Any celebrity who takes off the cloak of fame and fortune is just an ordinary person, and he also has the seven passions and six desires of ordinary people, joys and sorrows, and the suffering of sentient beings, and so on, and the most famous diplomat in modern times, Gu Weijun, is also the same.
Gu Weijun made outstanding contributions to China's foreign diplomacy, and in 1919 he became a hero in fighting for China's interests because he refused to sign at the Paris Peace Conference and argued for the sovereignty of Shandong, and in 1945, he participated in the drafting of the Charter of the United Nations and signed the Charter on behalf of China.
The real Gu Weijun under the cloak of fame and fortune has had four marriages, and among his four women, one is a green plum bamboo horse, one is the daughter of the prime minister, one is the richest man, and the other is a top celebrity. But this seemingly rich marriage did not bring him a harmonious and beautiful old age, and Gu Weijun's family life in his later years was somewhat flawed.
Gu Weijun's third and fourth wife
Gu Weijun's shortcomings in his later years came largely from his children.
Gu Weijun had three sons and a daughter, of whom his second wife, the premier's daughter Tang Baokey, bore him a son, Gu Dechang and a daughter, Gu Juzhen; his third wife, the richest man, Qianjin Huanghuilan, bore him two sons, Gu Yuchang and Gu Fuchang.
Because of marriage and other reasons, the relationship between these four children and Gu Weijun is not as good as that of ordinary fathers and sons and fathers and daughters.
In his later years, Gu Weijun's second son Gu Yuchang and third son Gu Fuchang, who had always refused to inherit his mantle and chose to engage in business, both died young, which undoubtedly put on the tragic cloak of "white-haired people sending black-haired people" for his life.
In contrast, the two children he and Tang Baoji had given Gu Weijun some comfort: after all, they both inherited their father's mantle and accompanied him to his old age.
However, compared with Gu Dechang, the eldest son of Gu Weijun, who appeared as a great filial piety in her later years, his only daughter, Gu Juzhen, had some estrangement in her relationship with her father, and the origin of this estrangement seemed to be doomed shortly after her birth.
Gu Juzhen was born in 1918, and a few months after her birth, her mother, Tang Baoji, died of an illness for her father's social events. After that, Gu Dechang, who was only three years old, and Gu Juzhen, who was only a few months old, became motherless children.
Gu Weijun and Tang Baojian and their daughter
People say, "I'd rather talk to my wife than my father, who is an official," and this is indeed true, because after my mother's death, my father hurriedly handed them over to the legation staff for work. Poor thing, these two children who had just lost their mothers immediately ushered in the day of losing their fathers.
Perhaps it is felt inappropriate to hand over the child to the staff of the legation for a long time, or perhaps because of love, or perhaps because of the rumors of money, in short, two years after the death of his beloved wife, Gu Weijun married the daughter of Huang Zhonghan, a wealthy nanyang merchant.
Since then, Gu Dechang and Gu Juzhen have both had stepmothers, this year, Gu Dechang was 5 years old, and Gu Juzhen was 2 years old.
In either case, after the death of the mother, the remarriage of the father is more or less beneficial to the children, because it at least means that the family is complete. After that, the two brothers and sisters lived in London with their father and stepmother.
This complete family had given Gu Juzhen happiness, which was evident from her later stories, and she felt that her stepmother Huang Huilan had taken care of her. But to expect this rich man to give them motherly care is obviously excessive.
Huang Huilan herself later recounted her relationship with the children in her memories:
"I only see the kids every morning when they're dressed up and rejoicing, and when I'm occasionally home at night."
This means that Huang Huilan actually pays little attention to her children. After all, she has a lot to keep busy every day.
Compared with Huang Huilan's "busy", his father Gu Weijun is more "busy". At that time, he was busy in the South China Sea and the North, and he successively served as the foreign minister, the chief financial officer and the director of the Customs Commission of the Beiyang government, and also acted as the prime minister...
From this series of positions, it can be seen that Gu Weijun's life is probably similar to that of Gyro. In such a busy situation, he also gave birth to two other children with his wife Huang Huilan, which is really not easy.
After Huang Huilan had her own child, Gu Dechang and Gu Juzhen could naturally get less "care" from her. In fact, throughout her childhood and adolescence, Gu Juzhen felt loneliness the most.
Gu Juzhen once told in her memories that she and her stepmother lived in the deep courtyard of Beijing's Tieshi Hutong, and the courtyard where they lived was actually Chen Yuanyuan's old courtyard, and the biggest feature of this courtyard was that it was large and how big it was, so to speak: there were more than two hundred rooms.
There are many houses and few people, so naturally it is very empty and lonely. She said:
"There are fewer people in the house, and the yard is empty, which makes it seem even more distant from the parents."
In such an environment, Gu Juzhen's loneliness can be imagined. But things have never had two sides, and this loneliness has also made her develop the habit of independent thinking, and at the same time, it has also indirectly cultivated her characteristics of not being afraid of difficulties and perseverance.
Gu Juzhen
After people have ideas, they will progress, they will be more accomplished, and of course, there will be all kinds of ideas. After having thoughts, Gu Juzhen began to have ideas about her father Gu Weijun, and although she understood her father's busyness, she always felt that her father did not have much time to take care of them.
Girls are always delicate, naturally, and they often need more care, and when this care is not responded to: her thoughts will begin to produce all kinds of bad fruits.
Looking at the surrounding peers with their parents, Gu Juzhen was extremely envious, she often fantasized about the day of family reunion, she always thought: "If her mother did not die of illness, how good it would be!" ”
Originally, children who lost their mothers at an early age needed more care than ordinary children, but even if Gu Weijun wanted to get it, he couldn't do it after all. The intensity and difficulty of the work of diplomats in a troubled world are far beyond the imagination of ordinary people.
Little Gu Juzhen knew that her father was very busy, but in her heart she felt that she should also be very important, after all, she was his only daughter. But even if she was the "only one", she often had to communicate with her father by letter. Even when he got home, he was always in a hurry.
When Gu Juzhen became an adult, whenever she thought of this period of growing up without the company of her parents, she was very sad. She had some resentment towards her father. The deeper this resentment, the deeper her pain. After tasting that kind of pain, she always took time to accompany her children as much as possible after becoming a mother, and tried to achieve both family and career as much as possible, and she seemed to be using this way to make up for her former shortcomings.
Looking back, Gu Juzhen's life was heavily influenced by her father. In 1940, by chance, she was offered the opportunity to work in the United Nations Secretariat. After getting this opportunity, Gu Juzhen was very surprised, and she realized that her father did not arrange the road for her, but she collided with it in the dark.
In order to get this job, Gu Juzhen tried her best to refine the matter at hand, and sure enough, soon after, with her efforts, she successfully passed the relevant audit of the United Nations Secretariat. When Gu Juzhen told her father Gu Weijun the news, he was very surprised.
It was also in the year of getting the job at the United Nations that Gu Juzhen also met the favorite of her life, her later husband Qian Jiaqi. Qian Jiaqi was later hailed by his peers as the "great father of the computerization of doses in radiation therapy", and he worked at the United Nations like his wife Gu Juzhen.
In 1941, Gu Juzhen and her husband were married
Later, Gu Juzhen also relied on her talent and efforts to become the director of the Africa Department of the Political Trusteeship and Decolonization Department of the United Nations Secretariat.
At that time, Gu Juzhen was mainly responsible for investigating and studying the political situation in the Portuguese colonies of Angola, Mozambique, Namibia and South Deronisia, which were under colonial status at that time, and reporting to the United Nations in a timely manner. She also manages the United Nations Retirement Fund Committee.
What surprised Gu Weijun even more was that his daughter finally personally changed the "Un Charter" drafted by his father.
It turned out that soon after she first joined the company, Gu Juzhen found that although the Charter of the United Nations clearly stipulates equality between men and women, in fact, there are irregularities in the Staff Regulations and Rules of the United Nations, the most significant of which is welfare treatment.
In order to change the status quo, she was soon elected as the president of the "Special Organization for Equal Rights" (later known as the "Organization for Equal Rights") with unequal female employees.
In this sensational rights protection case, Gu Juzhen's image of being soft on the outside and being tough on the inside and daring to go against tradition began to penetrate the hearts of the people. At the insistence of her and her compatriots, all the provisions of the United Nations Staff Regulations and Rules relating to gender have been amended ...
During this period, the world saw her father's former style from Gu Juzhen, a Chinese woman who always wore various exquisite cheongsams: she was sensitive in mind, responsive, and like her father, she always had a "proud Chinese heart".
In any case, Gu Weijun always retained his Chinese nationality, and so did Gu Juzhen.
In 1971, after the People's Republic of China regained its seat in the United Nations, Gu Juzhen, who was working in the United Nations, was very happy. For this moment, she has repeatedly come forward to do a lot of work for the Chinese delegation. When she told her father Gu Weijun the good news, his eyes were filled with light, and the light was full of pride for the country and his daughter.
At this point, Gu Juzhen truly fulfilled her lifelong ideal: to live like a father. With the passage of time, the estrangement between Gu Juzhen and her father has also slowly become smaller.
In 1979, after 32 years at the United Nations, Gu Juzhen retired from her post at the United Nations. After that, she began to spend more time on her father. This year, Gu Juzhen was 61 years old, and her father Gu Weijun was 92 years old.
During this period, Gu Juzhen often brought her son Qian Qingqing and daughter Qian Yingying to visit her elderly father. Sometimes, Gu Juzhen and her father calmly pulled on the family routine, and sometimes they walked leisurely side by side on the streets of New York.
From a distance, it looked like Gu Juzhen was accompanying her father Gu Weijun. In fact, more often, it is Gu Juzhen who is making up for her past years without her father's company through this kind of belated companionship. Slowly, Gu Juzhen seemed to really enjoy the fatherly love that she could not enjoy when she was a teenager. Her heart was slowly healing.
In 1984, when Gu Juzhen's father was 97 years old, she unexpectedly found the precious safe containing more than 70 envelopes that her father had been trying to find in his later years.
When Gu Juzhen opened this safe, she did not expect that she would untie the complex in her heart.
When Gu Juzhen carefully opened an envelope, she was surprised to find that the envelope contained a report card from her elementary school years and a letter she wrote to her father. At that moment, the past was awakened little by little. Only then did she realize that her father's love for her was so deep and dignified.
However, this love, Gu Juzhen has never been aware of, at that moment, tears blurred her eyes.
It is said that the Father's love is like a mountain, because the mountain never speaks, but the mountain that does not speak, his love, never much. Gu Juzhen took the report card, remembering the rebuke of her father when she saw her report card in the past, she suddenly understood that what was hidden in the reproach was a greater expectation for herself, and this expectation was her father's imperceptible love for himself!
Gu Juzhen, who was completely relieved, wanted to surprise her father, and after that, she and her husband traveled all over Europe and the United States and collected seventy-nine photos of the most representative activities in her father's diplomatic career, ready to show them to him on his birthday.
Unfortunately, however, before he could wait for his 98th birthday in 1985, Gu Weijun accidentally fell, and he died shortly thereafter.
Gu Weijun and Tang Bao key
After her father's death, Gu Juzhen began to make a large plate of her father's photos she found and transport them back to China, and she also transported her father's relics, such as the World Rule of Law Peace Medal and Commemorative Medal, back to China, and founded the country's first exhibition room for famous diplomats...
Thinking about it, if Gu Weijun knew all that his daughter had done for him, he would be very happy in his heart. For Gu Weijun, the release of his daughter is his great fortune, and the prosperity of his descendants is also his great fortune:
Today, most of Gu Weijun's grandchildren live in the United States and have successful careers. They include both PhDs from Harvard University and professors at the University of California. There are also some of them who set their grandfather's career as an ideal in life.