Yu Yanguan, who lives in Room 102, Building 2, No. 40, Haiguang New Village, Hai'an District, is about 1.85 meters tall and walks around with a shake. Perhaps because of the pressure of "life's ups and downs", the body is slightly hunched. He has been loyal and meticulously caring for his wife who has suffered a stroke for 30 years, composed a love story that never gives up, won word of mouth, and became a good husband recognized by the public.
As the saying goes: life is full of hardships, and there are nine times out of ten unhappy things. June 25, 1971, was an unforgettable day for Yanguan. He and his lover Zhang Xiulan had just been married for more than a year, and the child was only six months old, when bad luck suddenly came: his wife fell ill and went to Shanghai for treatment, went to six or seven hospitals, and finally diagnosed with a mediastinal tumor, operated on the chest hospital, and removed an egg-sized adenoma. Perhaps it was the trick of fate, disasters followed: on the first day of the Chinese New Year in 1991, Zhang Xiulan suffered a stroke due to hypertension and was hospitalized, leaving behind sequelae and unable to take care of herself. Washing hair, washing feet, cutting nails, washing clothes, defecating, etc. Eating and drinking Lasa, all because of the extension of the official. On September 23, 2011, Zhang Xiulan suffered another stroke, fell heavily on the ground on her head, and after examination, she fractured her brow bone, suffered intracranial hemorrhage, was comatose for five days, had a high fever, and was discharged from the hospital for more than 60 days after treatment. Since then, Zhang Xiulan can only sit in a wheelchair, starting from measuring blood pressure in the morning, taking medicine, feeding, supporting defecation, using a wheelchair to push out, bathing and wiping herself, day after day, year after year, Yu Yanguan has to repeat these annoying and trivial "homework" every day, and has never had a complaint. Who knows, a few years later, due to swallowing dysfunction, the wife installed a nasogastric tube, and it was more than two years. Yu Yanguan's care for his wife is even more meticulous and painstaking: three meals a day, with crucian carp soup as the base, supplemented by shrimp, lean meat strips, vegetables and the main edible juicer crushed into juice, to increase the nutrition of his wife. At three or four o'clock in the afternoon, I beat the fruit and milk juice again, and fed a meal of milk powder in the middle of the night to maintain my wife's life and try to let her live more years in the world. However, the leaks in the house coincided with overnight rain. On September 28, 2020, Zhang Xiulan once again had a stroke, the left and right cerebral thrombosis blockage, in an almost vegetative state, paralyzed in bed, with gastric tubes and urinary tubes inserted in the body, lest his wife have pressure sores, two hours to carry out a turn over and pat his back, but also to take care of his wife's bowels and bladders in time, every day, never abandoned. In his heart, in his pen, "she has a good face, two long braids, two deep dimples" is a standard "beautiful woman". She is "able to govern the family, be good at housework, filial piety and kindness, love husband, and friendliness", and is a virtuous "housewife". Unfortunately, his wife suffered a stroke at the age of fifty, which has been more than thirty years, and careful care and intimate care for his wife have become his "lifelong responsibility". Whenever his neighbors praised him, Yu Yanguan always said bluntly: "Three years of repair can be crossed by the same boat, and it is difficult to repair and sleep together in a hundred years, who calls us husband and wife?" ...... I am adding love, affection, and friendship to try to make her suffer less and improve her already pitiful quality of life, which is my greatest wish. "The words are heartfelt and deeply moving. With his own words and deeds, Yu Yanguan confirmed the famous saying of a scholar in the East: "Love is the dedication that naturally flows out", and true love is to give his or her whole child to the person he or she loves, which is the true meaning of love, shining with the brilliance of human nature.
What is valuable is that in order to seek spiritual support, Yu Yanguan, who has loved literature since childhood, gets up every morning to read. In recent years, he has read no less than hundreds of books, and excerpted no less than a few thousand proverbs, he has melted tiredness, pain, thoughts, and understandings into reading, and condensed into essays and essays such as "Twilight Drum Collection", "Ji Feng Collection", "LingXi Collection" and so on, and the fourth "Yide Record" is also about to come out. Yu Yanguan lived very tired and difficult, but he also lived with taste;
[ Text / Zhao Ting Lin Yulong ]