Today, let's go to a spiritual SPA together, which was brought to you by the gold medal "masseuse" Zhou Guoping - "I like life as it is".
I believe that there is a book jun, which is a dose that can take you out of the entanglements of life and fight against the emotional downturn.
Speaking of Zhou Guoping, it is really a name that we can often see on the language test papers. He was a great writer and a profound philosopher.
The most important thing is that he can combine literary creation and philosophical research with a "snap", and explore the confusion of life and the meaning of life with everyone without any sense of violation.
Zhou Guoping's works often do not have a strong chicken soup flavor, it is more like a plate of refreshing appetizers, scraping oil and degreasing for us who eat more big fish and meat.
"I like life as it is" is a collection of essays on speculative life compiled by Mr. Zhou Guoping himself.
The whole book revolves around "love", "loneliness", "adversity", "death" and other major life propositions that everyone cannot escape, and admonishes us to live ourselves and be good children of nature. He said:
"Life requires everyone to learn to be lonely and introspective, to grow alone, to love hard, to embrace, to explore the soul. Among all the responsibilities in the world, the most fundamental responsibility is the responsibility for your own life, truly becoming yourself, and living out your unique personality and value. ”
In this regard, some shujun deeply believes. There are also the following points that I think are very practical and I would like to share with you.
Solitude is also an ability
In the past, there were also books that were brainwashed by a lot of poisonous chicken soup, such as "to open your heart to warm the people around you", "learn to be friends with the people who hurt you", etc., and would force themselves to go to many social occasions to meet new friends, try to talk and laugh with everyone, and pretend to be a social master.
In fact, it is nothing more than to let everyone know that I have many friends and road ziye, and I want to prove that I am an interesting person, but how tired I am so tired is that only I know.
There is a passage in "I Like Life as It Is" that gives a very accurate definition of this behavior of Youshujun: People who lack the ability to be alone only have a "false self" and therefore only obey, rather than experience the external world.
The world is of course meaningless to him as an object to which he must adapt, not a place to satisfy his subjectivity.
This passage may seem awkward to read, but it's really the same thing when you taste it carefully. In an era where the word "fast" is the first, we need to have the ability to integrate quickly.
This also highlights the value of the ability to be alone. In the author's professional written expression, it is said, "The reason why man needs to be alone is for the sake of inner integration... Only through this process of integration can foreign impressions be digested by the self, and the self can become a system that is both independent and growing. ”
Mr. Zhou Guoping said that he was not suitable for communication by nature, and on most occasions he either felt that the other party was boring or afraid that others would feel bored.
Worse still, he is unwilling to put up with the other person's hollow boredom, nor is he too lazy to bother to make himself interesting, and this is the ability to be alone, without affecting others and without feeling uneasy.
This feeling of not consuming a lot of time in human feelings is really cool, please be sure to experience it!
Just the right amount of love
Regarding the vital part of life, "Partner and Marriage", the book writes:
"It's best for two people to meet with both love and respect for loneliness. Encounter is the greatest luck in life, at this moment. The two souls recognized each other at the same time and shouted in surprise, "It's you!" "In a person's life, as long as there is such a moment, love and loneliness will be settled."
Indeed, encounters are always beautiful, and no matter how strange a person you are, the sea of life, you will eventually meet the whale that is at the same frequency as you.
The appearance of this TA is enough to end your loneliness of "high and low", TA will not waste your love in vain, and will understand your loneliness and temperament.
Some shujun wants to say that the time of skin gelatin is really only a few years, and those who want to love should love as soon as possible, and I hope that all of you here can live a happy life without shame and shame like a prince and a princess.
Zhou Guoping also wrote in this chapter that it is necessary to "tolerate accidental cheating behavior", although this text has triggered a rethinking of the definition of a partner by Shujun, but this view, as a sunny straight man, Youshujun has reservations.
Know what you want
It is said that many young and middle-aged people who are in an awkward age like Youshujun seem to have reached a watershed that is easy to admit their fate, and have begun to accept the setting that they are ordinary people and want to live a mediocre life.
We often shrugged our faces and lived in despair. In an era of information transparency, we are often easy to see the success of others, watching everyone in the circle of friends "don't face" the show off, are anxious that others are better than themselves, and feel sad for paying without seeing the return.
But there is such a passage in the book, and some books think it is very reasonable:
"Because I don't know what I want, and then look at someone else, he has no I have, and I am anxious." A person who knows what he wants, he must be in line with his temperament and disposition, and he will be calm and calm after pursuing these things. ”
The pursuit of the most authentic and natural, suitable for their own, is never disconnected, free and at ease.
Some scholars feel that when a certain point of view in a book happens to solve your current confusion, this feeling of getting the most precious treasure can be compared with "lost and regained".
"I Like Life As It Is" is such a philosophical sketch that can hit your careful thinking at any time, opening up you to think about new dimensions of life in minutes and teaching you how to settle down in your own life.
Zhou Guoping said that we can only live in the present forever, if we want to be great, we will be great now, if we want to be detached, we will be happy now.
Come on, take advantage of the present, to take responsibility for your own life.