Firmly believe that Qingshan will not relax - encourage children to move forward in the face of setbacks and strengthen their faith

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In today's society, with the vigorous development of the national family planning policy, the number of only children is increasing, followed by a series of social problems, and among them, the education of only children occupies a very important position, and now, the frustration education of only children has attracted more and more attention.

Frustration refers to the unpleasant emotional response that occurs when an individual encounters an insurmountable obstacle or interference in the process of reaching a goal, making the goal unattainable and needs unmet. Setbacks include both frustration situations and frustration feelings.

With the continuous improvement of living standards, now children are basically grown up in honeypots, from a young age to enjoy the parents and grandparents and grandparents and other aspects of love and care, rarely hit by difficulties and setbacks, but the so-called greenhouse flowers can not withstand the wind and rain, setbacks in life is inevitable, children in the growth will inevitably encounter setbacks and blows from all sides, and precisely because of the fragility of the child itself, it is easy to stumble in the face of setbacks, Since then, we have lost the courage to continue to struggle and lose confidence in life, and at this time, as parents, we should educate our children in frustration in time, encourage children to come out of setbacks as soon as possible, regain confidence, and bravely face all the difficulties and obstacles brought by life. After the child undergoes this kind of tempering, he will inevitably gradually mature and become strong, and will go all the way on the road of life in the future, all the way through the thorns, going farther and farther, even if he is separated from the shade of his parents and lives alone, he can also solve the problems he faces.

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The so-called parents love their children, it is far-reaching, if parents blindly dote on their children, let the children always grow under their own protection, do not let them experience the ups and downs brought by life, so that they can avoid setbacks and difficulties as much as possible, and when the children once they meet with setbacks, they will only blindly make a big package for their children, use their own strength to help children survive setbacks, rather than encouraging children to cope with setbacks independently and eliminate difficulties, then if one day children lose the safe haven of their parents, Then in their future life path, once they encounter setbacks, they will be helpless and vulnerable, so spoiling their children, not letting their children face setbacks and failures, and not being able to correctly encourage their children to get out of setbacks when they encounter setbacks, it is equivalent to harming their own children. Therefore, effective frustration education is a long way for parents, and it is imperative for children.

First of all, parents should change the traditional concept of parenting, that is, to provide a comfortable life for their children as much as possible, and not let their children suffer any setbacks and difficulties. Parents should realize that in a person's life, setbacks are inevitable, any desire to escape setbacks of the illusion is futile, and in the face of setbacks, a person can only rely on their own strength to overcome difficulties, in order to live more wonderfully in the future life, and children are also experiencing the repeated process of falling, getting up, falling again, and then getting up. Only when this is clearly realized can parents realize the importance of educating their children about setbacks.

Second, in peacetime, it is necessary to instill in children the knowledge of setbacks and how to look at setbacks, how should individuals do when encountering setbacks to get rid of setbacks as soon as possible, so that children realize that setbacks and failures are also what we need, it is as valuable to us as success, it is the first step to reach a better situation, after a setback, it will be a long insight. Just as the so-called people have no thousand days of good flowers and no hundred days of red, setbacks are inevitable, it is the touchstone of our lives, as Lu Yan of the Song Dynasty said, do not recognize the ups and downs, who can distinguish the ups and downs of gold and wood. After letting children realize the necessity and importance of setbacks, they should encourage children not to be discouraged once they encounter setbacks, and to rely on their own strength to get out of setbacks.

Third, when children encounter setbacks in their daily lives, setback education at this time is more important. Parents' minds must remain sober, calm, do not accompany the child to sigh together, parents should understand that because of the usual frustration education for the child, the child has a certain psychological preparation for the setback, parents should further encourage the child, in the face of setbacks must not shrink back, to go forward, do not live in the language for the child to cheer, let the child believe that they will be able to do it, let the child must solve the problem independently, and at this time, It is also the most able to cultivate children's courage and psychological endurance in the face of difficulties, of course, we can also provide some help in a timely manner, but this kind of help must not be overstepping the line, and must not change the fact that children cope with setbacks independently.

Fourth, we can even artificially design some setback situations for children to exercise their ability to cope with setbacks.

In short, parents should realize that setbacks and difficulties can hone people's will, and let their children not be afraid of difficulties, setbacks, overcome difficulties and setbacks, and be strong in life. Setback education not only includes hardship education, but also includes independence, courage and psychological endurance and other aspects of cultivation, setback education so that children in real life have the ability to survive independently, can face setbacks independently, better solve problems, so as to better face their own lives.

Finally, I would like to dedicate this sentence to parents and children in the world: it is impossible for a person's life to be free of failures and setbacks, but failures and setbacks are not terrible, what is terrible is the loss of confidence and courage, and only in the face of difficulties and setbacks without fear can we reach the peak of success.