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In "Ideal City", I still like the role of Xu Feng.
Especially the passage that Xu Feng shouted at Li Xue:
"You are better than her, a girl from an ordinary family in a third-tier city, relying on academic excellence to enter such an old company as Zhongjian, staying in this city, obtaining a first-class cost division certificate, she relies on herself every step, she can only rely on herself, you, you stand condescendingly, is it by your own ability?" The house, the car, the future, which is not your origin for you. At the same starting point, you can't win her at all, no one has a life of spring, and no one has a lifetime of winter. ”
Did Zhou Jun choose Li Xue because Li Xue was better than Su Xiao?
To put it bluntly, he is because Li Xue's family is good, Li Xue's identity should be a local girl in Shanghai, with a house and a car and a good origin, working in the Construction Committee, or Zhou Jun's superior. Zhou Jun chose Li Xue entirely because her external conditions were better than Su Xiao's, but her real person was not as good as Su Xiao's.
A person's external conditions will change, and when a person falls in love with your conditions, then you have been calculated by him.
Zhou Jun abandoned Su Xiao and was with Li Xue because he didn't want to make himself so difficult, he was a very realistic man. Zhou Jun belongs to the kind of "phoenix man" from a small city, they want to find an urban only child with good conditions, once climbed, they can cross the class from now on, life will be much easier, they want to take shortcuts, have plans, have calculations, they will not be grateful and really love the city peacock women, and they only have full of calculations in their hearts.
There are indeed some girls in big cities who have good family conditions who are quite stupid, and they stubbornly think that men choose them because they are excellent, where they are excellent, but they just want to get more benefits from you. When you have little use for him, or he is more capable than you, sooner or later he will hurt you emotionally and even abandon you.
They approach you not because of love, but because the benefits outweigh love, or there is no love at all.
Don't look at you to help him a lot, give him a lot of benefits, but he will not appreciate you, he will hide his true self in front of you, he will feel that you look down on him behind his back, and he will secretly make up his mind, "Wait, one day I will be better than you", they often have a strong sense of self-esteem, a moment of respect for you, may beat you to the nose and face swollen.
No one has a life of spring, and no one has a lifetime of winter.
Li Xue may have been proud and felt that she had won Su Xiao, but in fact, from the moment she was with Zhou Jun, her winter had slowly begun.
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Zhou Jun and Su Xiao, they are young people who came to Shanghai from a small third-tier city to work hard, and they are both high-achieving students who graduated from Hitachi University of Technology. The two have been together for a long time, their hometown is in one place, their parents have also met, the relationship is not bad, they are still college classmates. The students all thought that Su Xiao and Zhou Jun would get married, but who knows, Zhou Jun split his legs.
What's more ironic?
Su Xiao also went to happily try on wedding dresses and dresses, she also asked Zhou Jun to help her see what kind of shoes to choose, she also considered for Zhou Jun, saying "Let's rent a house and get married." As a result, Zhou Jun had already cheated on his female boss behind her back. Su Xiao has been kept in the dark, and some colleagues in her company know it, but she doesn't know it.
Li Xue was aware of Su Xiao's existence at the beginning, and she knew that Su Xiao was Zhou Jun's girlfriend, but she didn't care. Not only did she not care, she was also hostile to Su Xiao, waiting for the day when Zhou Jun would break up with Su Xiao.
How did Zhou Jun defend himself?
He said: "There are a lot of things I don't want you to face because I want to protect you. You know that I have not changed my mind, and I have only you in my heart from beginning to end. You look at the problem always only look at the surface, do you think I will really like that Li Xue? Xiao Xiao, you know, if no one carries the weight for you, will you simply go down? I want to give you a home, I want to give you a perfect wedding, but I'm really tired. ”
Zhou Jun loves Su Xiao, but he loves himself more, and Zhou Jun has no love for Li Xue at all, only use. In order to climb up to Li Xue, he did not hesitate to abandon his fiancée, and did not hesitate to bear the burden of humiliation, and his hidden forbearance would one day become revenge, and it would also be eaten back on Li Xue.
"I am the best and best child in our family home, but you see what kind of mix I am now, I want to marry my own beloved girl, I can't afford to pay the down payment of a house, I can't breathe, I don't want to live this humble life anymore." 」
Zhou Jun was forced to choose Li Xue because he was crushed by reality.
The more forbearing he is, the less grateful and loving he is to Li Xue, but only to retaliate.
Although Zhou Jun got a lot of benefits from Li Xue, he would count all the accounts, others look down on him, including some people's ridicule of him, to Li Xue's head. When Li Xue is useful to him, he will continue to be patient, once he has more ability than Li Xue, or after marrying Li Xue, Li Xue is busy with the family and can't be separated, at this time, Zhou Jun will begin to retaliate against Li Xue.
Zhou Jun betrayed his soul, and this betrayal was voluntary and forced, and he was not so willing.
03
Is Li Xue jealous of Su Xiao?
Hate, but after Zhou Jun chose her, she felt that she had won. Some women are very stupid, they are very happy to fight with women, but ignore the men caught in it, what is the real purpose of approaching you? Li Xue has a sense of pride in her bones, so when Zhou Jun chooses her, she will feel that it is her own excellence, rather than having other purposes, but this is just an illusion.
Women don't want to admit that they are inferior to other women, especially the kind of women who look better than themselves.
But you just don't have anyone to be good, and you have to admit that this objective gap exists.
Li Xue deliberately couldn't get over With Su Xiao on the cost engineer's certificate, she just deliberately tried to make Su Xiao difficult, who let Su Xiao be Zhou Jun's ex-girlfriend, she wanted to straighten her out and make her feel bad. So you see, how small is the pattern of some women, thinking about fighting with women all day long, robbing men with women, is it interesting? Do you think you really win if you win? The treasure you think you have, but it is just a garbage, or a poison, will drag you into the water.
I watched the trailer, there is a clip of Li Xue wearing a wedding dress, it may be that she is going to marry Zhou Jun, but she will not have a good result. A man who carefully calculates you before marriage, a man who only wants to take advantage of you, you are just a tool to climb up.
Why is it that once an urban only child provokes a "phoenix man", there will be no good results?
Phoenix men belong to high-quality young men, they are highly educated, and they are respectful to you, but they love not you as a person, but your additional conditions, your origin, and your innate sense of superiority. When they get this from you, they think about how to torture you, because your aura has tormented him, and he wants you to taste it.
It's just so realistic and naked.
I advise a girl like Li Xue to stay away from Zhou Jun as soon as possible, instead of feeling that if she pries someone else's boyfriend, she will win. With this kind of thinking, the pattern is too small, too ridiculous, and it is not far from misfortune.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.