I'm not a person who is used to thinking alone, but some thoughts often flash through my mind, making my heart tighten in an instant, and my body as weak as a ball of sudden deflation.
When I reported yesterday, if I had focused on some of them; last month I would have bothered to turn around a little and there would have been no accidents; if I had fought for more in the previous year, I would have been able to seize the opportunity for development; if I had been able to read Li Xiaolai's class carefully in 19 years, wouldN't I have joined the dingtou life class long ago; in 2000, if I had to sell professional software with my classmates; if I had bought a few bungalows with 8,000 yuan for buying a computer in 1997, it would have been great...
What I hate most is that these thoughts will pop out and bounce out from time to time, making me continue to feel chagrin and regret.
I regret that I missed so many opportunities.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="28" > I didn't do anything, it wasn't my chance</h1>
As mentioned earlier, in fact, at the end of 18 years, I bought Li Xiaolai's "Road to Wealth Freedom" on the get-it. At that time, I went to this name, and I didn't officially start learning until the beginning of 19, when I felt that the writing was really good, the logic was clear, the thought-provoking, and then I listened to it from time to time, and then there was no more, because it felt useless at the time, and the second was the excuse that I was busy at work.
In March 21, I participated in the Laughing To Write Training Camp, contacted some classmates, only to find out that the fixed investment life class, in which I saw a lot of people in the past few years of continuous growth experience, some people than my contact with "The Road to Wealth Freedom" is shorter, but his achievements are already beyond my reach, some people with two children, but also started a business alone, but also insisted on learning and practicing and achieved amazing results...
I just learned that the same is the study of "The Road to Wealth Freedom", some people must seriously leave a message to talk about experience in each lesson according to the requirements, some people analyze the article in segments, find the framework, find the golden sentence, find the analogy, find the story, and Qin Jie, the founder of 007, is striving for the first message every day and leaving a high-quality experience.
More powerful people, find Li Xiaolai to read all the books carefully, some from a migrant girl to become a member of the studio, and Qin Jie created a community of 007 out of the game, tens of thousands of people writing to grow up.
On the other hand, I looked, I thought, no, I didn't do anything. And all my previous regrets, the illusion of missing out on opportunities were no action.
Be sure to be a jerk! --Li Xiaolai
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="35" > only real practice can seize opportunities and even create opportunities</h1>
Since April 2021, I have participated in the dingtou co-reading group, the dingtou fitness group, and the daily English punch card group.
By October I have been fitness for 6 months, from work has been stable and full belly, has begun to have a silhouette, the whole body shape in my opinion has a qualitative change, the spirit head is getting better and better; the 5 books read together have all been read, each has written more than 20,000 words of notes, in order to better communicate with people, and urge themselves to practice, I opened a personal WeChat public account, headline number: reading practitioners, every time I see someone give a thumbs up, I feel warm; daily English punch card I have insisted on 90 days, Although I forget the words after memorizing them, I feel more comfortable reading English sentences than before.
My object saw that I often said that I was scared, but under my influence, she also began to try to exercise, and the day that made me happiest was the junior high school residential school child on the weekend holiday, and took the initiative to ask to accompany me to run 8 kilometers, and when I ran, I was really happy.
In just a few months of practice, I have already gained a lot, although I am not very clear about the real direction now, but only to move forward, the closer I am to happiness.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="40" > build your own train of happiness</h1>
"I'm not going to chase the train"... I've been teaching myself to refuse to catch up on schedules. It may have been a small piece of advice, but it was imprinted on my mind. From refusing to catch up with the train, I experienced the true value of "elegance" and the aesthetics of behavior, a sense of control over my time, itinerary, and life. Missing a train is only painful if you chase it! Similarly, not being able to achieve the success that others expect you to achieve is only painful if it is also what you are after. - Taleb, "Black Swan"
The old saying is that opportunities are for those who are prepared, no preparation, no long-term accumulation, no focused deep cultivation, then it is not your opportunity, and it is a fool to suffer for the opportunity that is not yours. Without preparation, to pursue other people's opportunities and fulfill other people's expectations is not only a slim chance, but also impossible.
Tyler Ben Shahar proposed: Happiness = Happiness + Meaning. The so-called "happiness" is actually a short-lived, immediate feeling that makes the self very happy; and "meaning" is a long-term sense of value to others and society.
And Li Xiaolai proposed that happiness = the pursuit of meaningful happiness. In order to pursue happiness, you can delay the enjoyment of the current happiness, but to work hard, do meaningful things, and pursue happiness in the long run.
Combined with Taleb's pursuit of asymmetric results in Black Swan, I think happiness = enjoying the pleasant time of the current positive impact + long-term investment in things that can produce an accumulation effect.
For example, stop to see the sunrise, look at the autumn leaves, do a small thing you like, enjoy some encounters with strangers...
And in reading, fitness... The few things that can continue to accumulate and enjoy the influence of the positive black swans are focused on continuing to settle, because I know that every step of my reading of the book, every step of walking leaves energy in my mind and body, and when this ability is gathered to a certain extent, my own happiness train can start to start...
I am very risky when I am affected by a positive black swan event, and failure has only a small impact; when I am at risk of being hit by a negative black swan event, I am very conservative. - Taleb, "Black Swan"