Children under the age of three often cry to express the way they know the world. Reading the logic behind the child's crying can work with the child to cultivate emotional management skills, release the child's nature, and stimulate the child's internal drive through creativity.
Doing a good job of emotional management can not only channel children's emotions, but also cultivate children's ability to resist setbacks.
Young mothers are often overwhelmed by their children's crying, and even emotional outbursts. Because young children lack corresponding expression words, they have to use crying to express their feelings and feelings. In fact, when children are out of control, they themselves will be afraid.
When the child is crying, it is usually the child's heart that is experiencing a struggle with emotions.
How to see the child's heart and emotions, and this step guides the child to learn to manage emotions, learn to think independently, and express themselves? Adapting to The Nature of Children: A Book of Private Parenting for British Mothers, written by An Xiao and published by Democracy and Construction Press. In this book, the author sees the child's words and deeds, sees the child's nature, discovers the child's talent, guides the child to learn self-emotional management, and opens the child's internal drive.
An Xiao, the author of "Adapting to Children's Nature: The Inner Driving Force of British Mothers' Private Parenting Book", is not only a mother of two children, but also a comic book author and animation director, currently studying child psychology at the University of London. An Xiao's more than 600 original articles published on the public account have attracted the attention of many mothers. Ordinary mothers start from An Xiao's parenting stories, parenting thinking, parenting inspiration and parent-child games, and observe their children's words and deeds in daily life parenting, in parent-child care games, and from children's joys and sorrows, and release their children's nature and creativity.
In "Conforming to the Nature of children: The Internal Drive of British Mothers' Private Parenting Book", the author divides the content of parenting into three parts: seeing nature and discovering children's talents; understanding nature and empowering children with security; releasing nature and stimulating children's internal drive with creativity. Discovering the child's nature and understanding the child can be more relaxed and comfortable in the daily relationship with the child; it will guide the child to open the child's internal drive, so that the child can face the difficulties and changes in the future and participate bravely and actively.
When the author An Xiao was a child, because her mother was busy at work, she gave her a lot of time and space, told her that creative activities only need to be created all the time, and expressed her belief that she could arrange her own time.
The author brings her creative ability and hobby into her own daily parenting life, through observing the child's words and deeds, thinking, through recording and consulting materials, flipping through books, opening the secret behind the child's words and deeds.
For example, a one-year-old baby likes to throw things, and the author classifies the reasons into three categories: one is that the baby wants to experience the phenomenon of gravity; the other is that the baby wants to explore the causal relationship between the two through his own body movements and the role of objects; and the third is that the baby hopes to cause the adult's reaction to get attention. After figuring out these three reasons, you can design a corresponding game for the baby in the future for the baby's behavior of throwing things.
As your baby gets older, cognitive abilities increase and language develops. So how to enrich your child's language vocabulary? Still inseparable from the game. For example, when practicing vocabulary to express feelings, you can express joy and sorrow through actions, emotional performances, or the use of toys to interpret emotions. In the process of completion, pay attention to the corresponding emotional vocabulary corresponding to the corresponding expression, so that the child can match the expression and vocabulary.
As children grow older, three-year-olds like to say "no." This is because the brain of a three-year-old child is very active, hoping to explain things rationally, but it conflicts with the logic and emotions accumulated by himself, which forms a small rebellion of the child. At this time, parents should know how to control their emotions, and at the same time use language to patiently explain to their children, the logical relationship between behaviors and things, and then communicate with their children through games, solve the children's emotional barriers, and alleviate the children's emotions.
How to alleviate the intense emotions that children have erupted due to "not getting"? At this time, it is very challenging for parents' emotions and control ability. If you comply with the child's requirements, it is easy to develop the habit of coddling; if you forcibly oppose the child's requirements, then it is easy to develop the child's cowardly character. This is when you can use a wish list to relieve emotions.
Writing the child's wishes on the list can delay the child's desire to face material things on the one hand, and also let the child think about his relationship with things. Don't underestimate a small wish list, this wish list allows children to gradually understand and accept their emotions, but also gradually find their relationship with material and desire.
The author An Xiao is a mother who likes to create and thinks, and is full of creative thoughts in the process of getting along with her children. Children don't like to eat, don't want to go to bed, or grab toys with other children. Authors can interact with children through the "anthropomorphic deduction method" to untie children's knots and cultivate children's habits.
Why is "anthropomorphic deduction" popular? Because 2-4 year old children think that everything is alive and intentional. At this time, the mother can voice things, and the children can believe and accept these characters, and communicate with them. When dubbing things, we have to stand in the child's point of view, so we have to use funny different voices to play the roles of multiple objects.
Through role playing again and again, interpreting various conflicts, children will gradually understand the way to resolve conflicts, as well as apologizing and reconciling, taking turns to play, sharing, playing together, etc.
The child's nature needs to be seen, it needs to be released, and creativity needs to be used to stimulate the child's internal drive. "Conforming to the Nature of the Child: The Inner Driving Force of British Mothers' Private Parenting Book", through the author's interesting process of raising children, it turns out that ordinary mothers can also raise excellent children.