Author:Kiyoshi (Author of Fushu)
Confined to careers and family members, mature people have learned to have two faces, which are used to cope with the difficulties and hardships of life, and to comfort their fragile and wronged themselves.
In the novel "Alive", the protagonist's rich and noble encounter has made countless people sigh.
The rich and noble have a rough life, and their parents, children, wives, and even son-in-law and grandson have all passed away.
In his later years, only an old cattle accompanied him.
The American "Time" magazine said of Fugui: "All the disasters that have occurred in China in the past 60 years have happened to Fugui and his family. ”
I thought it was tragic literature, but I didn't expect that the scenes in the novel would also happen in real life.
In the program "Tan Talks About Traffic", there is a thin uncle who pulls three or four hundred pounds of branches and moves forward with difficulty.
No one knows the name of this great master, but they call him a realistic version of the rich.
It is said that there are three sufferings in life, losing a father at an early age, losing his wife in middle age, and losing his son in old age.
He had no one to rely on, and could only live with a stupid brother and an old yellow dog.
Uncle has to do heavy physical work every day, earning money to support his younger brother who cannot take care of himself.
Although the situation is sad, Uncle Is calm when talking about all this.
He was very optimistic, smiled and comforted the traffic police: "People should look forward, I am living well now." ”
Under this video, countless netizens commented: "Uncle's life is too bitter, and it is really painful to see his laughter." ”
Life is hard, life is not easy.
Behind everyone's smile, there is an unknown forbearance, bitterness and pain.
It is said that every middle-aged person has a soul that clenches its teeth.
The smile on the face of the middle-aged man is the last line of defense in the life of the wretched.
There is a kind of heartache called pretending to be happy
Chai Jing once said: "Behind the smiles of adults is the soul that clenches its teeth. ”
Adults are given too many responsibilities to fail, not to be weak, and not even to express their emotions at will.
As a result, adults have learned to disguise, no matter how bad life is, they can pretend that all years are quiet.
In the popular TV series "Little Joy", the male protagonist Fang Yuan is such a person.
Fang Yuan is a high-achieving student at a prestigious university and has been working as a legal officer in a large company for 20 years.
After the merger of the company, he thought he would be promoted, but he was dismissed.
There are two children who want to take the college entrance examination, renting, tuition, eating and wearing, and spending more than 10,000 a month.
Faced with huge economic pressure, Fang Yuan, after losing his job, did not dare to tell his family the truth.
He went out happily every day, pretending he was still at work.
In fact, I went to my former friends and partners and asked them to help introduce them to work.
Things didn't go as expected, and he searched for three months without a company willing to hire him.
In order to hide from his family, Fang Yuan went out to the mall every morning to hang out, and then went home in the afternoon.
Although he looked very calm, he was happy with his son, as if the days were very moist.
But his heart is very anxious, and he worries about money every day.
Fang Yuan's carefully disguised happiness was unloaded when he heard the news of Mr. Jin Yong's death.
He cried and said, "When I was young, I thought I would be a great warrior who fought with a sword to the end of the world, just like Ling Hu Chong, Yang Guo, and guo Jing, who did not expect to live for half a lifetime, but became Yue Buqun." ”
Every middle-aged person's acting skills are great, obviously the heart is full of pain, but on the surface it is nothing.
Because when people reach middle age, no one wants to be seen through their inner weakness.
So he used the happiness that pretended to be hidden to hide the deep heartache.
There is a line in the Korean drama "Please Answer 1988": "Adults are just enduring, busy with the affairs of adults, just using pretending to be strong to bear the burden of age, in fact, adults, will also hurt." ”
Adult life, every day is the rest of their lives.
Happiness is nothing more than a hard shoulder after hiding real emotions.
A smile is nothing more than a hard brace to hide the exhaustion of the heart.
The adult world, while collapsing, while trying to live
I have seen such a poignant picture on Weibo hot search.
When the new high-speed policy was first implemented last year, the high-speed toll collector Xiao Wei was insulted by drivers who did not understand the policy, and broke down and cried.
But when the next car drove to her booth, she was still in tears one second, and the next second she wiped away her tears and smiled at the driver.
Life has never been a horse, and everyone will be wronged and hurt.
But life will not stop to accompany you weak, you must not stop walking, facing difficulties.
There is a sentence in the novel "Growing Like a Metamorphosis": "There are many things in life that have to be done, and it is a destruction to reluctantly do it in the process of having to do it; it is brave to do well in having to do it." ”
Adult life, every day is in despair to find hope, in the face of adversity to spread their wings soaring.
Huang Bo once shared a story before he became famous in an interview.
At that time, he was singing in a bar to make a living, and a guest deliberately made it difficult for him, saying that he sang badly and asked him to roll off the stage.
Huang Bo was very aggrieved in his heart, and even wanted to turn his face and leave.
But he knew that if he turned around and left, he wouldn't get a penny.
In desperation, Huang Bo smiled and joked: "Then I will step down." ”
Then he walked up to the stage again and continued to say in a joking tone: "I want to sing another song "Good Luck to Those Who Like Me."" ”
The guest who was originally looking for stubble was also amused by Huang Bo and no longer embarrassed him.
Behind the compromise of middle-aged people, there is a helplessness that people cannot imagine.
Behind the tolerance of middle-aged people, there is a helplessness that they cannot bear to say.
There is no middle-aged man who did not grow up with grievances.
Who is not collapsing while trying to live.
As Zhang Ailing said: "Laugh, the whole world laughs with you; crying, you cry alone." The grievances of adults cannot be shared with others. ”
With tears in the corners of their eyes and stubbornness in the corners of their mouths, this is the extraordinary thing about every ordinary middle-aged person.
Truly mature people have two faces
The burden on middle-aged people is very heavy, and they must take care of the elderly to enjoy their old age and care for their children to grow up happily.
Confined to careers and family members, mature people learn to have two faces.
A face is used to cope with the difficulties and hardships of life.
A face is used to comfort the fragile and wronged self.
In the American movie "Marley and Me", the male protagonist is a model of a middle-aged man.
After John's wife became pregnant, she resigned to become a full-time housewife and kept the family in order.
Then, the family changed to a big house.
John's work was also booming, and the editor-in-chief asked him to write a new column and double his salary.
To outsiders, John's life was very happy.
But only John himself knew, and he had his own emotions and pressures.
If you want to be promoted and raised in the workplace, you must not only fight for strength, but also be vigilant against the cunning of villains.
In the face of wives and children who need to be supported, as a husband, you not only need to earn money to support your family, but also be considerate of your wife and accompany your children.
On this day, after John got off work, sad emotions came to his face.
After he drove home, he did not get out of the car immediately, but sat in the car for a while.
The fast pace of the media industry has left him exhausted, adding a new life to his home and taking care of his children.
John had a vulnerability in his eyes that would not be revealed before a person, and his hands were holding his head, which was very decadent.
Staying in the car, John was physically and mentally exhausted.
And when he opened the car door, he seemed to have changed into a person.
The haze had just cleared away, and John was the head of the omnipotent family.
The life of middle-aged people is more or less like this, heartache and grievances can only be known by themselves, cheerful and confident to let others see.
There is a saying: "As soon as an adult opens his eyes, he is surrounded by people who depend on him, but there are no people he can rely on." ”
Sad, but pretend to be optimistic. Desperate, but pretend to be hopeful.
Obviously not so strong, but you have to be calm and calm, pretending that everything is under control.
Therefore, middle-aged people have two faces, which is not hypocrisy, but maturity, and it is to exchange their grievances for the quiet years of the people around them.
When people reach middle age, they learn to "sell laughter"
When I was a child, I laughed because I was happy.
People do not understand until middle age that a smile is just an expression and has nothing to do with happiness.
As the lyrics sing: "You're not really happy, your laughter is just the protective color you wear." ”
When we were teenagers, we were all full of spirits, reckless, and regarded ourselves as more important than anything else.
Now that half a life has passed, I understand that I have been wronged and can hold up the scene, which is what life should look like.
Life, rich or poor, do not seek to be as good as people want, but ask for a sense of shame.
In this middle-aged man who grits his teeth, we still need to put on a mask and laugh at him.
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