gossip between friends. But it is they that make you feel relaxed in exhaustion and warm in loneliness.
The most comfortable relationship between people is to be able to talk nonsense.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="62" > between partners, which is a mood</h1>
Sanmao said: "Husband and wife life, is trivial and concrete, even if life is bitter, the environment is simple, but can not omit the husband and wife together to say nonsense and love words, only in this way, marriage has vitality and vitality." ”
In a long-term relationship, there must be a person who likes to talk nonsense, and a person who is willing to listen to nonsense.
In the variety show "The Man Who Does Housework", the interaction between Yuan Hong and Zhang Xinyi once aroused heated discussion.
Because no matter what time, the chat between the two is always fun.
In one issue, Zhang Xinyi bought floor slippers and asked Yuan Hong to mop the floor with her.
Yuan Hong studied it and immediately turned on the mode of talking and talking.
He said, "That's the thing that's mopping the floor while walking?" ”
Zhang Xinyi replied triumphantly: "Yes." Is there anything amazing? ”
Yuan Hong immediately sent a rainbow fart: "Wife, you are so wise." What is a virtuous wife? ”
Zhang Xinyi echoed, "Very salty wife." ”
The two looked at each other and laughed. Yuan Hong suddenly made a look, Zhang Xinyi understood, and the two hummed "My skateboard shoes" and began an awkward dance.
It's so loving, their mode of interaction is very natural, and there is no sense of showmanship.
Zhu Dan said that they always seem to have endless words, and you listen carefully like a bunch of nonsense, but they can talk about it as a love story.
Good feelings, all of them.
In the TV series "Parental Love", father and mother will also chat every night before going to bed.
Once, Anjie excitedly told Jiang Defu: "My brother-in-law is going back."
This sentence overturned Jiang Defu's vinegar jar, and he said sourly: "Your brother-in-law is back, what are you excited about?" Turn off the lights to sleep. ”
Anjie immediately explained.
Jiang Defu "snorted" and then asked, "What does your brother-in-law look like?" ”
Anjie said: "Looks like a table of talent, but not the type I like....."
Hearing this, Jiang Defu secretly smiled.
That night, the two chatted about these innocuous words until they fell asleep.
Their feelings, also in the endless "nonsense", are endless and enviable.
The writer Mai Jia said: "A sign of whether a husband and wife are in love is whether the two parties are willing to talk nonsense, whether they are willing to listen to each other talk nonsense with you." ”
In a relationship, the happiest thing is that you are willing to say it, and he is willing to listen.
People, born lonely, so long for understanding and identification.
If a person is willing to listen to your nagging and have endless "nonsense" with each other, then you are destined to match your souls and match your three views.
Between husband and wife, full of chai rice oil and salt, trivial and bland daily life, but in life, there is a partner who does not say anything, it will be much less lonely.
Thirty thousand nonsense, only disturbing you alone, is a kind of mood, but also a rare luck,
Only people who truly love you will listen to your nonsense tirelessly, respond to your nonsense tirelessly, know that you are cold and warm, and understand your sorrow and joy.
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Remember the bully Wei Lai in the movie "Young You"?
A child who makes people hate and hurt.
After losing the college entrance examination, her father did not speak to her for a whole year.
Her father's indifference made her extremely frightened, and at the same time, it also made her feel dispensable.
Therefore, she uses bullying others to brush up on the sense of existence.
While bringing pain to others, she also sent herself to a road of no return.
However, one of the reasons for this tragedy is the attitude of the father.
When children are frustrated, they all hope to get the comfort and attention of their parents, and the behavior that can make children feel that they are being concerned is that their parents can talk to themselves more.
Wei Lai's father, on the other hand, chose silence.
Yang Qihan once said on the field of "Strange Story": "In fact, a lot of I love you, all hidden in nonsense. ”
This is especially true between parents and children.
Psychologist He Lingfeng once shared about his daily interaction with his daughter.
He said his daughters study in Japan and occasionally call each other because they are busy with each other.
But on every call, they can talk for three or four hours, and there's nothing important, it's basically.
For example, the daughter will take the initiative to tell him which boys have been chasing her recently, what kind of personality they have, and when they are finished, they will let the father analyze them one by one.
As a father, he not only analyzes, but also shares with his daughter how he felt when he was in love, and after decades, he looked back and saw what different understandings he had.
In this way, there is always a pair of chats, making the father-daughter relationship particularly close.
Really smart parents know how to talk to their children.
Because, in your nonsense, the child feels that he is needed and accepted. They are also more willing to take the initiative to approach their parents.
Just like the very warm words in "The Little Prince": The time I wasted on you made you precious.
The same goes for nonsense.
Those nonsense that outsiders seem to be marginal, in the eyes of children, are full of love, so that children can feel completely accepted by their parents.
The family is the soil for the growth of children, parents usually talk more nonsense, children ask more responses, the atmosphere of the family is relaxed and warm, and children can grow up healthily.
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On the Internet, someone once asked such a question: How to describe the relationship between you and your friends?
There is an answer that strikes people's hearts: even if you don't see it for a long time, you can sit down and eat hot pot while nagging. I said that there was a bunch of nonsense, and he could listen to it.
In the Japanese drama "Stepmother and Daughter's Blues", there is such a clip.
Yashiko said: "I saw a very interesting comic and really wanted to find someone to share it immediately, but I couldn't find a friend who could share an irrelevant topic, because it's not work, it's not a big deal. Forget it, it's not worth mentioning. ”
This scene, I see my heart tight, is this not the self in life?
When I was young, I didn't have any worries about talking to my friends. Whether it is complaining or thinking carefully, it can be easily shared and easily recognized.
But the older you get, the more you want to have something to say. It seems that by talking nonsense, it is a waste of time.
In fact, true friends are never afraid to talk nonsense.
Picasso and the installer Gaineck's friendship stems from countless nonsense.
In his later years, Picasso was very lonely, and there was no shortage of friends around him, but those people came to his paintings. No one wants to really talk and nag with him.
He was unusually depressed until the arrival of the installer, Gaineck.
Geineck didn't have much culture, but every day when he rested, he would chat with Picasso and say innocuous things to each other.
Unexpectedly, this installer brought endless happiness to Picasso's later years.
Picasso laid down his baggage, dropped the veil, and chatted with Geineck like a child.
Those nonsense became Picasso's most precious memories in his later years, and Geineck became his true friend.
The adult world, the more grown up the lonelier.
When I grew up, I found that there were very few people who could talk nonsense without restraint.
The nonsense between friends is not only a trust for us, but also a concern.
So, please cherish the friend who can talk nonsense with you at any time, because your nonsense is hidden in the most sincere affection.
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"Ten Thousand Sentences in One Sentence" wrote: "People in the world are everywhere, and those who speak are difficult to find." ”
The most comfortable relationship between people is to be able to talk nonsense.
An intimate relationship must have endless nonsense between each other, such as family, love, and friendship.
In this life, there must always be a place to breathe.
The more I grow up, the more I understand that it is really fortunate to have a person around who can listen to his own nonsense.
Many times, it is this irrelevant, nonsensical, insignificant nonsense that allows love to be conveyed.
Time is easy to get old, please be sure to cherish that, willing to listen to your nonsense people,
Nagging is love, crap is happy, the most comfortable relationship, nothing is more than this.
So, cherish the person who is willing to spend time and talk nonsense with you, he is the one who loves you the most.
Author: Monday Sauce, a girl who wants to drive a caravan to the end of the world, may we become friends.
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