In the past, China was a big family system, and the entire social form was the family as the smallest unit.
Ancient China attached the greatest importance to family education, Confucius talked about the five lun, there are three kinds of ethics and morality in the family, for example, father and son have relatives, husband and wife are different, and the elder and young are orderly.
In ancient times, family happiness was the basis of social stability.
In today's current society, family happiness is still fundamental to the healthy development of our society.
Family happiness is inseparable from the harmonious coexistence of husband and wife, so how do couples get along after marriage, and the marriage will be happy and satisfying? We have summarized the following three points according to the wisdom of the ancients.
First, the daughter-in-law and the "happy husband" must like their husband
Women should like their husbands after marriage, and if a woman only likes the man's money or the man's looks, the end of this marriage often ends in misery.
A woman who likes her husband is a qualified daughter-in-law, and a husband who likes someone else becomes a bad daughter-in-law. The harmony and happiness of marriage is not only based on the economy, but also on the core of feelings, and the husband and wife love each other, understand and tolerate each other, in order to share happiness and hardship and move towards happiness.
2. A husband is one's own husband within one's own, and outside one's is someone else's husband
If the previous one is for women, then this one is for men. Men's married life may be more constrained than in the past, and men after marriage should also collect their past playful hearts, and put their bodies and minds into work and family as soon as possible, rather than drinking and playing cards until late at night, or going out for half a month without going home, and even getting into trouble everywhere, this kind of man has not learned how to be a husband, nor has he experienced the profound meaning of the two words of husband, and the husband should accompany his family more and leave his leisure time to live with his wife.
Third, the male is the heaven, and the female is the earth
The union of a man and a woman becomes a husband and wife, which conforms to the law of natural development, in nature, if the wind and rain are smooth, the grain is abundant, and if the heavens and the earth are not together, everything suffers. After we become husband and wife in the world, the most important thing is to have children and nurture the next generation, if you are noisy all day long, separated, the most hurt is your own children, parents are the first teachers of their children, and teaching is more important than words, and the little bits and pieces of husband and wife getting along with each other will have a subtle impact on their children, it can be seen that the impact of husband and wife living in harmony on their children is not insignificant.
The above are a few small feelings about life after marriage, not much to say, very shallow.
Many men and women who live after marriage have more or less encountered emotional ups and downs, and if they want to know where the problem is, they must not go to each other to find the answer, but look back at themselves, as wives and husbands, whether they have scrupulously fulfilled their duties, whether they have kept their own peace, whether they have fulfilled their wives' obligations, and whether they have fulfilled their husbands' responsibilities.