On the way to the business trip, Amin's WeChat address book received a prompt requesting to accept a friend, Amin habitually clicked "accept", and then became a "friend" with a person named Lanzi. People often add Amin as friends in WeChat, so he doesn't care. Not long after, the other party sent a message, "Do you remember who I am?" ”
Intuition told Amin that this man named LanZi must be an "old acquaintance". Generally, ordinary Plus WeChat friends, after passing, either know each other or directly introduce themselves. A sentence of "Do you remember who I am?" He really couldn't remember who it was, so he turned over the other party's circle of friends, unfortunately, the other party was set to be visible for three days, so he couldn't know the identity of the other party at all.
Through a conversation, a bit of understanding, it turned out that Lan Zi, who had added his friend, was actually the girl he liked fifteen years ago, and even had the idea to chase. Fifteen years have passed, although Lanzi's memory has gradually faded in his mind, but through a weChat exchange, Lanzi's impression has become clearer and clearer in his mind, and he recalls her original appearance: not tall, a tall long hair, a round face, a very young and sunny girl...
Amin's heart suddenly rippled.
Amin ben does not like to talk much, is a boy who likes to be silent, but when he met Lanzi, he and she began to chat about no fun, as long as he picked up the mobile phone, he thought of sending her WeChat, accompanying her to reminisce, listening to songs together, feeling sad together...
But the reality is that Amin is married, his wife is beautiful, and he has a lovely son, Lanzi has also become a family, a pair of lovely children.
At first, Amin didn't think much about it, anyway, they were already married, and each of them was still relatively happy. But as the conversation progressed, they began to talk about everything, and finally talked about sex. You know, although society is now open, men and women, in addition to husband and wife, basically talk about sexual discoloration. But they chatted anyway.
A fact must be said that Amin is the wife and son of the hot kangtou, and Lanzi, the husband works outside to earn money, she takes two children to study at home.
As a person who has come to marriage, we all know that this situation is the most likely to cause trouble. In fact, Amin knew in his heart that in the chat matter, he had already cheated. In his view, spiritual infidelity is equivalent to infidelity.
After returning from a business trip, Amin couldn't wait to meet LanZi, it was okay not to see, as soon as they met, his heart was even more turbulent. But Amin is a man who cares about his family, and Lan Zi is also busy picking up and dropping off his children every day, and he is also very concerned about his family. So, more often, it is still chatting through WeChat. They both know that he is the husband of a woman, she is the wife of a husband, all have a home, are happy, cannot be destroyed, have more ideas, can only stop, and agree to be the most intimate friends.
Later, when she was alone, Amin inadvertently hugged Lanzi, and she did not resist and let him hold it. Under the influence of hormones, his courage also grew, and he actually had the urge to kiss her.
Of course, after that, they often hugged, often kissed each other... In Amin's view, they have long exceeded the boundaries of friends, but Lanzi does not think so, has been sticking to his bottom line, the explanation he gave is that for many years, it is okay to hug and kiss, but no matter how Amin insists, Lanzi still adheres to this principle, at most staying at the moment of kissing.
After a kiss, Amin wanted to be wrong, his hands and feet were a little irregular, and Lan Zi pinched him hard and bit him. He was bitten and woken up, and after that, Amin was deeply reflecting on their current relationship.
What kind of deformed relationship is this? Speaking of confidants, I have gone beyond the boundaries of confidants, saying that I am a lover, but I have really never slept...
Amin was very painful, in fact, Lan zi was also really painful. After all, they are all adults, and they are all tacit about sex. Amin reflected deeply on what had happened during this time when he knew Lanzi. Both of them fell into deep thought...
In fact, their initial idea is quite simple, just really be a confidant, to be the best, the most intimate red (blue) confidant.
But is there really a confidant of the opposite sex in this world?
When people are in pain and sorrow, that is, when they are most helpless, they all want to have a person who can truly understand you, which is the so-called confidant. In the face of confidants, your heart is undefended and most easily moved. When you are most vulnerable, she (he) tends to be emotional when she wants to help you the most. This relationship is changed by emotion, and the confidant becomes a lover, transitioning from friendship to love. Therefore, confidants of the opposite sex are easy to "touch the mine" in the process of communication.
Today we are talking about the opposite sex confidant in reality, which is often said to be red face (blue face), so it has nothing to do with the literal. What is the relationship between confidants of the opposite sex? It can be roughly understood as a delicate and delicate friendship relationship, which is between love and friendship, further is love, and one step back is friendship. This kind of relationship that will "touch the mine" if you are not careful is not easy to control.
When you have emotional problems, the first thing you think of is to tell your confidant of the opposite sex that when you encounter troubles in life and are unhappy, the confidant is your listener and your reference. After all, some things are impossible to say to others, including your own friends, your own relatives, so what you are looking for is a confidant of the opposite sex. As the saying goes, the one who can have a red face must be the best among men, and the one who can do a red face must also be a phoenix among women, so it is difficult to find a confidant. The original intention of Amin and Lanzi in the above story is also to become confidants, and Amin also longs for such a confidant in his heart. However, through some interaction, I found that between the opposite sex, how difficult is it to become a confidant who really does not "touch the mine"?
If the confidant of the opposite sex wants to be long-lasting, two people must eliminate the attraction between the opposite sex, with the same thought, in her (his) heart can maintain a certain distance, this distance is not physical distance, but the distance between the heart and the heart, unmoving, not hiding profit and no desire, is a pure male-female relationship, only when the other party is a spiritual existence. Apart from this, any one person's idea of color will not last long.
People are not sages, people have seven passions and six desires, and it is really difficult to grasp this degree. Through numerous emotional examples, it has been found that it is possible for the opposite sex to be a lifelong confidant? It's not absolutely nothing, the probability is about 0.000001%.
The opposite sex knows that it can be encountered but not sought. It doesn't matter if you can find it or not, no matter how far this path between love and friendship can support, and cherish the moment!