Teacher Chen Guo of Fudan University once said: "Making friends is not because friends are useful. We can't make friends just to take advantage of them. ”
True friends are useless.
Everyone gathers for karma, shares the same spirit, exchanges hearts for hearts, and cherishes each other.
I fly yellow and soar, you don't cling; you are full of pots, and I am not jealous.
I have nothing, you don't leave; you're poor, I don't laugh.
Only in this way can we become the best friend.
Time knows people, and it is difficult to know the heart.
Useless friends can walk together for a lifetime.
I once saw a story online that 19-year-old Jason Svespen once created a website that received 9 million visits to the page within months.
This made him appear in Fortune magazine in the United States and quickly became known to the public.
Financial institutions and investors saw the business opportunities in him and offered him loans.
It didn't take long for Jensen Svesper's company to go public and the stock to go up.
He became the object of all the media attention, and people thought he was going to be the next Bill Gates.
He is in the limelight, he can attend various parties and dinners every day, and many successful people make friends with him, and the scenery is unlimited for a while.
Due to the sudden change in the stock market, Jensen's stock fell sharply and eventually had to declare bankruptcy.
In just a few days, Jensen Svespen went from being a rich man to a penniless ordinary person.
He wanted to rebuild the website and make a comeback, but when he was preparing for the funds, he found that his friends, who used to call him brothers and brothers, avoided him one by one.
Afterwards, Jensen Svespen lamented:
"When you're accomplishing something, the people around you aren't necessarily your true friends. Only when you are most helpless, the person who helps you is the real friend who is good to you. ”
Mr. Yang Dai once said:
Only in humility can we have the most opportunity to see the truth of human nature.
Man, after all, is a creature that seeks profit and avoids harm.
When you are happy with the spring breeze, you will find that you are surrounded by friends and everyone is willing to help.
And when you fall into a low, you will find that everyone avoids you and has a cold attitude.
As the saying goes: "The poor are in the downtown area and no one asks, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains." ”
Those fake friendships follow the benefits, and they sneak away when you get into trouble.
In the TV series "Big River", the friendship between Song Yunhui and Lei Dongbao is commendable.
Song Yunhui is Lei Dongbao's brother-in-law, and after his sister's death, although there is no such relationship, two people with similar temperaments and personalities are still friends.
In order to rapidly develop the xiaolei family's enterprises, Lei Dongbao borrowed millions of dollars and built several factories.
However, because they do not understand management, the efficiency of the enterprise is not good, and the monthly profit is only enough to repay the interest of the bank.
Song Yunhui works in another city, and the two don't have much contact, but they care about each other.
Song Yunhui heard about the situation in Lei Dongbao's factory and suggested that he slow down the speed of development and improve the quality of products.
Unexpectedly, Lei Dongbao not only did not listen, but also laughed at Song Yunhui's long time as a senior official and managed too widely.
In the face of Lei Dongbao's attitude, Song Yunhui was very angry, but still privately inquired about Lei Dongbao's situation and cared about the situation of his factory.
Later, Lei Dongbao was unjustly embezzled of collective assets, and a very important capital contribution contract could not be found, and he had difficulty arguing.
People around him ignored his plight, and some even fell into the rocks.
Xiao Hui, who learned of the situation, rushed back to his hometown at the first time, trying to prove Lei Dongbao's innocence.
He couldn't care less about eating or resting, so he traveled in many directions, looking for evidence with all his might.
In the end, the funding contract that proved Lei Dongbao's innocence was finally found by Song Yunhui, who successfully saved Lei Dongbao, who was almost sentenced to death.
Good friendships are separate and hectic, but they care about each other.
It is not noisy, but it can withstand the erosion of time and the baptism of time.
There is a saying that says well, who is good and who is bad, sees things clearly; who does what is not, and who suffers sees the truth.
Good friends will treat you sincerely, will not leave because you are in trouble, but will lend a helping hand in difficult times.
You know, the icing on the cake may not be sincere, but sending charcoal in the snow is the truth.
Those who are not driven by interests and do not abandon you are friends who should be cherished with their hearts.
In our lifetime, we will meet many people, and we will call him friends.
Especially in today's social networks, you can pull a group at will and build a circle to attract friends.
The number of friends in our address book is hundreds or thousands.
I always feel that the more people in the address book, the better, maybe one day it will come in handy.
These unfiltered networks are all because we are pursuing the "principle of usefulness."
But the reality is that most people have only one side.
I have even forgotten what I met in the first place.
Wang Tong of the Sui Dynasty wrote in his "Zhongshu" (中說):
"Eli intersects, and when the benefit is exhausted, it is scattered." Intersect with potential, and defeat with defeat. Intersect with power, and if you lose power, you will abandon it. Intersect with love, and break it hurts. Only by the fellowship of the heart can it be made for a long time. ”
This means that friends made because of interests will be separated when there are no benefits to be made.
People who become friends because of their rights are abandoned when they lose their rights.
Friends who are tied up because of human feelings will be separated when human feelings disappear.
And only friends who exchange hearts for hearts are long-term friends.
Mencius once said: "The acquaintance of people is valuable in knowing each other, and the knowledge of people is in the knowledge of the heart." ”
Make friends, don't care what benefits he can bring you, and don't care about the shadow of the twilight.
As long as you can talk loudly, talk about wine, and share hardships, it is rare to know yourself.
Not disturbing in the trough is the stubbornness of adults.
Dare to disturb in the trough, is the tenderness between friends.
With the heart to heart, the rest of the life is sad and happy, and the waves of the years are remembered.
I saw a sentence on the Internet: "We spend our whole lives, but to find a common soul in the vast sea of people to fill the loneliness of life." ”
Between good friends, most of the time, is an exchange of hearts, a resonance of emotions.
Make useless friends, not driven by interests, in order to rest assured to put into the heart.
People do not understand until middle age that those seemingly useless friendships are the most useful friendships.
For the rest of your life, may you not cling to glory, do not weigh the pros and cons, and do not be careful in words and deeds.
There are three or two confidants, accompanied by chatting about poetry and songs, talking about piano, chess, calligraphy and painting.
I can spend a poetic life with useless people.
Author | Kiyoichi, see the world with fiery eyes.
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