Author: Insights and Thoughts
Being misunderstood is the fate of the expressor.
In 1848, Dumas wrote a love affair from his past into a novel," La Traviata.
As soon as the novel was published, it caused a sensation in the entire French literary world.
The heroine of the novel, Margaret, fell into the dust due to poverty, but in her heart she always expected to be understood and read.
Until he met Armand, he dedicated his heart under the passionate pursuit of the other party, thinking that he could finally harvest the ideal happiness.
As everyone knows, this is precisely the beginning of her tragic fate.
In order to prove herself and guard love, Margaret paid the price of her life.
Margaret loved camellias in her life, so she was called "La Traviata", and the flower language of Camellia is: ideal love.
Just as no camellia does not wither, the tragedy of the decadent death of the traviata also hints at a heart-wrenching truth:
In fact, there is no so-called ideal love in this world, and there is no real empathy.
The higher you expect anything from anyone, the more disappointed you tend to be.
After all, your own life can only rely on yourself to go well.
Being misunderstood is the norm in life.
At the beginning of the story, Margaret is a high-profile socialite in Parisian high society.
But behind her seemingly infinite scenery, there is a deep sense of helplessness that has to fall into the wind and dust.
Margaret came from a remote and poor rural area, her parents died early, and her sister was her only living relative.
After coming to Paris, she was alone in a foreign country, and she could only make a living by selling laughter.
Although in the social circle of people and bustling luxury, Margaret has always been sober and stubborn.
She did not want to be an impatient dusty woman, and she did not want to be despised for this, so she always tried to prove herself in some way.
She never makes friends with female companions in the same circle, and is often alone and alone;
In private, she will deliberately dress up simple and simple to avoid attracting attention;
She loves to read, the bedroom bookcase is full of books, and she pays great attention to the improvement of her cultural level and aesthetic taste.
Margaret longs to be a pure lotus that does not lose her heart, even if she is trapped in the mud, she must maintain a posture of mud and not staining.
Unfortunately, no matter what she does, it cannot change the inherent evaluation of her by the outside world.
No matter how much she had the heart to prove herself, no one believed how noble a prostitute could be, let alone take the trouble to understand her, to give her care and sympathy.
As Dumas jr. said in the book through Duval's mouth:
"Only a woman who is perfectly chaste has perfectly pure feelings."
Discrimination comes from prejudice, and all prejudice is a mountain in the hearts of others, and no matter how hard you try, you can't move it.
When Margaret was in her prime, there were many people around her, but before she died, she was bedridden for two months, and no one came to see her.
In the eyes of the princes and nobles, a woman like her was destined to be just a plaything that could be discarded at any time.
Even after her death, people still looked at her with colored eyes and proposed to classify her and bury her in a special cemetery.
How pathetic.
But the helplessness of life often lies in this, and what you are seen by others is often not the most real side of yourself.
Sometimes, the more you talk and the more you do, the easier it is to be misunderstood.
Because others are only willing to believe in the parts of themselves that they want to believe.
To be understood is the demand of the expressor, but in the end, we all have to admit that being misunderstood is the fate of the expressor.
No one can really understand you.
The acquaintance with Armand was at the beginning of Margaret's greatest fame.
At that time, there was no shortage of suitors around her.
The reason why Armand can impress Margaret's heart is not because he is rich and powerful, but because he makes her feel a rare sincerity.
In fact, at first, Margaret did not trust Armand, but since learning that the other party insisted on inquiring about the illness every day during her illness, she changed her indifferent attitude towards him.
At a later party, Margaret suffered a lung attack and hurried to find an excuse to leave the table.
None of the others present cared about it, and only Armand saw her panic and helplessness and shed tears of concern for her condition.
He took the opportunity to confess to her and tell her that he was willing to be by her side at all times.
"I dare to swear to you that no one loves you as much as I do."
It is said that the most rare thing in life is that someone understands, and at this moment, Margaret, who is already lonely and fragile in her heart, finally feels the joy of being read.
So, knowing that there were many obstacles, Margaret decided to accept the feeling.
She was making a bet that Armand was the one she had been looking forward to for a long time.
At the beginning of the relationship, he did bring her happiness.
He indulges her little waywardness and will tell her sweet love words.
In the countryside, far from the hustle and bustle of Paris, Margaret was able to realize the dream she had long wished for, and together with Armand, she spent a quiet and comfortable life.
But after a short romance, the test of reality soon comes.
Until then, their lavish life had come from the Duke's financial support for Margaret, and upon learning that she was in love, the Duke refused to help her.
Deprived of financial resources, Armand has no income from work, and their lives are becoming increasingly poor.
Later, in order to take care of Armand's self-esteem and not put pressure on him, Margaret had to find ways to sell her belongings to survive.
It wasn't until Armand's father appeared and insisted that they must cut off contact that Margaret's dream of love was shattered.
This relationship, from the two feelings of mutual pleasure, and finally the worldly view.
But what really defeats them is the lack of understanding of each other.
Margaret thought Armand really loved herself, but she didn't know that he was more out of a man's compassion for women and his desire to conquer women.
Armand prides himself on being affectionate, but he never really trusted Margaret and didn't believe that she could be with him wholeheartedly.
No one is right or wrong, it can only be said that people are doomed to be completely incomprehensible.
Born lonely.
We always hope to find a lover who understands us and expect them to give us the happiness we want.
But the truth is that human sorrow and joy are not the same.
Most of the time, the stories that happen to you can only be experienced by yourself.
Even the people who love you may not be able to accompany you all the time, they will turn around at any time and leave.
The higher the expectations of others, the deeper the disappointment will only be.
I don't seek empathy, I only want to be cold and warm and self-aware.
After agreeing to Armand's father's request, Margaret chose to swallow all her grievances alone in order to fulfill her beloved.
She wrote a letter of desperation to Armand and then said goodbye.
After returning to Paris, Margaret lived a more frantic social life than before, trying to numb herself.
But even though she has come to this point, the deep desire for love in her heart still makes her miss Armand all the time.
Unfortunately, the waiting day after day is not a miracle, but revenge.
Armand decided that Margaret had betrayed herself because she loved vanity and could not resist the desire for a luxurious life.
He finds Margaret, embarrasses her at every turn, and instructs others to spread ugly stories about Margaret everywhere.
In the face of these humiliations, Margaret's heart was like a knife, but she still undertook it without complaint.
There is nothing more bitter in the world than the word of suffering.
Finally, under the double torture of body and mind, Marg fell completely ill.
During her illness, she was still looking forward to Armand's appearance every day, and until her deathbed, she was still calling his name.
She wrote him countless letters, writing every inch of acacia on paper, but she did not dare to send a single one.
She wrote in her letter: "Apart from the fact that your insult is evidence that you have always loved me, I seem to feel that the more you torture me, the more noble I will appear to you when you know the truth." ”
What a humble feeling, it makes people both heartbroken and sad.
At the end of the story, Armand finally learns the truth and is deeply remorseful.
But so what, life goes on, and one day, he will wave goodbye to the past and hug the beginning.
Margaret paid the price of her life.
Her life, because of a short and hopeless love, has since been frozen at the age of 23.
In fact, there is nothing wrong with pursuing love itself, but there is no kind of love that is worth our efforts.
At any time, love others should not exceed your own love, let alone pin your expectations on others.
Because in the end, what may really hurt you is not the desperate feelings of others, but your unrealistic fantasies.
If you want to maintain a normal mind, you must learn to slowly reduce dependence, reduce expectations, and look down on gains and losses.
The only person you can expect is yourself.
Taking good care of yourself and being kind to yourself is the fulfillment of the rest of your life.
I like a quote from the book:
"Let's forget the past, you forget an irrelevant name, and I forget the happiness that I can't hope for."
In the final analysis, it is difficult to have a complete life, what should be forgotten should be forgotten, and what should be put away should be released.
When you encounter discrimination and misunderstanding, you don't have to pay too much attention, and when you can't love, you don't have to be too demanding.
Some people are lucky to understand, but no one understands it is also the norm of life.
All the encounters in life are just a passing trip, and the final road of life is still to rely on yourself to walk slowly.
Give it a thumbs up, and may we all take back our expectations of others and be ourselves.
Even if no one can understand, there is power in the heart.
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