Since the start of the autumn semester, it has been two months since the "double reduction" policy has been in place.
When the main front of education returns to schools, family education must also play an important supporting role.
It can be said that under the "double subtraction", the cooperation between school and family has become more important.
The best growth of children requires the joint efforts of parents and teachers.
On the road to educating children, parents and teachers should become the best partners, parents do not protect the short, teachers do not tolerate, children can become more and more excellent.
01, children who lack reverence
It's terrible
There was a boy who, because his father did not have money to buy him an Apple mobile phone, insulted his father:
"You remember for me, if I didn't buy a mobile phone today, I wouldn't have your dad!"
"You look at you like that, you want more pockets and more pockets."
When the boy talked about the excitement, he even asked his father to apologize for kneeling down to himself...
A student of a middle school in Sichuan province was dissatisfied with the daily management of the class teacher and injured the head of the class teacher with a brick in the classroom.
The student smashed the head of the class teacher 9 times in just 10 seconds with a brick, causing the teacher to fall to the ground.
Children without reverence are really terrible.
When you are a child, you have nothing to fear about your parents, nothing to fear about school discipline and school rules, and when you become an adult, you will have no fear of the law, then you will have no bottom line.
And without bottom line awareness, it is a huge disaster for children, it is likely to fall into a thousand years of hatred, maybe once, just once, you have to pay for your entire life.
A professor once said in the "Round Table School": "In the process of human growth, to form something, in addition to love, there must also be reverence." ”
Only a child who is in awe will be able to say something and stop in his deeds.
02, if parents blindly protect the short
It will only spoil the children
Someone once summed up Chinese famous four laws of tolerance:
"Coming", "people are dead", "big New Year's Day", the fourth is the "children are still young" that many people dislike. Many parents always like to use this sentence to protect their children's actions.
There was an 8-year-old boy who touched a girl's ass at the entrance of Shanghai Disneyland.
After many times, the girl said a few words to the little boy, but she was humiliated by the little boy's mother and friends.
"You look like this X and still touch you?" Touch it, you haven't been touched? ”
There was a student in Jiangdu District Experimental Primary School who shouted during class, affecting the order of the class, and the teacher could not bear it, so he let the child go to the office without listening to the lesson, and as a result, the student made a mess of the office.
The teacher informed the parents to come to the school, but the parents beat a rake backwards, framed the teacher for beating the child, and even pulled up a banner at the school gate, which read: "The teacher has repeatedly insulted and beaten the students!" Heaven forbid! ”
Bear children are terrible, but even more terrifying are the parents who protect the short.
It is true that there is nothing wrong with parenting to love children, but you cannot lose three views because of the protection of the calves.
What a terrible recognition for a child who makes a mistake but does not realize it and does not have to pay the price.
Parents blindly protect the short, will only make the child willful, unable to distinguish between right and wrong, doomed to face misfortune.
No one is born with a bear child, and bear children are all used to it.
03, the teacher does not dare to discipline the students
It is the misfortune of education
The old saying goes: "The Son does not teach, the Father is at fault; the teaching is not strict, and the Teacher is lazy." ”
Parents discipline children, teachers discipline students, since ancient times.
But nowadays, parents spoil their children, and teachers dare not discipline students.
An old teacher once lamented: "Selling vegetables is the most afraid of teachers, decoration is most afraid of teachers, tour guides are most afraid of leading teachers, and only students are least afraid of teachers." Society has given teachers too much pressure to expect, but they have not given due respect, and the slightest inattention may be criticized, which is too unfair. ”
Now it is much more difficult for teachers to do, students make mistakes, saying that it is useless to be light, saying that it is heavy, what to do if something goes wrong.
Being complained about being transferred to a post and dismissed is still relatively light.
The teacher who dared to manage was suppressed, and the teacher who wanted to manage saw the fate of the teacher who really managed, and did not dare to manage.
As a result, parents are reluctant to manage, teachers dare not manage, and children are arrogant.
When the teacher loses the ring ruler in his hands and loses the light in his eyes, how can he cultivate a "Maxima"?
Mr. Sun Yuzhong once said: "Don't put the teacher in a situation where you don't dare to manage, because your parents are partial to you, if the teacher is biased against you, in the future, the society will double your sting." ”
The shackles worn on the teacher will eventually lock the child's future.
04, do not fight, do not scold, do not punish
It is impossible to raise excellent children
In recent years, we have often heard statements such as:
"Now advocate happy education, don't beat and scold children without moving, it is not good for children's growth."
"Why punish children? The child is already very tired of going to school, and if you criticize him again, he will be bored with school. ”
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It seems that as long as you don't fight, don't scold, don't punish, you can educate a good child.
But that is not the case with education, nor should it be.
The famous educator Makarenko said: "Education without punishment is an incomplete education." Reasonable punishment is not only legal, but necessary. ”
There is also a saying in "The Courage to Discipline": "To educate a child, you must be ruthless when you are a child, and give him wings when he grows up." ”
Children are like saplings, if they are not pruned and cut in time, they are very easy to grow into a "crooked neck tree".
Blindly giving in to the child is not love, but harm, and it is the greatest irresponsibility to the child.
There is nothing wrong with encouraging the education of children, but it also requires disciplinary measures, and encouragement alone cannot complete education.
Parents and teachers are the most important irreplaceable educators in a child's life.
Appropriate punishment is not only the right of an educator, but also the obligation of an educator.
Harsh love is the hardest thing to give, and it's also the most important.
To be strict as love is to strictly discipline children, not to fight or scold.
05, do not force children to learn "72 changes"
Who will help him block the "81 difficulties" in the future
Ma Yun once said something like this, very realistic and cruel:
If today's parents continue the previous love education, they are reluctant to let their children experience and practice.
After 30 years, children are most likely to find a job.
Because in the future, robots will replace a lot of technology and labor.
If children do not have the corresponding hands-on and thinking skills, they will not be able to compete in that era.
We all hope that children will grow up to have a career, but when raising children, please think more: What kind of world will the future world be? What abilities do children have to be eliminated by society?
This is a rapidly changing world, wolves eat sheep not cruelly, but because of need, not because this society wants to eliminate you, but this society needs me more.
In this society where he is not careful, if he does not force his child to learn 72 changes now, who will resist the 81 difficulties for him in the future?
Forward-thinking parents understand that forcing their children now will reduce detours in the future.
Visionary teachers know that only by disciplined fiercely can children become instruments in the future.
The depth of love, the depth of responsibility, good parents, good teachers are with a little "desperate feelings".
Only in this way can children have the opportunity to become a better version of themselves.
06, on the road to education
Teachers and parents should be the best partners
In my more than 20 years of teaching career, I have met various parents, but the most impressive are:
There was once a student who spoke loudly during class, was criticized by me for crying, and finally had to find a parent.
I thought that parents would protect their children, but she did not expect that she only asked the child one sentence: "Is the teacher fierce?" ”
The student replied, "Fierce." ”
The parent replied with two words: "Hello! ”
After saying these two words, the parents turned to me and said, "Teacher, if the child does not do the right thing, you will criticize it fiercely." ”
I think that meeting such a reasonable parent is a kind of luck for the teacher.
Only when parents understand, support and cooperate with the work of teachers can home and school be truly harmonious and children can truly benefit.
As one education expert put it: "The better parents and teachers work together, the more successful their children's education will be." ”
Teachers and parents, the love for children is the same, eager for children to grow, hope that children become better.
Love and trust are the best things that teachers and parents can bring to children.
Only with love and trust can children's education blossom and bear fruit.
For the sake of children's future, teachers and parents should become golden partners, working together, practicing and growing together.
Everything is for the growth of children, please parents and teachers must stand shoulder to shoulder.