A letter to my first-year daughter: Child, let's take it slowly

Child, you who are boarding at school, slowly away from your mother's sight, do not know whether you are like me, cherish the time spent together for only two days a weekend.

Somehow from time to time, there were some obstacles to our communication. When I was ready to pick you up every week, my mood was both happy and afraid, because you who had entered adolescence were no longer the ones who obeyed my arrangements, and you would not resist if I shouted loudly, you began to have your own thoughts, had your own judgments, and did not want to play a face to overturn everything I had done for you before.

The first time the two of us clashed was because we told you to get up early to do your homework. In the face of you, who have been shouting several times and are indifferent, I lifted your quilt and yelled at you. You cry, you say that you come back from self-study every night to take a bath and wash your clothes, wait for all your classmates to wash and go to bed late, get up at 6 o'clock in the morning to go to class, sleep only a few hours at school every day, and look forward to going home on the weekend to sleep lazily. The child, or the mother is wrong, but I don't know what kind of study time you are far away from the line of sight, just thinking of supervising your learning tasks within my line of sight.

Every time you dance with my eyebrows and gossip about the love stories of several classmates, saying how you mediate disputes between classmates, etc., I listen quietly, although I do not want so many external things to interfere with you, I still encourage you to be sincere and enthusiastic about your classmates, analyze things objectively and fairly, learn to get along with people, even if there are disputes and opinions in the process, but the love of valuable classmates is difficult to change.

You, who have been absent from the study of the first semester of high school, will be nervous every time you take the exam, and sometimes you will call me at a loss: "Mom, I am afraid that I will not be able to pass the exam." Since I was a child, I have been envious of those eugenics, never such a worry, Mom, I am very uncomfortable, I can't sleep these days at night, what to do? ”......

At this time, I understood that every parent is hoping that their children will become dragons and phoenixes, but each child's characteristics are different, their potential is not the same, not every child can become more and more frustrated, and can adapt to the pressure of competition. The reason why we will force children is often to satisfy their own vanity, and it is important for children to be excellent, but it is more important for children to be healthy and happy physically and mentally. Life is like a marathon, some people run faster in front, some people only explode their potential in the back, and no one wins at the end. Students with strong comprehension ability will always take better exams that month, and children who are slow and half-beat do not master this exam, and they may not be able to digest it in some days. Just try your best, don't envy others, mom wants you to be a happy ordinary person.

You said that you and another classmate would clean up the dormitory every week, and the other classmates were amazed at your hard work. Fortunately, when I heard this, I was driving in the front row, and you couldn't see the anxiety I began to have, and you couldn't see the words I tried to restrain myself from rushing out: "Baby, spend more time studying, and the exam did not do the hygiene item." "I shame on my shallowness: isn't survival skill a compulsory part of life?

Yesterday I accidentally cut my fingers when cutting vegetables, you helped me take a bath and wash my clothes, and today when I want to go back to school, I still have thousands of instructions, let me hurt my hands carefully not to touch the water, not to infect bacteria. Do you know how touched mom is? My sweet little cotton jacket! How precious it is for a person to learn to be grateful and give back to others!

The most valuable thing about people is to be able to summarize experience in exploration, grow up in introspection, children, I am also a new mother, even if I do my best, but each child at each stage of the problem is endless, the mother will inevitably be caught off guard, coping and handling methods will also have a lot of deficiencies. But mom is willing to squat down and be your best listener, mom is willing to keep the same height as you to see the world with you, and accompany you to learn and grow together. Boy, let's take it slow!