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Almost every day, we face change, but only in size. The price of meat and vegetables in the vegetable market rises and falls, commonplace, who can think that some time ago the price of pork broke the sky and touched the bottom, and the wholesale price reached 5-6 pieces? Then the vegetables came to rise, and the price of the vegetables was close to the price of meat?
Needless to say, the snack bar next to the unit has opened and closed, the white line on the road has been changed to a small yellow line, children have been promoted to new schools, adults have lost their jobs and found new jobs, and such changes have emerged from time to time.
In the face of change, it is not strange to see strange, it is the norm for people. And is it only the situation that has changed? It should not be more than that, and with the situation comes change that brings us a new task: to recognize change and to deal with change.
In the morning, a friend who has not been in contact for a while comes to complain. She said that she had passed the proud and excited period of being admitted to a famous school, and the parting period, and she was currently in a period of anxiety, and she couldn't hold back any longer, and she didn't spit out her depression, and she couldn't stand it anymore.
Friends have two babies, the second baby is currently just the first year of junior high school, the big baby is a well-behaved girl, excellent in academics, january to go to the well-known institutions of higher learning - the University of Tokyo to study.
Listening to her details, it turned out that Dawa was extremely unsuitable for the new subject area, and the friend and husband could not help at any time because they were far away from the ocean, so her whole family fell into endless anxiety, very worried about the child, and also thinking about the reasons for this state. She concluded that Dawa was like this because the cramming education she received from childhood to adulthood hurt her children.
So this pot, should it be "cramming education" to carry it?
If the child does not go to a foreign country across the mountain, in a certain school in the country, or even in the city, is it not that the friend's worry will be less? "Children are worried about thousands of miles" is a common human feeling, however, no matter how much parents worry, they cannot replace their children to take their own life path.
Here, the task given in the face of change is how to plan the child's growth path? By extension, each of us, no matter who it is, cannot escape the task of change, and we all have to be a little more skilled and face change.
First, we must be alert, feel the large and small changes around us, maintain observation, foresee changes, and discover changes, which is the first point to deal with changes.
When you encounter disasters such as earthquakes and mudslides, you can see the abnormal behavior of animals or scenes, so you can warn in advance and take measures to save yourself and others. A few days ago, the Dalian senior high school girl who studied for herself the next night smelled the gas odor and called the police, saving the whole building, this girl kept alert to face abnormalities, which is not worthy of our emulation. Some time ago, the murder of the girl who shocked the beach before going to work was also boiling over for a while, was it that if the girl could have a little vigilance at that time, she could avoid the disaster of killing?
The second is to love change with a joyful posture, whether it is a change that becomes better or worse, to be familiar with it, and when it encounters change again, it is no longer afraid of change.
Since you can't hide from change, simply be friends with "change" and actively embrace change, rather than being indifferent to change, which will give people the confidence to adapt to change, and ultimately make change useful to me. The little sister Niu Yu, who lost her right leg due to the earthquake, stepped on the catwalk with a small steel leg, sassy and beautiful, let us envy, in fact, we can consider it, no matter what changes, we can also become one of the dashing brothers or sisters, let go, no big deal, should drop, find a way to deal with it.
What else? How about changing this magician?
It seems that the method of coping is very high and unpredictable, so the method of teaching children to cope with change should not be simple and clear in two words, right?
The problem is difficult to say, and it is not very complicated to say that it is easy.
It is still necessary to return to the cognitive education of children, education is not only book knowledge, but also life education.
In the life education of children, family education must not be squeezed out of all time by book knowledge, and simply cultivating a small town as a problem maker may really achieve a high score baby, but it will never be the future master who can cope with various changes in life postures.
Responding to changes with invariance should be the best criterion for educating children to cope with change. Let the child understand early that the new school, the new environment, the new knowledge, the change is the environment, the unchanged is his core goal: learning knowledge, if you aim at the core goal, find a way, you can gradually adapt to environmental changes, breakthrough to solve key problems.
Situations and tasks often change;
What remains unchanged is the dream and mission.
No matter how the world changes, the child understands that the core idea in his heart will support him to go to his dream. Through the initial overwhelm of facing change, he will rejoice in his eventual transformation and have the courage and motivation to change.
Is that the case, you say? What's changing around you? Let's talk about it.