A few days ago, my friend complained to me that her husband is a straight man of steel, will not take the initiative to accommodate himself, every time she has to remind her to know how to buy gifts, and in order to buy gifts several times.
In the end, although they all received gifts, they always felt unhappy and almost interesting.
She hopes that her husband can take the initiative to understand what he needs and thinks, rather than pushing and taking a step.
Every time she received a gift for the holiday, she would send a circle of friends, but only she knew it, and she was not as happy as described.
I asked her why she cared so much about holiday gifts.
She said: There are gifts, which means that we still have feelings, gifts are things that we can't lack in our feelings, unless I divorce, it has no meaning of existence.
She is a typical love brain, feelings greater than the sky.
Even if you have two children, you still want to stick to each other all the time.
After listening to me laugh, laugh at her like a little girl.
Laugh at her childishness, but she is so serious about feelings.
Love is never expressed through something.
The best gift is never something, but an expected warmth and an unexpected surprise.
And the gift to be given is just an object, no surprises.
If a man is really obsessed with a woman, he won't necessarily buy her a lot of gifts, but he will definitely prepare surprises carefully.
Moreover, he will consciously not need to be reminded.
It is too simple to define the feelings of adults with gifts.
Marriage is mixed with too much chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, if you have to find a carrier of love, everyone will be very tired.
Three meals a day of small talk, the accompaniment of the four seasons of the year, a lifetime of regretless pay, this is the best proof of feelings.
Friends want to maintain the relationship with their husbands, always want to use one thing to prove the existence of love, and hope that their husbands can express their love for her through gifts.
But I always need to remind my husband who buys gifts that he doesn't seem to like this way very much.
Be yourself, don't put too much pressure on each other, people with independent thoughts, have their own way of loving each other.
The gift is only an expression of love, deliberately pursuing these appearances that do not necessarily represent true feelings, but instead bind both people.
Doing housework together after work, accompanying you on weekends to travel around, bringing back your favorite snacks and fruits when you come home, and showing up first when you need them, these are more real than the feelings brought by gifts.
In the relationship, be sure to give yourself space, don't always stick to each other, and don't pin your hopes on each other.
After a long time, you will be very tired, and the other party will feel disgusted.
Two people who are close to each other also need to have their own space.
In life, I like to quietly prepare gifts for my partner, but I don't like him asking me for them.
What I took the initiative to prepare was with the intention of surpriseing him;
He took the initiative and crossed the boundaries of my heart.
If the other party is willing to give, he will naturally pour out his heart and lungs to please you.
On the contrary, there is no need to find yourself unhappy.
Everyone's definition of love is different, and the way love is expressed is also different.
If you forcibly change each other, it will consume each other's patience and mental strength, and eventually become torture each other.
There is no need to dwell on those illusory definitions.
It is said that roses represent love, does sending you means that I must love you?
It was just that the merchant gave her a nice coat in order to increase the value of the flower.
Feelings are never based on gifts.
Surprises are also harvested from unguardedness.
Grandpa had never given Grandma any gifts in his life, but he would give all the money he earned to Grandma for safekeeping.
What he wanted to buy and how to spend it he never asked.
Love you and you will give you all I have and leave it at your disposal.
Instead of you asking for a little, I give a little.
A person's life is very long, and this marriage will be very long.
If you want to keep the relationship going for a long time.
Try to think more for each other, a few more concerns, less blame, and everything is not forced.
The effort does not get results, at best it is disappointment.
And if you don't get results, you will be angry.
But I believe that after paying, there will be results, no matter how much.
Becoming a person who gives energy to the other party and makes the other person warm and happy is the best gift.