The most perfect state of love is the "unity of spirit and flesh".
Only love, no sex, or only sex, no love, is an incomplete relationship.
Now there is a popular word: spiritual love. This is actually the same as "soul mate".
But how far can this kind of love without "sex" go?
Love is a complex emotional synthesis.
If you want a perfect love, you must explore it from its various elements.
The most basic is two things: physical love and spiritual love.
Carnal love is the most intuitive love between the sexes. For example, at the beginning of the meeting, you will be attracted to each other's appearance; you will get pleasure in holding hands, hugging, kissing; you will enjoy the satisfaction of intercourse with each other...
This kind of love is very important. Because the two will produce "oxytocin" in chemistry because of the attraction of the body, thus creating a feeling of "attachment".
The strengthening of love makes the relationship between the two more and more close.
Therefore, the love of the flesh is not something that is dispensable.
Some people say that to love someone, it is not necessary to get or possess them. However, love without skin kisses often goes far.
The "sex" we mean is not a simple act of copulating, but a loving sex.
The philosopher Russell once described it this way: Love renews our whole life, just as it did in the plants after the great drought. There is no love sex, but there is no such power. After a moment of amusement, all that remains is exhaustion, disgust, and the emptiness of life.
Love that has lost sexual communication is difficult to be supported by reality.
Singer Cai Qin and director Yang Dechang are such a sexless couple. They spent 10 years in a sexless marriage, maintaining the emotions of "platonic communication". Yang Dechang said: "We do not let this feeling be mixed with any impurities, and we cannot accept any blasphemy and bondage. ”
However, until he fell in love with the pianist Peng Kaili, who was 18 years younger than himself, he soon divorced Cai Qin and gave birth to two children.
So, a marriage without sex is essentially a "loveless" relationship. This kind of love, which seems noble and pure, actually cannot withstand the test.
And spiritual love makes physical love go to a higher realm.
Only sexual love, like an empty shell, loses the desire to explore after mating, making people lonely and empty.
This kind of relationship also does not stand the test, and it is easy to make people bored.
There is no soul-intersecting sex, and there is no difference between it and animals. In reality, many couples are in this state. According to the survey, 80% of couples in divorce cases are experiencing sexual discord.
Although the two lived together, they had no spiritual communication and shared the same bed and dreams. Chai rice oil and salt consume passion, and feel lonely in intimate relationships.
The famous sexologist Michelina wrote in the book The Art of Sex:
Everyone dreams of playing an important role in life and having an audience that loves them. But only those lovers who go hand in arm with us can give us a sense of security and recognition of our self-worth.
Only the love that touches the heart can make a person truly open his body and enjoy the warmth between each other.
Spiritual communication is a window to open inner desires and needs; and physical pleasure makes love more extended vitality and vitality.
The love of the unity of spirit and flesh can make a relationship more closely linked.
The love triangle theory is described as follows: Love consists of three basic components, passion, intimacy, and commitment. Passion is emotional fascination, intimacy is spiritual warmth, and commitment is the guarantee of long-term maintenance.
Both physical and mental, both are indispensable.
The perfect marriage relationship must be the harmonious symbiosis of spirit and flesh. The absence of any one ingredient can cripple the relationship.
Love and desire are originally twins. Where is the sex without love; where is the attraction of the flesh, where is the love.
If love is long-lasting, the soul and body must always go on the road together.