Some time ago, Miss C swore to me: I decided to start learning English and then go to work as an English teacher. I said: That's very good, now the English teachers are very high salaries. After that, I watched her download a lot of learning materials from the website, the mobile phone also put down a lot of English learning APP, and joined a lot of Learning English community, I see that she is so motivated, I think that in the future, she will be able to become a more powerful English teacher than Yu Minhong, but later it turned out that I was wrong.
A month later, Miss C said to me on WeChat: "I want to give up learning English now?" ”
"Why," I asked her.
"It's hard to stick with. At first, I was still excited, but after a few days of study, I found that I wanted to give up, although I knew that English was not achieved overnight, but I found it so difficult to insist on it, memorizing words was so boring, I couldn't stick to it anymore," she said.
I think everyone has more or less like Miss C around her, whenever she decides to do something, she can still stick to it at first, but gradually the more difficult it is to stick to the back.
Some time ago, I signed up for a 42-day online course training class, just started to listen to more than 4,000 people a day, with the passage of time, the number of people listening to the class gradually decreased, now the number of people listening to the class every day is almost 400 people, which is 10 times less than the original, and the active interaction in the group is also declining, and the amount of information is less than half of the course degree just opened. Even though the course is charged and requires daily clock-in, very few people stick to it.
Why is that? In fact, before these people reported for work, they did not seriously think about the significance of doing this thing. They just want to get a psychological comfort in this way, and never think about what benefits they can bring by doing this thing, or give it meaning and purpose.
In life, each of us is more or less like this, when we are doing something, at the beginning of the mood is high, always feel that we can do this thing well, but in the process of doing, encounter a little problem and difficulty began to easily withdraw or give up, it seems that it is always difficult to insist.
Li Xiaolai once said in his column: If something you feel needs to work hard and need to persist, then this thing is basically doomed from the beginning, because it needs to work hard, you need to persist, which shows that you are not willing to do it in your bones! Since you are not willing to do something in your bones, it is impossible to do it well.
Think back, when you were doing anything, did you feel that you had to do it, and if you didn't do it, you felt uncomfortable? Restless with sleep? Who doesn't let you do it, and who else are you in a hurry with?
I think very few people will do this, today after reading 10 pages of the book, they feel that they are very powerful, and then they give themselves a holiday, enjoy the sea and drink; today I wrote an article, I felt that I was very good, and then I went around pointing out where other people's articles were not as good as myself; today I memorized 50 words, I felt that I had mastered fluent English, and I showed off and showed off with people everywhere. But very few people will feel uncomfortable not reading, writing, and memorizing words today.
So how can we achieve the state of sleeping and forgetting to eat, and having to do it? That is to give meaning to doing this. Li Xiaolai said in the column that he wanted to make money by writing articles, but it was difficult to insist on this matter, there was no motivation, and later he thought of donating all the money from writing articles to college students to study computers. He calculated that in the case of the current subscription volume, a word for 100 yuan, writing a sentence of twenty or thirty words can support a college student's one-year scholarship of 2,000 yuan, that one or two thousand words, it is enough to support 100 college students, how meaningful, how motivated, so there is no persistence, just do it, how can such a good thing not be done, how can it stop.
So when we do anything, don't do it blindly, and think about the point of doing it before doing it. For example, getting up early, many people are difficult to get up early, but if getting up early can make you earn 50 yuan more a day, will you get up early? Or that getting up early will make your life better and better, will you get up early?
If you are still doing one thing with persistence, it is better to try this method immediately, and make that thing "simply can't stop", there may be unexpected surprises.