Some time ago, the TV series "Xiao Shede", which focused on the problem of middle-class family education, strongly exported chicken baby anxiety and caused heated discussions, and even some people said that it was "selling anxiety". It is worth noting that in the play, the child's academic performance is so anxious that almost all means are used by the mother, and the father is relatively more "Buddhist", mainly playing the role of "easing the relationship". This is because mothers have always taken most of the responsibility in homeschooling, worrying about every aspect of their children to the point of becoming anxious.
But such situations often go unnoticed by us. Homeschooling is not as easy as we think, and in addition to that, moms have to navigate multiple intimate relationships, which is undoubtedly a greater pressure. When stress accumulates over a long period of time, anxiety can be formed. Moms are not superhuman, there are complex and diverse reasons behind their anxiety, and society has a responsibility to care about the situation of each mother.
The book "Mothers Who Understand Psychology Are Amazing" is committed to helping mothers solve the complex "relationship" problems they face in their daily lives, and integrate professional psychological knowledge into plain language to make the problems clear and easy to understand. The author of this book, Jiang Xianzhi, as a psychological counselor and psychology columnist, has witnessed the distress of countless mothers on various occasions many times. We can see in this book the responsibility of a counselor who uses his expertise to keenly approach the three-fold relationship and to sincerely offer his own suggestions.
Although the mother usually faces three kinds of relationships: parent-child, husband and wife, and self, the self-relationship must be the cornerstone of all interpersonal relationships. Learn to get along with yourself, learn to pay attention to your own feelings in order to better pay attention to the feelings of others, so as to establish a positive relationship in sincere communication and experience a happier life.
The key to dealing with one's relationship with oneself is to realize that everything except the self is uncontrollable. Whenever we make a mistake, we always hope to turn back the clock, and if we can go back to the past, we can definitely change everything and make up for our regrets. In fact, the more we think this way, the deeper we will be stuffed in our self-blame.
The author tells us in the book the fact that due to various conditions, even if we go back to the past and repeat it again, we will still make the same choice, and the consequences that happened before will also happen, and nothing will change. The only thing we can do is abandon the "false sense of control" and stop fantasizing about being in control of the past and the future. Because only by doing a good job of our current self can we better control our future life.