Tiger poison does not eat children, there are no parents in the world who do not love their children, we take these words as the truth. Here I would like to ask you a question: if your child is disobedient or makes a mistake, how do you usually deal with it? Is it yelling? Or do you pull it up and beat it up?
Everyone makes mistakes, and they are still children who are not deeply involved in the world. When a child makes a mistake or disobeys, parents will educate the child by throwing a tantrum. But in fact, temper not only can not educate children, but also hurt children, sometimes the bigger the temper, the worse the educational effect.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > a boy in Fujian province who went to bed without washing was kicked to death by his mother</h1>
At about 9 p.m. on May 7, 2019, Luo Mou found that her son wanted to go to bed without washing in the rental house, and he was very angry at the moment, rushed from the kitchen to the side of his son's bed, kicked his son's abdomen hard, and the son suddenly fell on his back and got out of bed. It is understood that the bed is a wooden bed with an upper and lower bunk structure, and the son's back hit the solid wood bed pole on the outside of the bed and stood up, standing stupidly near the middle of the bed to accept the mother's scolding.
Luo Mou saw that his son did not respond to his scolding, and kicked him in the abdomen again, and his son was kicked down on the bed again and stood up on his own. After that, the child obediently went to wash up and go to bed. Wait until more than 0:00 a.m., the child suddenly shouted cold, the mother Luo poured him a cup of boiling water for the child to drink without turning on the light, and then the child turned over on the bed and couldn't sleep, the mother got up and touched the son's feet, found that the child's feet were cold at the time, and then called the child's name many times, and the child's answer was very vague.
At about 3:00 a.m., Luo sent his son to the local Yongtai County Dayang Health Center for rescue, and after the doctor's diagnosis, the child had no vital signs when he was sent to the hospital, and then died after the rescue was ineffective. After the incident, the Yongtai police identified that the child's abdomen was subjected to blunt sexual violence and caused multiple organ injuries (heart-lung contusion, liver and pancreatic rupture), resulting in traumatic shock and death.
On March 18, 2020, the China Judgment Document Network published the tragedy. The case information revealed in the judgment documents shows that the mother has long been abused and corporal punishment in the process of educating her children. What is even more surprising is that Luo Mou not only did not have a trace of guilt and sadness, but even appealed to the Fuzhou Intermediate Court without shame, saying that "he was educating the child for the purpose of discipline, wanting to correct his bad habits, not maliciously hurting the child, and after the incident, he also sent his son to the hospital urgently." ”
Don't let your bad temper ruin your child, try these few tips to control your temper!
1) Talk to your child about your emotions
When the behavior of strangers causes you trouble, for example, you can openly and honestly discuss with your child your emotions at that moment: You see, your mother is very angry now! He actually stepped in when we were in line, maybe he was in a hurry, then he could discuss it with me and get someone else's forgiveness... In such communication, discuss with the child the processing of learning emotions.
2) Create more outlets for emotions
Leave some time for yourself, go to the spa, complain with girlfriends, watch movies with your husband, exercise, participate in social activities, and even arrange a small trip for yourself when you have helpers, etc. The arrangement of these activities is equivalent to creating various channels for bad emotions as an outlet, the mood is smooth, and it is not easy to focus negative emotions on a certain point, it is not easy to be angry.
3) Reflect on your temper regularly
When you find that you can't hold your temper, you need to reflect regularly. For example, find some key points, find yourself at what time of day is most likely to get angry, get up after getting up, or come back from a day's work? Find yourself the most likely point of the burst, appropriate reminder of the convergence point. You can also involve children in the process of solving problems, and by asking children directly, they can realize their problems and find ways to improve.
I am Meng Xia's mother, to learn more about parenting information, just in Meng Xia's mother's parenting experience