There is a hot topic on Zhihu, "How to make yourself happy?" ”。
One of the high praises replied that when the state was not very good, draw a smiley face on your hand before going out, and when you saw the smiley face, you were comforted, "Well, don't be afraid, you are great." You are not alone. "I think the most important task in everyone's life is to make themselves happy.
Only by always being loyal to yourself and reconciling with yourself can you live a happy self.
In the book "Food, Prayer, Love", the author Elizabeth experienced self-loss, depression and pain, emotional trauma, depression and embarrassment, left the old place to start a journey, through self-exploration and self-healing, surrendered to the present, and finally she found herself and lived a happy life.
If you are confused about real life or your identity role, you may wish to read this book, it can heal your heart, help you find yourself, and find happiness.
Elizabeth Gilbert
The author of the book is Elizabeth Gilbert, a well-known American novelist, journalist and best-selling author, and she is one of Time Magazine's "100 People Who Influenced the World."
As her memoir, "Food, Prayer, Love" has been on the best-seller list for more than 200 weeks since its publication, and has been recommended by many celebrities and mainstream media, and is widely popular all over the world, known as "women reading the Bible".
In 2010, the book was adapted into a film of the same name, with the famous actress Julia Roberts as the heroine and the famous film star Brad Pitt as the producer, as an Oscar tribute film that triggered a world view film boom.
Next, let's walk into this book together and start this journey of self-healing and finding happiness.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >1. Listen to the heart in order to embrace the happiness of the world</h1>
I saw the question on the Internet: "How can I live for myself?" One of the high-ranking replied: "The decisions that each of us make at the moment are the most urgent and true thoughts in our hearts." And every moment you are living for yourself. "To live a happy self, the most important thing is to listen to your inner voice.
"Never forget that a long time ago, at an unguarded moment, you saw yourself as a friend." This is the most touching sentence in the book.
Oprah Winfrey
The famous American host Oprah Winfrey once advised people in her talk show: "Spend 5 minutes every morning listening to your inner voice and its guidance to your life... If you don't even have 5 minutes like this, you don't deserve the life of your dreams. ”
Oprah came from a poor family and had an unhappy childhood, but when she grew up, she insisted on listening to her heart and pursuing spiritual guidance, which allowed her to always adhere to her personal ambitions and strive for the goal of "empowering women" for decades, becoming one of the most influential women in the world.
Only you can truly understand yourself and guide yourself, and only you can give yourself a strength that others cannot resist.
Although we do not have the opportunity to harvest the supreme but simple and simple happiness in a long-term exotic stay like the author, we can find the most important things we want to do in ordinary life, perceive the little luck, and find our own happy lifestyle.
And to find what you want to do the most, you must first always listen to your inner voice. Only in this way can we have a truly happy life.
If you don't take the initiative to follow your heart, how can you have enough courage to embrace the world, and how can you expect to be connected with the beauty of the world?
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >2. Let go of the unpleasant past in order to move forward happily</h1>
In the author's experience, the resistance to her social role accumulated over the years led to her resolutely and resolutely escaping from the marriage that others thought was happy and happy at the age of 31, giving up all her possessions, but her husband's ruthless rejection of reconciliation made her miserable and fell into a very depressed and embarrassing situation.
In order to escape the trauma of marriage, she fell in love with David "desperately", trying to liberate herself from deep fear and anxiety through a hot relationship. However, her grief and mourning did not stop, and intensified, eventually leading to depression, and David chose to withdraw and give up the relationship.
So when she left Italy and went to India to participate in meditation, she could not get rid of the painful entanglement of the past.
Until one day, guided by the plumber poet, with the "Guide to The Quest for Freedom" note he gave her, climbed to the top of a tower, the breeze was gentle and the scenery was beautiful, and she closed her eyes and fell into a meditation that had never been seen before.
Julia Roberts (stills)
In meditation the ex-husbands come together to the top of the tower, and they are like two souls unfettered by any relationship, while Elizabeth is just observing them as a bystander.
They told her with a graceful flip, "Xiaoli, stay out of the matter." Your role in this relationship is over. From now on, it is up to "we" to overcome the difficulties. Go on with your life. ”
She suddenly felt that she was free, not to forget the past, but to focus on the present, on herself, she felt her own strength and balance, and the awareness of everything in the world made her very happy.
After breaking free of the thorn-filled barrier in her heart, everything suddenly opened up, and the anxiety, pain, and confusion that had plagued her for a long time slowly dissipated.
She gradually understood that she had been pursuing happiness all her life, but in fact, happiness was in her heart. She's just Xiaoli, just herself.
She finally broke away from the tormented relationship, let go of the past, reconciled with herself, re-strengthened her faith and desires, and found her long-lost freedom and happiness.
Mr. Lin Qingxuan once said: "There are nine times out of ten things that are not satisfactory in life." Often think about one or two, do not think about eight or nine, everything is as expected. This sentence is cherished in the hearts of many people and enshrined as a classic.
No matter who it is, everyone will always encounter setbacks or regrets from childhood to most of them, if we have been entangled in it and cannot be relieved, then our lives are not bleak and hopeless forever?
If you are trapped in an unpleasant past, try to let go and reconcile with yourself from the inside out, only in this way can you find yourself and start happily again.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >3. Surrender to the present moment and meet the joy of balance</h1>
Mike Singer, the author of "The Subjection Experiment", spent up to forty years experimenting personally, letting go of pain and entanglement, choosing to "let go", accepting everything with a peaceful attitude, facing it calmly, and treating it calmly. In the end, he overcame the crisis of career and life again and again, and harvested a rich and abundant life.
He said: "Life unfolds on its own, I just go with the flow. It can be seen that acceptance and surrender can make us harvest more peace and happiness.
The author embraced the beauty of the world in Italy, reconciled with himself in India, and then came to Bali with a happy and pious heart.
She laughs and eats in the therapist's sister's shop every morning, goes to the home of the respected pharmacist Lai Ye in the afternoon, chats, drinks coffee, spends time and reads in the beautiful garden of her home in the evening, or chats with friends who pass by... She surrenders to every moment of the moment, enjoys a leisurely life, and becomes more and more aware of herself.
Later, at a party, she met a beautiful Brazilian man and an old boy, Fapeli, and the two had similar heartbreak marriages and expressed sympathy for each other. Later, under the enlightenment of Fei Perry, she finally determined her love, and finally had enough confidence and courage to accept him in front of her.
This time, Xiaoli finally stopped living for others and finally truly lived out herself. Surrendering to the present and accepting everything, she achieved the perfect balance between the same frequency of love and a quiet life.
The author suddenly realized that perhaps the happy, healthy, and balanced self that began to drag himself out of marriage four years ago, out of place with social relations, squatting on the bathroom floor late at night and sobbing, step by step in the direction of the present.
"I've always been calm and contented to wait here, always waiting for her to come and join my squad."
Now she is her true self. Surrendering to the present, not dwelling on the past, not worrying about the future, accepting everything in front of her, and making positive choices for action has allowed her to find herself and find her inner state of balance.
We must face all changes with a calm mind, dedicate ourselves to every moment of the moment, and believe that every encounter is a gift from life to you. Surrender to the present moment, meet the inner balance, and happiness will continue to flow naturally from the inside out.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > concluding remarks:</h1>
We always do our best to prove ourselves to the world, very hard to play the various roles that life gives us, and we are particularly concerned about what others think of us... In the end, we were surprised to find that we had already missed ourselves in order to cater to the world.
Later, we finally understand that it is not we who have to explain ourselves to the world and prove ourselves, but the world that accepts our definition of ourselves.
"Meet the Unknown Self" has such a sentence: "Honey, there is no one else out there, only yourself." "Even though the world is fickle, all emotional perceptions always come from within you.
Calm down and listen to the inner voice, let go of all the displeasure in the past, move forward easily, surrender to the present with the most heartfelt smile, the most comfortable posture, and embrace all encounters...
May you and I live a calm life, be the truest version of ourselves, and live a happy self.
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