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Author: The Healing Girl
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The film "Long Days on Earth" has received a lot of attention since its release, and the male and female protagonists in it have won awards at the Berlin Film Festival. At the same time, it was also named one of the top ten films of 2019 by the Guardian.
This movie, I have seen three times, each time it touched me very much, the pain in ordinary life, alienation, resentment, redemption, great love, selflessness, the beauty of human nature, but also the darkness of human nature, it is these that constitute the real world.
The two families, which should have been in friendship for a long time, resulted in the drowning of the child, leaving the two families with heavy suffering. Time will take away the youthful appearance, but it will not take away the pain in the depths of the heart.
This movie is about education and friendship, and I suddenly read the truth of a marriage through a detail that I was thinking about and fearing.
The night Yao Jun received Jasmine's call, he brushed his teeth, actually picked up the scissors and cut his beard, and told Li Yun that he was going to go to the city and whether he wanted to help her bring anything.
At that time, Li Yun looked at him, which was a woman's sixth sense, and detected the strangeness of men. So later, after Yao Jun went to the city and returned home after having a relationship with Jasmine, although Li Yun was light on the surface, she already understood everything.
In the face of all this, she first filed for divorce, and then committed suicide and was rescued, and she never mentioned it again. Her husband, who has been with her for many years, cheated, but she still chose to forgive after fighting.
This point makes many people uncomfortable, Yao Jun obviously knows that after losing the child, Li Yun only has half a life left, and her only life depends on Yao Jun, but he still chooses to have a relationship with Jasmine. Isn't this a knife stabbed in the heart of his wife?
Sometimes men are really selfish, allowing themselves to vent their bitterness but forgetting their pillow people.
Many people also do not understand, why does Liyun choose to forgive? Because she has no choice, this is the most helpless thing in marriage.
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When it comes to forgiving men for cheating, many people will scold the woman for being unclear and despicable in love. Of course, not forgiving is a cool and very pleasant thing.
But life is cruel, and many women simply don't have a choice. A woman like Li Yun, conscientious, a lifetime of family management, there is no big dream, the only hope is that the family is safe and happy.
It's just that the day is not what people want, the child drowns, the second child is beaten, and the infernobiality is lost, so that she loses some hope in life.
The original warm and lovely Li Yun, after experiencing a series of tribulations, the whole person lost his aura, and his face was always full of sorrow. As Yao Jun said, the child was gone, and Li Yun's heart was dead.
Life is already difficult, and Yao Jun's derailment is undoubtedly the last straw that crushes the camel. After the suicide, Yao Jun desperately saved her, and only then did he rekindle her hope of living.
Since he is not even afraid of death, what is there to be afraid of when her husband cheats? Perhaps it was also that time when she came back from the ghost gate, she saw hope in Yao Jun and gave her the motivation to forgive.
In fact, no matter whether she has experienced life and death or not, Li Yun can only choose to forgive, if she is really separated from Yao Jun, where can she go? No children, no home, living alone, that's not the best option.
There are Yao Jun around, at least the wind and rain are coming, and there are people who send umbrellas. say
Divorce is very simple, but for some ordinary women, there is no qualification for divorce, from the moment of marriage, it is destined to be connected with the pillow person, whether it is poor and rich or sick life and death, even if it is a big grievance, it will break its teeth and swallow it in the stomach.
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Men who cheat are at fault, but women who forgive cheating are often criticized. For example, Tong Liya and Zheng Xiuwen, after the forgiveness, no one sympathized with them, and all that was left was insults: "You deserve it."
What's even more ridiculous is that no one puts themselves in your shoes, they just demand your marriage by their own standards.
Remember that Tong Liya originally took over a TV series, the screenwriter set the persona to forgive her husband for cheating, many fans have come forward to insult, saying that Tong Liya gave a bad head to women, and then she had to give up starring in this TV series.
There was also the exposure of Zheng Xiuwen, Xu Zhi'an and Huang Xinying, and the two of them became street rats, and everyone shouted and beat.
Everyone thought that Zheng Xiuwen would choose divorce, but he did not expect zheng Xiuwen to write a long paper, saying that this was a common lesson for two people. For a time, public opinion was in an uproar, and everyone said that Zheng Xiuwen was not worth it.
In fact, the value is not worth it, only the parties are clear. Two people have been together for many years, even if there is no love, there are deep feelings, and it is not so easy to say that it is not so easy to let go. Like Zheng Xiuwen and Xu Zhi'an, they have been entangled in love and hate for decades, and after dividing and merging, they finally entered the marriage hall.
Half a year has passed since life, is it really that simple to choose divorce? Furthermore, if you still have children, will you bear to let your children lose a complete family?
Although it is not a wise choice not to divorce for the sake of children, it is still the choice of most people in real life.
Whether it is an ordinary person or a star, whether you have money or no money, in the face of men's infidelity, women have no second choice at all, you choose divorce, future life do you have the confidence to face alone?
Life is too difficult, you have to hug the group to keep warm, even if the person next to you is not so good.
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Three brushes of the top ten films of the year,"Long Days on Earth", I found a detail that I pondered and feared, Li Yun's forgiveness of Yao Jun, is not the most cruel marriage truth.
In the face of your husband's infidelity, is it forgiveness or divorce? Everyone can make their own choices, and it's good to be able to walk away, but the truth is, when you get on the ship of marriage, no one can get off the boat safely.
Those divorced women look powerful, but they must also face many hidden pains behind them. And those women who have not chosen to divorce, you should not curse them, they also have their own last resort, otherwise no one will have to suffer such pain.
Marriage is complicated, and today, with the divorce rate soaring, it is rare to be able to keep a broken marriage.
If you are willing to insist, it is not that you love humblely, you just love each other more than you love yourself, what is wrong with love? Nothing.
Fu Seoul said: Desertion in marriage does not need to be managed at all, holding hands in the marriage car, all the way to the scenery, you are not allowed to see, not allowed to be humane; he has seen the scenery, or your driver, this is true love, to get off the bus at the station, you can't tie it up.
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If your partner cheated, would you forgive?
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