I've seen an advertising slogan: there is no best, only better. What are the conditions for determining whether a person becomes better? Is it a person's talent or a person's IQ or emotional intelligence? Psychologist Carol Dweck argues that none of this is. She believes that people are different because they see the world differently. She believes that human growth requires a lifetime of hard work, only by continuous effort, people will continue to grow and succeed.
1． Different ways of thinking, people deal with things differently.
Dweck divided people's thinking patterns into fixed thinking patterns and growth mindsets.
What is a fixed mindset? A fixed mindset is to think that human abilities are innate and will not change.
People with fixed thinking patterns, their biggest feature is to spend a lifetime to prove their ability. They can't tolerate other people's opinions or suggestions about them, and sometimes they are even a little arbitrary.
People with a fixed mindset often see immediate results. When you encounter a little setback the size of a needle tip, you will label yourself as "I am a loser", and then you will complain, but never complain about yourself. They boil down all problems to the outside world and the disagreement of others. Late in the morning, the strange alarm did not ring; did not test well, blame the test questions are too difficult; did not bring an umbrella, blame the old rain, anyway, there are reasons not to blame themselves.
People with fixed mindsets always don't have an accurate evaluation of themselves. They tend to exaggerate their abilities and thus cover up their shortcomings. They show a sense of superiority. They always think, "I'm better than you, I'm more capable than you, so you're not qualified to give me advice, and you're not qualified to judge me."
What is a growth mindset?
The growth mindset is to believe that people's abilities can be cultivated and potential can be continuously tapped. No matter what kind of birth a person is born with, whether he has a unique talent, as long as this person is willing to work hard, he will definitely make himself better and better.
People with a growth mindset, they never prove anything to others, they only have to work hard in their lives, try to get things done, try to make themselves better.
They never label themselves. When they are late for work, they will set the alarm clock early the next day, the exam is not good, they will re-formulate the revision plan, and carefully review. In their eyes, there is no failure, there is just the process of effort and the direction of progress.
People with a growth mindset evaluate themselves particularly accurately, even to surprisingly precise points. They know themselves very well, so they will use constant efforts to achieve their dreams and make themselves better and better.
2． An interpretation of success in two mindsets.
People with a fixed mindset believe that success is a proof that they are capable, that they are talented, that they have a high IQ or high emotional intelligence when dealing with something. They never think that their success is related to hard work, but to their own talent.
Every time they succeed, they are to prove that they are different from others. When one day they encounter insurmountable difficulties, they will protect themselves from others to see their shortcomings and deficiencies.
People with a growth mindset are different. They think that their success is achieved by their own hard work, their own success is only a progress of their own, they will put down the current achievements and continue to work hard.
There was once one of America's most popular female soccer players, and her name was Mia Hamm. She first started playing soccer because her brother was playing soccer. Later, when she was ten years old, she joined a football team of eleven-year-old boys, and girls had to play football with boys, and how much effort it took!
But she persevered and eventually joined the number one college soccer team in the United States. She has been running on the football field since she was a child and has never stopped trying.
In her words, "I've been trying all my life, always trying to challenge myself to compete with athletes who are older, stronger, more skilled and experienced than me, that is, people who are better than me".
Success is the result of a person's continuous efforts, not a proof of a person's ability.
3. As long as you are willing to work hard, everyone will become very good
What would you do if you were a teacher facing a group of the worst students in the school? Is it laissez-faire or find a way to get them to work hard to improve their academic performance?
Garfield High School in the United States, which is known as the worst high school in Los Angeles, has students who refuse to learn and whose teachers feel exhausted and unable to teach them. It was in this case that Jamie Lanska was sent to teach calculus to these children.
Confronted with a group of poor students, Jamie Escalante asks himself, "How should I teach them so that they can learn the best?" Instead of "Can I teach them?" Can they learn? "
Jamie Escalante has been studying how to teach students, how to teach them to make these poor children fall in love with learning. The result? As a result, Jamie Escalant not only taught these children calculus, but also got them to do well.
Coincidentally, there is also such an outstanding education expert, excellent teacher and successful parent in China, who sent all 55 students of a class he received to a class that was not excellent into the university campus in 2003, and 37 people entered Tsinghua and Peking University, and 10 entered Wang Jinzhan of Cambridge University, Oxford University, Yale University and other famous universities in the United States.
Teacher Wang Jinzhan's daughter was not a very good child when people said to be at first, but with the constant encouragement of her father, she was finally admitted to Peking University.
The way Ms. Wang educates her students is a typical growth mindset. He always said "good boys are exaggerated". It can be seen that as long as the method is appropriate and willing to work hard, no one in this world can not succeed.
As long as you are willing to change, everything will get better and better. Isn't it?