One day, love asked friendship: Why does the world have me, but also have you? Friendly replied, you will make everyone cry, and I am helping everyone dry their tears.
What is friendship? It is to communicate with each other's hearts, spiritual fit, mutual appreciation, and seeing each other and hating each other, which is actually the most sincere friendship connected by the spirit, or a confidant.
What is a confidant? It is to maintain the most transparent and pure spiritual life between each other, transparent enough to see through each other, and always be able to see each other at a glance and have a clear mind. Even the thoughts that you are most reluctant to talk about, you are willing to reveal to her, and she is willing to see and understand; after seeing your ugliest and most unbearable side, you are still willing to shake your hand and hug you.
Although they are not the same body, they can be on the same frequency, and she knows you as she knows herself.
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Is there such a friendship in the world? The answer is yes.
Yu Boya and Zhong Zi period is the best model, the feelings between them, passed down for thousands of years, have been praised by the world, the mountain flow meets the zhiyin, the confidant, as well as Qu Yang and Liu Zhengfeng in "Smiling Proud of the Rivers and Lakes", the feelings between them, breaking the world of good and evil, and finally ending up together, composing a moving chapter.
In fact, to understand you do not need to understand the rhythm, to understand that you do not need to change myself, because as soon as you speak, I know what you want to do, just like Rui Xiaodan and Ouyang Xue in "Heavenly Dao", there is such a tacit understanding.
The interaction between them is very pure, there is no impurity, even if it involves money, there will be no slightest doubt about each other's feelings, just like getting along with another self, the existence of the other party only makes you feel at ease, there is her, just like another self, because, a person is the authority of his own life, when he can not pull out to examine himself, the other self will not be prejudiced, objective, calm, fair evaluation of you, no malice, this person is a confidant.
The so-called confidant is the indescribable and incomprehensible tacit understanding between the spirits of two people, and it is also the natural removal of disguise and honesty when two souls face each other, and when they do not see each other, she lives in your heart; when you see each other, you open up to your naked self, without scruples.
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Many feelings, you can't tell, just because the magnetic field is connected, the aura is similar, the energy is equal, mutual appreciation and recognition, not for social, interest, pity, worship or any specific need, nor is there any reason, goal, intention. It is to understand and understand each other, to see through her mind at a glance.
After Being "tricked" by Ding Yuanying, Rui Xiaodan was called a game of hospitality, which was actually to make him out of trouble, and the gamble on the dinner table made her psychology change at that moment.
In order to take care of his face, and finally did not hesitate to bet on the shares in the hotel, that boldness and "righteousness" made Ouyang Xue quite critical, and even after the break, Ouyang Xue said to her in the car, you are in love, in a word, Rui Xiaodan did not speak, yes, Ouyang Xue saw through her mind at a glance, so she acquiesced.
They have a sharp understanding of each other, and many times, they will make similar judgments about similar events, as if they had made an appointment in advance. Many times, the other party's reminder, a look, or an action, a sentence can be guessed.
Because I know you and understand you as much as I know myself, my feelings are similar and my souls are the same frequency.
Because they have entrusted their souls to each other, they are not afraid of loneliness, they are not afraid of facing the hardships of life, and they always have a confidence from "another self".
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If you are there, it is a sunny day. When you stay away, you are uneasy.
Ding Yuanying hopes that Rui Xiaodan will choose another life, talk to Ouyang Xue about going abroad, and hope that she, as a confidant, can persuade Xiao Dan and let Xiao Dan conform to her own ideas.
Talking about the distance and the friendship between the two, Ouyang Xue said: "It is not the same, one is the end of the world, the other is the end of the world, can it be the same?" ”
For Xiao Dan's future, she hopes that she will have a good life, but she also hopes that she can always be around.
True confidant friends, less selfish, I live well, I also hope that you live well; I do not live well, I also hope that you live well; unconditionally hope that the other party is good, this is called confidant friend.
However, the reason why Ouyang Xue did not advise Rui Xiaodan and conformed to Ding Yuanying's idea to go abroad with him was not because she wanted to keep her and did not want her to be happy, but because she understood Rui Xiaodan's ideas and knew how she would choose the path she wanted to take.
Knowing that persuasion is futile, knowing the "other self" and knowing what the other person wants.
Between them, the interaction is not even to obtain or maintain "friendship", but the presence of the other party makes them feel at ease, and they can feel the support and warmth of another self.
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"Life is enough to know oneself", it is not easy to have friends in a lifetime, such feelings, not want to have, need chance and luck.
There are too many people passing by you, and most of them have scattered since then. Not everyone can find a lifelong confidant.
Not everyone can go into your heart, and not everyone can find a good friend.
Data studies have shown that the number of people people you meet in your lifetime is 29,200,000 people, but only one in ten million people intersect with you, and the chance of being able to connect with deeply and become intimate confidants is one in a billion.
Therefore, true confidants, with deep love, understanding, trust, and consideration for each other, and pure without any impurities, without a little selfishness, can have such confidants and friends, which is a kind of luck in life.
For Rui Xiaodan and Ouyang Xue, there is absolute trust between them, no matter what decisions they make, and what kind of lifestyle they choose, there is a high degree of fit, you know my silence, I understand your heart and heart.
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Nowadays, the network world has become more and more closely connected to people, there are no secrets between people, at a glance, it seems that we are more closely connected, in essence, the feelings between people are more distant.
Sometimes, there are thousands of knots in your heart, but when you open your phone and turn over your address book, you may be able to find hundreds of thousands of names, but when you really need to talk, you may turn your phone over and over again, and no one can talk to it.
When you want to talk, but can not find a person willing to listen, even if you send a circle of friends, you have to think about it for half a day, delete and delete, and finally fall silent, naturally because there is no confidant at that moment.
Because talking about this matter, sometimes it is really to distinguish who the other party is, if the person is not right, the feelings cannot be the same frequency, the thoughts cannot resonate, it is better to be silent. Even sometimes, your heart can only speak to a big tree, so that it is safer and more helpless. Why talk to the tree, instead of talking to people who don't understand themselves, it is better to talk to the tree that is "tight-lipped".
People don't have friends all their lives, some people stay, if they can make friends, they must cherish it.
Because, true feelings are rare, and friendship is precious.