A few days ago, someone in a chain hot pot restaurant, met the 40-year-old well-known actor Fan Zhiwei.
The handsome young student of the past, now the hairline is gradually moving back, still has a slightly sloppy long hair, in the hot pot restaurant to order orders to deliver food.
It is said that the salary of the personnel recruited by this hot pot restaurant does not exceed 7,000 yuan, which means that Fan Zhiwei's salary is not more than 7,000 yuan.
You know, once he was regarded as Liang Chaowei's successor:
At the age of 19, he debuted as the male lead of the movie "Dark Light", which eventually won the best film in the main competition unit of the Tokyo Film Festival;
At the age of 22, he won the 24th French Nantes Film Festival with the movie "Salty Soybean Milk";
In the same year, he was nominated for the golden bell award unit drama actor with a "Come to My Home";
After that, he was nominated for the Golden Horse Award for Best Actor with "Beautiful Time"...
With such a high starting point, it's hard to imagine how an actor who should have had a great future could play a good hand of cards.
And Fan Zhiwei showed us what it means to "God appreciates food and eats, but he wants to die himself":
First of all, in terms of emotional life, he once had a relationship with Wang Xinling, but after breaking up, he continued to consume the woman, and he split his legs several times during the relationship;
After the courtship to the female model Ke Jiaqing was rejected, he slapped the other party more than twenty times, and was exposed to several acts of domestic violence before the relationship;
In his career, he is even more ruined by playing big names, inflating, and not studying acting well.
Gradually, his reputation and resources plummeted, and after he could not receive a job, he let go of himself, and his appearance collapsed like a mudslide.
Looking at the way he is now begging for a living in order to make a living, he has to sigh:
Some people, even if the congenital conditions are good, they will slowly live their lives because of personality defects, character problems, indulgent desires and other reasons.
And some people, even if they hold a bad deck of cards, can still achieve a counterattack through the efforts of the day after tomorrow and become a king bomber.
Many people do win at the starting point, but the road of life is not only the beginning and the end, there is a long process in between.
In what situation you are born in, you can't choose, and what kind of way out you choose is really in your own hands.
01
About effort
Little Coconut: A person can do better than others, must be in a certain aspect, made a long-term effort and persistence.
In life, even if you insist on some seemingly insignificant efforts, it will make you look different in the crowd after accumulating over time.
Little Coconut: Many people stop growing when they encounter setbacks, stop exercising themselves, stop surpassing themselves, and never try to change the status quo.
Spend your life complaining. When to stay away from complaining, when to break through the status quo. It's all up to you and what kind of person you want to be.
Small coconut: The inner abundance is often more precious than the external magnificence.
Focusing on one's own inner being has more transformative power than focusing on external judgments.
02
About learning
Little Coconut: There is a word called "tunnel vision", which means that if a person is in a tunnel, all he can see is a very narrow field of vision before and after.
Learn to take a long-term view, do not care about the small profits in front of you, do not calculate the temporary gains and losses, in order to let you get more.
Little Coconut: Some people say: "Properly pleasing yourself, living sensibly and lively, making yourself a beautiful landscape in the world, not having to be deliberate, but also pleasing the eyes and hearts of others, this is a person worthy of love." ”
If you want to be loved, first make yourself a person worthy of being loved.
Little Coconut: Minimalism is a trade-off, not to be tempted by the appearance of things, but to boldly delete after making a good judgment, and devote yourself to the most important things, thereby improving the quality of life.
When we follow the principle of minimalism and constantly examine ourselves, we can find ourselves who truly love things and live our lives.
03
About life
Little Coconut: Zhang Xiaofeng wrote in "Looking Back at the Wind and Smoke": "The trees are there, the mountains are there, the earth is there, the years are there, I am." What a better world you want. ”
Life is made up of countless present moments, and we must enrich ourselves as much as possible in a limited life and do what we like.
Little Coconut: The essence of the world is different, and because of the difference, the world will be wonderful.
When we've traveled far enough and seen enough, we're able to accept the diversity of the world.
Little Coconut: When a student graduates, Bai Yansong will always write two lines on the title page of the book: life is like tea and slow tasting, and the years are like songs to listen to quietly.
Believe me, the rest of my life is long, don't panic. Living in every moment is the best answer to yourself.
Finisher: Little Coconut, Intensive Reading Creator, Life Must Live A Little Swag.