01
As the saying goes, a one-day couple is a hundred days, and a hundred-day couple is like the depth of the sea.
This means that once you are married, there is a deep affection. The depth of feelings can only be measured by the depth of the bottomless sea that the ancients believed.
Being a husband and wife has always been a very serious matter and a lifelong thing. Whether they are poor or rich, sick or old, they will stay together for the rest of their lives.
The relationship between marriage has always been a hot topic in everyone's life.
Why is it that when in love, the two are sweet and sweet, and after marriage, they become contradictory, with a small quarrel for three days and a big quarrel for five days? How can a marriage be stable and long-lasting?
A big reason for this is that the two sides see each other every day.
Getting along with people is a college question. If you are far away, there is little contact, there is no intersection in life, and the relationship will slowly fade. But if you get too close, noisy noise cannot be avoided.
As the saying goes: distance produces beauty.
Only husbands and wives who know how to keep their distance can taste happiness in decades of marriage. Because reality will make everyone understand that a marriage that knows how to keep a distance can last.
02
Grandma Chen is 80 years old this year and has been married to Yang Gonggong for 61 years.
When the two were newly married, they often quarreled and even started fighting. In the previous era, materials were poor, there was not enough food and clothing, and there was no warmth, and I was worried about survival.
No matter how good the feelings are, they can't withstand the toss of chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea in life.
Because of the differences in opinions in some small places, the two sides often quarreled, and both of them were physically and mentally exhausted.
Such an experience was also staged in their daughter's marriage.
Until once, after a fight between the daughter and her husband. The daughter's company arranged for her to go out to study, and this outing was for a month. It made the husband especially miss Grandma Chen's daughter, not to mention what was angry, and he had long forgotten it.
After not seeing each other for such a long time, Grandma Chen's daughter also discovered her impulsive behavior at that time.
After returning from further study, both sides were ashamed and missed each other, and reconciled. Since then, I have begun to understand that when I encounter problems, I must leave some place for each of you to think, calm and calm.
After this incident, Grandma Chen understood the true meaning of marriage, and her daughter and her own marriage became much more stable. The mother-in-law thought about it for a moment, in life, many times it is indeed too eager to amplify the small contradiction.
This is the secret to keeping a marriage fresh.
03
The relationship between husband and wife, precisely because they live together all the time, are intimate in daily life, and it is necessary to learn how to accurately grasp the scale. Intimacy in life and relationships does not mean that there is no space and way of thinking.
The beauty of love lies in trust, but also in cooperation. At a wedding, the bride's father said sincerely: "Marriage is not 1 + 1 = 2, but 0.5 + 0.5 = 1." "Both sides need to throw away some of their personalities and align themselves with each other.
Maintain a good and appropriate distance and agree with each other's views in order to get along harmoniously for a long time.
Confucius once said: "Advice and good way, do not stop, do not humiliate yourself." ”
It means that the friend has made a mistake and should do his best to persuade him and guide him to goodness. If your friend doesn't accept persuasion, forget it, don't be bored with yourself.
Although most of them are now for the good of each other, we will dissuade each other, but it is not necessarily that we have done something wrong. But for the idea of "point to point", it is still worth learning.
In marriage, we must learn to consider problems from the perspective of the other party, and learn to calm down and calm down emotions. Be kind to the other party, don't scare the other party because you are too eager, and you will not be cold because you ignore it.