Cangyang Gyatso once wrote: "The world has a double complete law, and it is not as good as coming and not living up to the qing", both fresh fish and bear paws, where there is a perfect law in the world, the gain and loss are accompanied, and there is a sacrifice and a gain is life.
The life of Zhao Xiaolan, the Chinese-American Secretary of Transportation, is the most true portrayal, she was born famous, moved to the United States in her early years, had a smooth career, and sat all the way to the position of US Secretary of Transportation. In a high position, she was happy to be a good couple, a harmonious husband and wife, and a model couple in the eyes of others.
But behind Zhao Xiaolan's bright and beautiful, there is a lifetime of regrets, there is no experience of motherhood, a lifetime of childlessness, Zhao Xiaolan's life to the world to interpret a most real life drama.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > one: born into a rich family, moved to the United States</h1>
Born in Taiwan, Zhao Xiaolan followed her father Zhao Xicheng to the United States in 1961 and became a Chinese American. Zhao Xiaolan was born into a rich family, and his father Zhao Xicheng was a well-known Chinese ship king and the founder of Fumao Group, successfully building a transnational shipping business empire.
Although her mother, Zhu Mulan, is a full-time housewife, she has obtained a master's degree and attaches great importance to the family education of Zhao Xiaolan. It is born in such a rich family that it lays a good foundation for the formation of Zhao Xiaolan's personality and career development.
In 1975, Zhao Xiaolan graduated from the Mannholian Girls' School in the United States, and in 1979, Zhao Xiaolan obtained a master's degree from Harvard Business School with excellent results, and successfully entered the United States Citibank and was appointed as a senior accountant.
Since then, Zhao Xiaolan has entered a period of great career development, stepping into politics in 1984, becoming a Scholar in the White House of the United States, and serving as the vice president of international finance of the US Commercial Bank in 1986. During this period, Zhao Xiaolan gradually grew into an outstanding politician, and her experience working in several large multinational companies greatly expanded her horizons.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > two: career love double harvest, but left regrets</h1>
Perhaps because of Zhao Xiaolan's ability, in 1988, at the age of 37, Zhao Xiaolan was appointed by then-President Reagan as the chairman of the Federal Maritime Commission, and in 1989, he was directly promoted to the position of deputy secretary of transportation of the United States, ushering in the peak of his career, and soon after devoted himself to philanthropy, serving as the chairman of the United Charitable Foundation of the United States.
Zhao Xiaolan, who has a successful career, has also ushered in his own love. Zhao Xiaolan met the later Senate Republican leader Mitch McConnell on the way to politics, and the two people with the same political views hit it off, and after working together for many years, the two fell in love, and in 1993, Zhao Xiaolan and Mitch were happily married.
Zhao Xiaolan did not stop the pace of politics because of his marriage, on the contrary, Zhao Xiaolan's political career went to a higher level. Zhao Xiaolan relied on his connections and abilities to help her husband Mickey successfully run for the Bundesrat.
Later, In 2001, Zhao Xiaolan was nominated by President Bush as secretary of labor, becoming the first Chinese in U.S. history to enter the cabinet and the first Asian-American female minister. Three years ago, Zhao Xiaolan swore an oath to become the eighteenth U.S. Secretary of Transportation, ushering in a highlight moment in her life.
From the above, Zhao Xiaolan's life is undoubtedly very successful, but as far as Zhao Xiaolan herself is concerned, her life is not complete. In a talk show, Zhao Xiaolan tearfully said, "I regret not having children, but life cannot be perfect."
Zhao Xiaolan's life is indeed very successful in the eyes of the world, born well, successful in career, harvesting love, and a perfect life. But for Zhao Xiaolan, not having children is a regret in her life, and she can't feel the feeling of motherhood, which may be an incomplete life in Zhao Xiaolan's view.
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Why would Zhao Xiaolan be childless all his life?
The first is the result of Zhao Xiaolan's own choice. From the above description, it can be seen that after Zhao Xiaolan moved to the United States from Taiwan, he almost devoted himself to his studies and career.
After graduating from the girls' school, preparing for the Harvard Business School master's examination, and graduating with excellent results in all A after entering Harvard, behind the success is not only Zhao Xiaolan's talent, but more importantly, her unremitting efforts.
Or that Zhao Xiaolan chose to struggle when he was young and did not consider getting married and having children. After choosing to enter politics, Zhao Xiaolan did not have the opportunity and time to consider this life event.
And this is bound to affect Zhao Xiaolan's career, it can be said that if Zhao Xiaolan chose to get married and have children first, it is likely that there will be no US Secretary of Transportation Zhao Xiaolan behind.
Moreover, Zhao Xiaolan has passed the age of optimal fertility. In 1993, 42-year-old Zhao Xiaolan married Mickey, a 10-year-old who was older than himself, both of whom had their own political ambitions and still chose careers.
After several spring and autumn seasons, when Zhao Xiaolan, who had a successful career and had realized her political ambitions, began to consider the issue of having children, she found that she and her husband seemed to have lost the opportunity to have children.
Looking back, what remains will be the regret of Zhao Xiaolan's life. If time can be turned back, Zhao Xiaolan may still choose the current path, regret has long been doomed.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > four: life is not perfect</h1>
Zhao Xiaolan's regret for his life without children tells us many truths that have been used in his life. In a sense, life is a choice, walking at the crossroads of life, no matter where you go, you will eventually give up a beautiful thing.
People's desires are endless, but beautiful things cannot be all obtained, just like Zhao Xiaolan's career, what is lost is the feeling and experience of motherhood. The ancient wisdom of the East has long told us that fish and bear paws cannot be combined, and the consequence of both will be to have nothing and achieve nothing.
In the same way, we can't give up life because it is not perfect, and the value of realizing life often lies not in how much you lose, but how much you gain.
Although Zhao Xiaolan has no children in her life, it is undeniable that she is more successful than most people in this world, and the wealth and status she has is unattainable by many people in their lifetime, she has achieved the maximization of her own life value, and regret cannot cover up the fact that Zhao Xiaolan succeeded.
The same is true of our life, giving up is often for better progress, life is not perfect, but life can be colorful, regret is not part of life.