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The netizen letter said:
More than a month ago, I met a man through online chat, the other party was handsome, very good to me, and we naturally became boyfriend and girlfriend. Just when I was still immersed in the sweetness of love, yesterday there was a strange woman who went to my unit to make a fuss. Only then did I know that the other party was my boyfriend's wife. It was also at this time that I realized that I had actually been a junior. Of course, all of this is the product of me calling my boyfriend in front of the woman for verification. I blame my boyfriend's negligence: I didn't ask him if he was married, because in my perception, how can a married man still find a girlfriend!
Although some reasonable colleagues in the unit will think that I am a victim, there are also some colleagues who love to chew the root of their tongues who will give me a blow, so that the injury of being deceived and the anger of being attacked make me feel very unhappy.
My self-perception: I am still a more responsible girl, during school, because the tutoring is more strict, so there is no love experience. After work, in the face of my parents' "love reminders", I was interested in finding my other half through online chat. Unexpectedly, the first time in love, I actually met an "emotional liar", inevitably, this matter will also have some impact on my future concept of marriage and love, so that I now feel that online dating is not reliable at all. However, I also don't have much of the opposite sex around me to reach out to. So I feel that I will also become a difficult person in love.
Muzi Li emotional analysis:
In this era, there is no shortage of leftover men and women, but the structure of leftover women and leftover men is a little different: girls with high education, good family wealth, high income, and beautiful looks are more likely to be left, because they have higher requirements for the other half, and they will feel that if they do not meet a person of the opposite sex who makes them satisfied, it is better to be single. The key is that when these women are looking for a marriage partner, they look up to themselves too much, so that they will form such a situation: the working class with average looks can't look up to themselves, and those who have money and successful careers have basically embraced the beauty, making themselves somewhat unwilling and embarrassed in the marriage market. And the reasons why men are left behind are basically due to "poverty". Judging from the distribution of leftover men and women: leftover women in big cities, leftover men in small cities. It must be admitted that contemporary people's concept of marriage and love has been seriously materialized, whether it is a man or a woman, when choosing a marriage partner, they will involuntarily weigh the pros and cons, so that contemporary marriage is contaminated with a strong copper smell. Do not rule out, there are a small number of people, during the school period has no love experience, after work, there is not much to choose from the opposite sex, so that they will meet their other half through the network social platform, the key is that the network chat objects are basically the encounters after the eye edge, do not rule out the possibility of encountering emotional scammers. However, online dating will also become a trend in the future, which is more in line with the psychological needs of people looking for love objects in the era of fast food love.
It is not that online dating is unreliable, at least, we should pay attention to several things: 1) when meeting each other for the first time, you need to find a place with many people, be careful of accidents; 2) the appearance of online and the character is too good are two things, do not foolishly feel that the other party is a good person after meeting handsome men and beautiful women; 3) because the understanding between the two sides is also one side of each other, in order to make each other have a fuller understanding, you need to take each other to meet friends and colleagues, so as to make each other feel safe, And let both parties have the truth of mutual understanding; 4) Do not have a monetary lending relationship with the other party in the case of this relationship, especially not involving large loans; 5) do not hastily form a cohabitation phenomenon. When we can avoid the above behavior, then even if we meet an emotional liar, at least after the relationship is exposed, we can minimize our own harm. Especially girls, you must be more careful at the level of online dating, and try to avoid the appointments of netizens to you at a later time. Although it is said that we do not have to think of people on the other side of the network so badly, we need to pay attention to everything and not be afraid of ten thousand but afraid of one, so it is better to be careful.
One detail: because you are kind and you are responsible, you will feel that all the people who are looking for a relationship on the Internet are singles, so you have never thought that the man you are in love with has a family. Once, because of his handsome appearance and good intentions, you would think that he was a reliable and satisfying love object. However, when his wife is in your unit, you suddenly find that you have only met an emotional liar and made yourself a cheater. In this case, some colleagues give you understanding, and some colleagues give you ridicule. At this time, you can see the brilliance and darkness of human nature, and for those colleagues who still speak cool words in the case of you being deceived, there is no need to blame, you just need to remember their faces in your heart, and in the future work, you can get by and have no deep friendship. Please believe that you will increase your social experience with the increase of experience, and gradually, you will no longer have hatred for some unreliable people around you, but will become light. It's also part of growing up.
I can understand the blow this thing has hit you and made you feel frustrated, and I want to say that in the future life, you will encounter more unpleasant things, which is probably the price of life and growth. But you can't stop fighting for the beauty of living because you've been hurt by something, or because someone has hurt you. To this end, you can still try to find your partner through online chat, but in the meantime you need to uphold the attitude: defensive heart is indispensable. In fact, time is the best witness, which can make the fox quickly show its tail. To this end, if you are making friends through the form of the Internet, you only need to extend the time to establish a romantic relationship slightly, and you will see the humanity of the other party and judge whether the other party is a reliable person from the process of interacting with the other party.
Because most people are good, whether it is at the level of making a living or at the level of love, we also want to meet good people, but we must not forget: there are no wonders in the world. Therefore, when encountering some unfriendly people, don't be too alarmed, and don't be frustrated, after all, we don't have to punish ourselves with the fault of others, because lying on the injury of being shot, we are also innocent and injured, at this time, what we can do is: withdraw from this bad experience as soon as possible, and make ourselves smarter in the future life. To tell the truth, there are quite a lot of scammers' means now, but they may not be clever, so we only need to strengthen some awareness of prevention, or we can avoid some of the results of being deceived. Here, we need to remember two things: 1) there will be no pie in the sky, and 2) we must not be greedy in the face of small bargains given by strangers.
Here, I also remind those who are besieging the city: if you are not satisfied with your current marriage, you can choose to divorce. Instead of venting dissatisfaction with existing marriages or trying so-called novelty outside of marriage, posing as single people and giving emotional deception to those who are involved in the beginning of the world.