<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="01" > from scratch, we are melons on bitter vines</h1>
I am 52 years old this year, people of our age, children accept and identify with traditional concepts, such as love should be single-minded, such as the wife of the chaff does not go to church or something. According to the eyes of our generation, my daughter-in-law can be said to be unprovoked: diligent and clean, skillful in heart, filial piety to the elderly, husband and son, and do everything with all her heart.
To say that there is something wrong with her, from myself, it is a bit of a weak heart. But in the past two years, I have indeed felt more and more that with her, this day is always less exciting.
Let me tell you this: I don't see anything she's interested in except wiping the floor. Usually, when the children live in school, we are both at home, and that day is really like a pool of stagnant water. Sometimes I think, she should be able to have a little surprise, a little romance, a little stimulation and so on, just activate me. But somehow, it just doesn't work.
When I married my daughter-in-law, we both worked in the organs, and every month we took the little wages that we didn't have enough to eat and starve to death, and we had to save money to prepare for a child, and we had to support the elderly on both sides.
At that time, her clothes were all made by herself when she went to the foreign goods market to buy cloth heads. Two or three dollars, buy a few large and small cloth heads, compare them on the folding table, and in a moment you will make a new dress - shirt, skirt, all very fashionable.
She wore it on her body, happily very beautiful, I looked at it, but my heart was not very tasteful: a man, even his daughter-in-law's clothes could not afford to buy, but also had to take these foreign rags and pieces, on the edges, there was always a string of handwritten numbers that could not be washed off.
At that time, she had "over-the-shoulders" for almost every piece of clothing, that is, between the shoulders and the armpits, there was a seam, because it could be used to fight with two large and one small pieces of cloth, which was half the price cheaper than buying two large ones. Looking at her clothes, I thought: One day when I am developed, I will never let my wife wear clothes with shoulders again.
After giving birth to a daughter, she has no milk, and she is not willing to give her children too bad milk powder, so that every month, the money to raise children is a heavy burden for us. There was no way, I had to save it from the mouth of the adult, boil the shrimp skin and boil the cabbage, and eat it so that we both had green faces.
Since then, I have planned to leave my job without pay and go to the sea to do business. After the Spring Festival in 1992, I began to try to do business on my own. I set up a stall on Binjiang Road to sell clothing, and then I went to Liuwei Road to open a restaurant. Later, a friend pulled me to make stocks with him, and I tried my best to raise ten thousand yuan to make "Ben'er", which really began to snowball money.
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="02" > days are good, she played with me rich and noble</h1>
After getting rich, I thought that my life should be more flavorful. But people are good, "hard and simple never forget." There is a friend party or something, the wife of the family is decent and glamorous, lining her always gray face.
Men are a bit vain, right? Take your own daughter-in-law out, even if you can't say that you can't give your husband a long face, at least, don't make people think that we have fallen.
You say this hair, every day so close bar put together a bundle of leather bands, 30 years consistent system. I told her that we were getting thinner and thinner, and that the hair that was like clear soup noodles was not good. I'll take you to the hair salon to perm your hair and make a good deal out of it.
When she heard this, her face "clicked" and fell off, and she talked to me nonsense: I think I'm old, right? Who said they liked my straight hair in the first place—you said it was twenty and fifty, could it be the same?
Later, although I barely went to burn my head, but after returning, 120 were not happy, the more I didn't like to look, and the more I looked in the mirror, the more I complained over and over again that I had a bad idea: spend 2,000 yuan to make such a thing, like an old bird's nest! There is nothing bad about having this spare money, donating it to the Hope Project, and also accumulating virtue and doing good. This is good, spend money to find disfigurement, this does not burn the bag?
I wondered, a good hairstyle, young and fashionable, how can it become disfigured?
Later, after pondering, she tasted something: she felt that two thousand yuan was too expensive, spent a lot of money and did not meet expectations, and her heart was unbalanced- everything was the same, as long as it was expensive, it was not good anywhere; cheap, then all the problems could be included.
You say this lesbian underwear, what kind of non-existent in the store now? She is not short of money, she has to run to the morning market to buy the 10 pieces of 20 pieces, buy back and sit on the seam ah sewn, said that it is to save the line.
Oops I'm upset to see this! Tell her you're making such a mess, why? Haven't worn it yet, first sew and mend it, buy two decent wears, and let us be smooth to the eye?
She asked me: What's so decent about that thing that's wearing inside? I'm not a lady, who's wearing such fancy underwear?
<h1 class="pgc-h-decimal" data-index="03" > repeated failures, I think marriage has become a chicken rib</h1>
September 28th of this year marks the 25th anniversary of our marriage. The girlfriend gave her a week in advance, saying that she wanted to celebrate and asked me what interesting and not tacky gifts I planned to send to her mother. I didn't think about it for half a day, so I asked my girlfriend to give an idea.
The girlfriend thought about it and said, send my mother a good pajama. Now who still wears autumn clothes and autumn pants to sleep, like an old lady, not good-looking.
I said I don't know anything about this, a big man, and can't run to the store, chasing the little girl who sells underwear and asking east and west, this is not like that thing. The girlfriend laughed at me and said think about it too. Well, the matter of picking clothes is wrapped up in me, and you will get reimbursed when the time comes, and the gift will still be yours.
When I bought my pajamas and looked at them, they seemed to be called some kind of lace, and the black gauze was embroidered with flowers, and I thought it was very good-looking. After giving it to her, both of us urged her to quickly put it on for us to see.
Waiting for half a day, she came out twisting and turning, complaining that I burned the bag, saying that it was not what she was wearing at all, and at the same time shaking the big belly sac under her gauze net with me. It was over again, and Balabala complained endlessly.
I felt the disappointment I had never felt before, and I thought that this man was really boring. For a moment I even thought, if this continues, I will be finished.
So these days I am also very annoying, good days, how to be like chicken ribs, let people can not say the white greasy.
But to say it, I really can't make up my mind for a while. People came to us at our hardest time, a woman's most essence of 25 years have been given to us, I am now mixed up, halfway to throw people down, inappropriate.
But relying entirely on morality to maintain this marriage, I feel bottomless in my heart, I don't know if I can survive to the end, or how long I can last.
Jane said:
In the TV series "You Are My Brother", there is such a plot: after the old man Ma learned martial arts and became rich, he handed his wife Xiao Hongmei ten thousand yuan and asked her to buy some decent clothes.
In the evening, Xiao Hongmei, who was full of happiness, took out the newly purchased clothes with a drunken face, and wore them to him one by one like a catwalk. Ma Xuewu, who was sitting at the head of the bed soaking his feet, was still a little curious at first, and when he saw that what followed was nothing more than the same road goods, he gradually became absent-minded.
In Xiao Hongmei's eager and attentive inquiry, he just glanced at it casually, while perfunctorily "looking good", while sideways and twisting his neck around Xiao Hongmei in front of him, and looked at the sketch with relish.
Xiao Hongmei, who spent more than five hundred yuan to buy clothes for herself for the first time in more than ten years, originally thought that these five hundred yuan was a reward for herself, but she did not expect that "this one, this one" was asked all the way down, and Ma Xuewu's last words in his heart were: Can we not buy these five hundred yuan and a bunch of clothes in the future?
Xiao Hongmei saw the situation and said sadly: I am old, and what I wear is not the same. That empty look made people see an inexplicable sadness in their hearts.
From the mouth of men who have "made a small gain" in making money, I believe many people have heard such words: women do not spend money, and men have no motivation to struggle.
Every time I hear such a thing, I think: Maybe in the bones of men, there is a little bit of "meanness":
The knotted wife who followed him to build a nest in the mud, because she pitied his hard work of making money, and carefully saved for him, but he resented that he was born poor, and the mud could not be on the wall;
And the women in the outside world who spend a lot of money to "pick peaches" are particularly favored because they know how to use his credit card to create thousands of styles.
With the continuous improvement of people's living standards, people, especially men, have long ceased to be diligent and frugal about the standard of good women.
There is nothing wrong with this - people's needs are originally 5 levels from low to high, and the women they expect have taste, interest, and charm, which is not only a seven-colored flower to enhance women's own charm and quality of life, but also an activation code to keep marriage and family life active.
So as a woman, you should save and save, and spend money and spend money. Don't let yourself become gray and boring because of excessive frugality. Turn around and let the little three who are hiding in the doorway coveting the fruits of our victory take advantage of the void, sleep with our men, live in our rooms, spend our savings, beat our babies... Can't do it.